Finally my time? Or am I reading into this?

[kit4kat]

There's this guy I know who's always had my interest. He's cute, he's sweet, he's funny, we get along so well, talking is easy and natural... its a good friendship. Recently, he learned of my interest in him. The subject was brought up and we decided that we would just stay friends-- I brought that up, defense mechanism. So, I started looking at other guys. I started hanging out with them more, talking to them more, I even developed new interests. Of course, none of them compare with this guy, but I boxed my feelings up for him and set them aside on a shelf. I can't wait around forever for him.

 

A few months have passed since I originally made the conscience effort to move on. And I don't know whats going on now. I will admit, I am still very much attracted to him, but something is different with him. He almost always answers the phone when I call him, and I learned that he hardly ever actually picks his phone up when it rings. He waits for me when we do group things, he always finds his way to be by my side, he's talking to me more than usual, giving me focused attention, even in a big group of people. I haven't noticed this, but my best friend has-- he's staring at me, a lot! He's trying to get me involved more in his life and what he does... The thing is, he's really really shy. I'm not sure if I'm reading into this too much or what, but has he had a change of heart?

 

Now, this is how I'm different. In the past month, I've lost about 10 pounds. Personally, I can't really tell the difference. But a few other people have pointed it out to me. I'm not fat, I never was. I have always been in the normal weight range for my height, and since I'm athletic, most of my weight is muscle mass. I think the world of this guy, he is amazing to me, and I'd hate to think that if he is interested in me now, that its because I lost weight. What's everyones take on this?

[tattoomytoe]

First...you said YOU decided to just be friends, so how has HE had a change of heart to that effect?

 

why not hang out exclusively? and see how that goes?

[kit4kat]

First...you said YOU decided to just be friends, so how has HE had a change of heart to that effect?

 

I left out the fact that after I made that decision, our contact became limited. We used to talk all the time and after that conversation, it kinda died. I also forgot to tell you that he didn't feel the same way-- I pulled the friends card out to save myself from further embarressment. We still talked, but a lot less. And I stopped hanging out with him and his friends. I pulled myself away from him, which is why I branched out and met other guys. He seemed 100% okay with that as well. It was only when I started talking about other guys that he began to give me focused attention, and when I realized that nothing would happen with these other guys that I noticed the rest of this stuff was happening. Sorry, I forget that ya'll aren't a part of my daily life!

[ice_solid_2k4]

i'm thinking he mite have some suspicion that you like him...usually when i think a girl likes me...she usually doesn't lol...actually that is always the case for me lol...so don't assume....until you are CERTAIN he likes u...good luck

[kit4kat]

i'm thinking he mite have some suspicion that you like him...usually when i think a girl likes me...she usually doesn't lol...actually that is always the case for me lol...so don't assume....until you are CERTAIN he likes u...good luck

 

He knows I used to like him. Thats why we had that talk. I'm not assuming that he likes me now, though I wish he would!!!

 

why not hang out exclusively? and see how that goes?

 

I took your advice! I'm shy and I wasn't really sure how to get him to hang out with me one on one. But through a series of unfortunate events today, one thing lead to another and we ended up hanging out and going to dinner. He even paid! It was nice to finally hang out with just him and me. Thats never actually happened before.