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Me and my girlfriend of 2 years broke up 3 weeks ago. Our relationship is great I treat her great. then suddenly she said she wants to be alone and doesn't want any relations.

 

I've been doing No contact since the break up and She contacts me all of a sudden

 

 

She Said

"Hi! how are you? I heard about the bad weather in your hometown is your family there ok? "

 

 

I thought about replying to her or not.. in the end I decide to just reply the next day..

 

I really thought about not replying but It will be rude and bitter..

 

I said

"I'm doing great and they are fine.. Thanks"

 

she didn't reply anymore.. Did I do the right thing? I still want this girl back and I do love her.. But what is her intentions messaging me? to lessen her guilt ? for her Ego? or she misses me? she wants to know if I still in her bait?

 

Why she didn't reply anymore? some people said it's because of my reply not saying "How are you back?" but this girl mess up my mind again after 3 weeks of No contact and moving on..

Thanks Guys!

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Oh man, 2 years, huh? Same here. So much love and passion and not just one sided…until recently. (sad face) She obviously still genuinely cares for you. & misses hearing from you. She will respond in due time. Don't worry. But don't be like me and hold your breath. I am having a hard time letting go of my ex. Was holding up really strong for weeks (when I had the power) then he took back the power by deleting me then blocking me on FB and not responding open-heartedly to my very sweet and sincere email pleading for a second chance and begging him not to start seeing other girls. I'm pathetic, I know. I was great to him and let him have complete control over my emotions. If you can, try to stay NC. Mine came back to "say goodbye" after I had already told him goodbye, it's completely over 2 weeks ago. Sometimes it's a power thing. An ego thing with them. Sometimes they contact you for their own guilt. But I think she obviously still wants to know how you are because she cares.

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Me and my girlfriend of 2 years broke up 3 weeks ago. Our relationship is great I treat her great. then suddenly she said she wants to be alone and doesn't want any relations.

 

I've been doing No contact since the break up and She contacts me all of a sudden

 

 

She Said

"Hi! how are you? I heard about the bad weather in your hometown is your family there ok? "

 

 

I thought about replying to her or not.. in the end I decide to just reply the next day..

 

I really thought about not replying but It will be rude and bitter..

 

I said

"I'm doing great and they are fine.. Thanks"

 

she didn't reply anymore.. Did I do the right thing? I still want this girl back and I do love her.. But what is her intentions messaging me? to lessen her guilt ? for her Ego? or she misses me? she wants to know if I still in her bait?

 

Why she didn't reply anymore? some people said it's because of my reply not saying "How are you back?" but this girl mess up my mind again after 3 weeks of No contact and moving on..

Thanks Guys!

 

This one's most likely guilt.

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Did she know your family?

Maybe if she knew and cared for them then it was genuine concern.

Maybe she didn't text again as your reply was quite blunt and didn't ask anything that she could reply to. If somebody sent me that text I'd take it as a sign that the person didn't want to talk to me and would leave them alone.

 

Maybe she was testing the waters? It's hard to say. Could be many reasons.

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Thanks for the response! I deactivate my facebook after 2 weeks of break up.

 

It became easier for me to move on without facebook. I also knew she is stalking my wall cause she removed her In a relationship status in facebook the moment I removed mine.. she started deleting comments on my wall too saying "I love you so much Forever" so I deactivate it to lessen the drama and she could have not know what I'm doing..

 

Stay strong by the way.. I was happy she message me but at the same time confused because this person is just messing up my emotions to move on..

 

 

 

Oh man, 2 years, huh? Same here. So much love and passion and not just one sided…until recently. (sad face) She obviously still genuinely cares for you. & misses hearing from you. She will respond in due time. Don't worry. But don't be like me and hold your breath. I am having a hard time letting go of my ex. Was holding up really strong for weeks (when I had the power) then he took back the power by deleting me then blocking me on FB and not responding open-heartedly to my very sweet and sincere email pleading for a second chance and begging him not to start seeing other girls. I'm pathetic, I know. I was great to him and let him have complete control over my emotions. If you can, try to stay NC. Mine came back to "say goodbye" after I had already told him goodbye, it's completely over 2 weeks ago. Sometimes it's a power thing. An ego thing with them. Sometimes they contact you for their own guilt. But I think she obviously still wants to know how you are because she cares.

 

 

 

 

No she didn't know them personally but she talked to them on the phone when we are still together.

 

I was thinking she didn't reply because of the response but to be honest I didn't really want to respond I was just being polite responding cause after everything she just text me like that nothing happened..

 

 

 

 

Did she know your family?

Maybe if she knew and cared for them then it was genuine concern.

Maybe she didn't text again as your reply was quite blunt and didn't ask anything that she could reply to. If somebody sent me that text I'd take it as a sign that the person didn't want to talk to me and would leave them alone.

 

Maybe she was testing the waters? It's hard to say. Could be many reasons.

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Three weeks of NC and you are already giving her control over you again.

 

You need to go back to NC and develop a dont care attitude. You need to stop putting her on a pedestal and you need to place yourself on a pedestal.

 

She doesnt care about you. Shes just fishing to se if she still had you hooked. When you dont care hey always vome back but you have to be in a position wherr even a simple text is not going to knock you off that pedestal.

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I feel really bad that I respond.. I should have not respond I was regretting it the moment I hit sent...

 

I think it would be the best to just Ignore whatever she gonna text me in the future and just consider the text if it's about Reconciliation. Now that I reply the first time I don't think she will have a problem if she wants to reconcile..

 

I'm not hoping though I'll focus on moving on and No Contact and just not reply to whatever she's gonna text me..

 

Is this a good plan?

 

 

Three weeks of NC and you are already giving her control over you again.

 

You need to go back to NC and develop a dont care attitude. You need to stop putting her on a pedestal and you need to place yourself on a pedestal.

 

She doesnt care about you. Shes just fishing to se if she still had you hooked. When you dont care hey always vome back but you have to be in a position wherr even a simple text is not going to knock you off that pedestal.

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Geeze some people are so harsh when it's unnecessary.

 

I agree with above, she probably heard about the weather and had a moment of guilt.

 

No, I don't think you gave her back control or anything like that. Your answer was short and fine. The issue with breaking contact is how it makes you feel (is she going to reply, why didn't she reply, what does she want, etc)

 

You need to read everything at face value.She texted you because she heard about the weather in your town. End thought.

 

 

 

 

Good plan, go back to NC.Goodluck

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You have a good point but some people said she is not being friendly. She was looking for an excuse to text, and because I responded politely but did not open up text to further info. She didn't respond..

 

 

If she was really concern because of my family there which she doesn't really know or not even close to them why not respond to the message..

 

She even change her picture in Viber when she messaged so maybe I can see it.

 

Anyway there is a lot of possibilities why she message and why she didn't respond. I will just try to ignore everything happened and just focus on Moving on and doing No contact again and I will just ignore her in the future..

 

 

 

 

 

 

Geeze some people are so harsh when it's unnecessary.

 

I agree with above, she probably heard about the weather and had a moment of guilt.

 

No, I don't think you gave her back control or anything like that. Your answer was short and fine. The issue with breaking contact is how it makes you feel (is she going to reply, why didn't she reply, what does she want, etc)

 

You need to read everything at face value.She texted you because she heard about the weather in your town. End thought.

 

 

 

 

Good plan, go back to NC.Goodluck

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