blueorange123 Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 Hi! I have this problem where i dont know what to do. Here's the story: My girlfriend and i have been going out for a year but recenrly, she starts having some feelings for another guy. This problem becomes so bad that she needs to choose between him or me. Sadly, she chooses that guy and i get really hurt by her decision. But thank God, they had problems and didn't last. She comes back to me and i give her another chance. But the problem now is that she barely notices me in class and in our group of friends. I also start to notice that she hangs out with my good friends more than with me. Even worse, they flirt with her and she flirts back. And the thing that annoys me the most is that she flirts with them right in front of me. She invites them to go out, asks them for favors, and plays around with them. Adding to that, theres about 3-4 of my good friends that she does this too. It kills me inside seeing her alone with my other friends and not with me. My good friends know that i like her but cut me off when i try to approach her. If i try to talk to her, they always are there to talk to her. She's my girlfriend but during these past weeks we were like nothing. So my question is should i end things with her, or talk to her even though I'm sure to be hurt again in the future? Another question i have is how do i approach her about this situatuion? Should i be straightforward or do i take it step by step? And lastly, how should i react when i see her flirting with other guys in class (we're also classmates by the way)? Sorry for asking too many questions , but i really need to solve this problem. Thanks to those read and answer!((= Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 sighs . . . . I can't believe you took her back. First mistake. You like her. But she just wants to have a BF. You were an easy pigeon & she played on your feelings for her. Normally, I'd say that harmless flirting in front of you is no big deal but here you are not in a secure position. She is not really in this relationship any more . . . you are a placeholder until she finds somebody she thinks is better. I wouldn't put up with that but it's your choice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Clay Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 Its simple. She doesn't want you. You are just there until the next guy. Does this hurt to hear sure it does. Don't walk out of her life. RUN! You will find someone better I am sure. Clay Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 You need to respect yourself more than you currently do . 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Madman81 Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 Sadly, she chooses that guy and i get really hurt by her decision. But thank God, they had problems and didn't last. This was your mistake, and the fact that it was a mistake was demonstrated by how things went after you took her back. You were her "backup choice", not her first choice. If you stay with her, that's all you're ever going to be. And it'll continue to kill you inside, and damage your self-esteem. Dump her. She's not interested. And by being the dumper this time, not the dumped, you'll do your self-esteem a favour. Link to post Share on other sites
Maxtor Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 1 - friends do not co.ckblock 2 - friends are supportive 3 - friends dont mess with girlfriends of other friends 4 - a good gf doesnt flirt with your friends 5 - a good gf is supportive And most important, punch those ****ers in the face, i dont care if they are bigger than you, stand tall! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tom670 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 1 - friends do not co.ckblock 2 - friends are supportive 3 - friends dont mess with girlfriends of other friends 4 - a good gf doesnt flirt with your friends 5 - a good gf is supportive And most important, punch those ****ers in the face, i dont care if they are bigger than you, stand tall! This^^^ plus she is losing respect everyday you act like this. Oh and tell your "friends" to kick rocks. As of now you are looking like a doormat. If you don't respect yourself you will go through in your next relstionship' Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
Keke1 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Hi! I have this problem where i dont know what to do. Here's the story: My girlfriend and i have been going out for a year but recenrly, she starts having some feelings for another guy. This problem becomes so bad that she needs to choose between him or me. Sadly, she chooses that guy and i get really hurt by her decision. But thank God, they had problems and didn't last. She comes back to me and i give her another chance. But the problem now is that she barely notices me in class and in our group of friends. I also start to notice that she hangs out with my good friends more than with me. Even worse, they flirt with her and she flirts back. And the thing that annoys me the most is that she flirts with them right in front of me. She invites them to go out, asks them for favors, and plays around with them. Adding to that, theres about 3-4 of my good friends that she does this too. It kills me inside seeing her alone with my other friends and not with me. My good friends know that i like her but cut me off when i try to approach her. If i try to talk to her, they always are there to talk to her. She's my girlfriend but during these past weeks we were like nothing. So my question is should i end things with her, or talk to her even though I'm sure to be hurt again in the future? Another question i have is how do i approach her about this situatuion? Should i be straightforward or do i take it step by step? And lastly, how should i react when i see her flirting with other guys in class (we're also classmates by the way)? Sorry for asking too many questions , but i really need to solve this problem. Thanks to those read and answer!((= "Friends like these you don't need enemies" First these aren't your friends lol. Let alone good friends. Second dump her man she's immature. Put your mind at ease man 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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