What do you think girls?????

[Hopeful and in love]

I posted last year around the beginning of November about a situation I had within my relationship. Laconically speaking, I dated a woman for about a year and six months. On our sixth month I allowed something to start with another woman while I was questioning her feelings for me and felt like I wasn't changing her and making her forget her rough past. I ended the the other situation five minutes after it started and told that girl that I couln't do this. She felt rejected and told my girlfriend. She admitted her malicious ways to my girl and told her that I did end it right away. My girl believes me, but felt hurt by my betrayal anyway. Which is normal,especially because she found her x with another. So she came from a cold place from the start.

 

My deal is that I'm in love with her and have been completely with her until that happened, which was six months before. Yep, it took that #@#$ six months to get my girlfriend's number by doing her Columbo work. Now my situation is as follows:

 

I saw my love yesterday and talked about everything. I haven't seen her since October and the feelings were completely there. She told me to understand her about how

 

she is not ready to be emotional with me again in any aspect

 

of a relationship. But tells me that she loves and we kissed passionately last night. What does that mean?? I'm so lost!

 

My question is, if I bought a pre-engagement ring and tell her that she is my world and I can't be without her, would

 

she listen? I don't have closure because she doesn't tell me

 

anything when I ask her if I have a chance with her and if she sees me in her future. She says she can't answer that.

 

I just want a fresh start. Meaning I want the opportunity to sweep her off her feet again and make her fall in love with me once more. I want to tell her that the ring exemplifies my heart and how it begs for her fogiveness. It exemplifies how much she means to me and how I want to take it slow again and show her I mean it. I haven't even dated since her because I love her. How would she perceive this???????? Am I wrong?? Should I let it go?? Would she get angry with this gesture?? Help!!!!!!!!!

[Hopeful and in love]

I posted last year around the beginning of November about a situation I had within my relationship. Laconically speaking, I dated a woman for about a year and six months. On our sixth month I allowed something to start with another woman while I was questioning her feelings for me and felt like I wasn't changing her and making her forget her rough past. I ended the the other situation five minutes after it started and told that girl that I couln't do this. She felt rejected and told my girlfriend. She admitted her malicious ways to my girl and told her that I did end it right away. My girl believes me, but felt hurt by my betrayal anyway. Which is normal,especially because she found her x with another. So she came from a cold place from the start. My deal is that I'm in love with her and have been completely with her until that happened, which was six months before. Yep, it took that #@#$ six months to get my girlfriend's number by doing her Columbo work. Now my situation is as follows: I saw my love yesterday and talked about everything. I haven't seen her since October and the feelings were completely there. She told me to understand her about how she is not ready to be emotional with me again in any aspect of a relationship. But tells me that she loves and we kissed passionately last night. What does that mean?? I'm so lost! My question is, if I bought a pre-engagement ring and tell her that she is my world and I can't be without her, would she listen? I don't have closure because she doesn't tell me anything when I ask her if I have a chance with her and if she sees me in her future. She says she can't answer that. I just want a fresh start. Meaning I want the opportunity to sweep her off her feet again and make her fall in love with me once more. I want to tell her that the ring exemplifies my heart and how it begs for her fogiveness. It exemplifies how much she means to me and how I want to take it slow again and show her I mean it. I haven't even dated since her because I love her. How would she perceive this???????? Am I wrong?? Should I let it go?? Would she get angry with this gesture?? Help!!!!!!!!!

[Ed]

I know you are torn up over this, but you are just grasping for straws.

 

First of all, buying her a ring in NOT taking it slow.

 

Second, if you want her to fall in love with you all over again, then you will have to treat her as if you have just met her for the first time. This is going to be about as easy as putting toothpaste back in the tube and 10 times as messy.

 

Your best chance of having anything with her in the future is to assume that you will not have anything with her in the future. Forget it, it's over. Start looking for someone else to date.

[Nic]

as much as you love this girl, i really feel you should try your hardest to let her go.

 

she said she is not ready to be emotional with you on any level. she sounds as though she is very confused herself, and giving her a pre-engagement ring will only put an awful lot of pressure on her, and she will probably want to run a mile away.

