liloldlady Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 Curious if people take steps to find out/investigate who you suspect your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating with... Do you listen to gossip? Look at Facebook? Look at phone records? Call numbers from a restricted phone but don't leave a voice mail? Link to post Share on other sites
Realist3 Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 He he he he he ...All of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 I actually vwaited for proof. But searched when I had a chance 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted November 8, 2013 Author Share Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) I actually vwaited for proof. But searched when I had a chance How did you search? How did you obtain proof? Anyone ever try to access email passwords or other online sleuthing tactics? Edited November 8, 2013 by liloldlady Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 How did you search? How did you obtain proof? Anyone ever try to access email passwords or other online sleuthing tactics? After a year of waiting and misery, she wanting to prove herself to me, willingly gave me her email. And linked it to mine. I noticed nothing bad. But I found one email of her mom asking her to invite 'john' to this thing. Later I clicked her mom's highlighted name on the email. This brought up two extra emails my former lover had. One had a lot of guys on it...seemed like a cam type of deal. The other had gemma on it...her other name. This had flirtatious writings on her and this guy named Moes' walls. This was the same guy I suspected her of cheating on me with. On a hidden email. Which she had two. She had two already before this...but I was aware of them. One for her school assignments. The other for personal use. She gave me the school assignment and personal use one...which lead me to this. After a year of hints: a txt from some boy, whom she claimed he took her phone, she had forgotten at school. Saying, "leave my gf alone." He supposedly admitted to it...but hey, they remained friends, cause he was a "good guy." Later they weren't. Another hint: she claimed some guy was her dad's younger brother...lol...she had met him on a dating site(ironically claiming it was closed before we met -- four and a half years ago). Oh and the fact that she determined to prove herself after I discovered these two opposite emails. Lol, I loved being sent an email of a picture on her FB wall of "I love MOE" with a nice red arrow pointing to it and circle around it. She claimed she was hacked. I was a fool, and should have left on the first hint. I loved her dearly though, was to marry her. After that...I sort of lost it and no longer cared. I ended it and blocked her for good. It wouldn't be worth it to look her up, or anything else as that would allow her rights over me further. I believe that's about everything Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted November 8, 2013 Author Share Posted November 8, 2013 flirtatious writings on her and this guy named Moes' walls. This was the same guy I suspected her of cheating on me with. How did you first begin to suspect Moe? Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 How did you first begin to suspect Moe? She came home with slap marks and nose-honking bruises, and started calling him "Curly". 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 She came home with slap marks and nose-honking bruises, and started calling him "Curly". Lol, no. But funny way of looking at it. I looked at it the sameway. To answer you OP. A series of events led to me realizing all of this. This was years ago, so, it hardly matters these days. Fate I don't know what you intentions are for asking. But, I suspect that it is due to either you cheating or being cheated on. Which is it? Pteromom. ...be careful, moe might pull of one of his patent slaps Altho this moe is a coward haha 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted November 9, 2013 Author Share Posted November 9, 2013 (edited) I don't know what you intentions are for asking. But, I suspect that it is due to either you cheating or being cheated on. Which is it? Neither. I see someone who has someone else. Yesterday I was locked out of my email and had to change passwords to get back in because they detected unusual activity. Then I got a message a few hours later that there was an attack on my computer and my software blocked the IP for 600 seconds. I traced the IP to our town. I get calls from restricted numbers on my mobile & they don't leave a message. I get calls at my office, no caller ID, and the person says nothing on the other end... Edited November 9, 2013 by liloldlady Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 If it is neither, then why is this all about cheating? If someone is harassing you, you should involve the law. Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted November 9, 2013 Author Share Posted November 9, 2013 If someone is harassing you, you should involve the law. It hasn't escalated, but I'm curious to know how people go about sleuthing if you suspect the person you are with is cheating on you... Also curious about how long it takes people to catch on. I imagine the suspicions precede discovery. What are some ways suspicions are confirmed? What were some clues you found along the way? How long did you keep silent? Is there anyone out there who knows/suspects they are being cheated on but have no plans to rock the boat and are maintaining status quo? Link to post Share on other sites
tlegend Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 It hasn't escalated, but I'm curious to know how people go about sleuthing if you suspect the person you are with is cheating on you... Also curious about how long it takes people to catch on. I imagine the suspicions precede discovery. What are some ways suspicions are confirmed? What were some clues you found along the way? How long did you keep silent? Is there anyone out there who knows/suspects they are being cheated on but have no plans to rock the boat and are maintaining status quo? You'll find people more willing to share experiences like this over here: Message Boards :: Category Index - Truth About Deception 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 I guess to say: Hints: A pulling away occurred. Less time as a result was given to the relationship. As a result, feelings of abandon began. Hint 2: Sexual nature of the relationship began go slowly disappear. Hint 3: Excuses for being gone late or for forgetting important things started. These excuses turned out to be lies. As discovered by a process of elimination of events. Hint 4: Lies (all hints are lie?) Where a constant. Lie of maybe spending time together on a day. Hint 5: Strange texts. There is really much more. But, given that this happened nearly two years ago, it is and has become a bit harder to recall all of this. If you believe a person is cheating on you or something of that nature: leave and do not wait for them or proof. This will tear you to pieces in the long run. A gut feeling can be quite helpful. That link given to you is to a solid place. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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