 

my guess is that she already knows how you feel about her. a ring will not change a thing. if you so desperately want her to know how you feel right now, your best bet is to tell her. but also tell her that you understand that she does not want to be with you, but that you just want to her to know how you feel - then walk away. perhaps telling her how you feel and then making the decision to move on with your own life, will create some sense of closure for you.

 

you can never "make" someone fall in love with you all over again, and quite often, things just aren't the same the second time around. a lot of us will always have someone in our lives for whom we have a soft spot, or someone we will always love. but hanging on to something that is not a happening thing, is a waste of energy and will more than likely drive the other person away.

 

as long as you pursue this girl, you will never move on in your life. give yourself that chance, because even though you don't feel it now, you will meet someone else oneday. if you can have these kind of feelings for one person, you will definitely have these feelings again for another - and the feelings will be mutual.

 

do yourself a favour and look at this as an experience and embrace what the future holds for you - without her.

 

I posted last year around the beginning of November about a situation I had within my relationship. Laconically speaking, I dated a woman for about a year and six months. On our sixth month I allowed something to start with another woman while I was questioning her feelings for me and felt like I wasn't changing her and making her forget her rough past. I ended the the other situation five minutes after it started and told that girl that I couln't do this. She felt rejected and told my girlfriend. She admitted her malicious ways to my girl and told her that I did end it right away. My girl believes me, but felt hurt by my betrayal anyway. Which is normal,especially because she found her x with another. So she came from a cold place from the start. My deal is that I'm in love with her and have been completely with her until that happened, which was six months before. Yep, it took that #@#$ six months to get my girlfriend's number by doing her Columbo work. Now my situation is as follows: I saw my love yesterday and talked about everything. I haven't seen her since October and the feelings were completely there. She told me to understand her about how she is not ready to be emotional with me again in any aspect of a relationship. But tells me that she loves and we kissed passionately last night. What does that mean?? I'm so lost! My question is, if I bought a pre-engagement ring and tell her that she is my world and I can't be without her, would she listen? I don't have closure because she doesn't tell me anything when I ask her if I have a chance with her and if she sees me in her future. She says she can't answer that. I just want a fresh start. Meaning I want the opportunity to sweep her off her feet again and make her fall in love with me once more. I want to tell her that the ring exemplifies my heart and how it begs for her fogiveness. It exemplifies how much she means to me and how I want to take it slow again and show her I mean it. I haven't even dated since her because I love her. How would she perceive this???????? Am I wrong?? Should I let it go?? Would she get angry with this gesture?? Help!!!!!!!!!

[Deejette]

It is a very human trait to not hear what people tell us, if we don't like what we are hearing. We think, they cannot really mean this, it's their mood, or whatever.

 

I had a similar situation with someone who did not believe that I wanted to break up with them. They thought I couldn't possible know what I was doing. It was downright insulting. I told him it was over and he kept telling me I didn't know what I wanted.

 

But listen to this girl. She knows where she can reach you if she wants to get back with you. Giving her that ring only sets you up for heartache.

as much as you love this girl, i really feel you should try your hardest to let her go. she said she is not ready to be emotional with you on any level. she sounds as though she is very confused herself, and giving her a pre-engagement ring will only put an awful lot of pressure on her, and she will probably want to run a mile away. my guess is that she already knows how you feel about her. a ring will not change a thing. if you so desperately want her to know how you feel right now, your best bet is to tell her. but also tell her that you understand that she does not want to be with you, but that you just want to her to know how you feel - then walk away. perhaps telling her how you feel and then making the decision to move on with your own life, will create some sense of closure for you. you can never "make" someone fall in love with you all over again, and quite often, things just aren't the same the second time around. a lot of us will always have someone in our lives for whom we have a soft spot, or someone we will always love. but hanging on to something that is not a happening thing, is a waste of energy and will more than likely drive the other person away. as long as you pursue this girl, you will never move on in your life. give yourself that chance, because even though you don't feel it now, you will meet someone else oneday. if you can have these kind of feelings for one person, you will definitely have these feelings again for another - and the feelings will be mutual.

 

do yourself a favour and look at this as an experience and embrace what the future holds for you - without her.