How to tell your friend you don't want to live with them anymore

[prapti]

How to tell someone that you don't want to live with them anymore. I let an acquaintance live with me as a favor till she gets a job. I have been going through a bad situation with my ex bf, so I thought it wouldn't hurt some company, and I was doing her a favor. I had suggested for her to move to the city and alone but she was like now I don't want to live alone thing, so I said well...for sometime why not.

 

Now she got a job and I would like for her to move out. She wants to move out with me into a bigger place. I might like the idea, but then something inside me , like a hunch and intuition thing, tells me it is not such a good idea. So I go and come with this in my head all the time. I have been shattered with my ex bf relationship so I feel I am not being able to make decisions.

 

Now, I have introduced her to one of my best friends, and they hang out. And she is telling my friend stuff about me....which I don't like for her to share. She gets to know because we live together. My other friend is worried for me, so they both treat me like someone who doesn't know how to take care of herself.

 

Now how to make up my mind if to live with this girl or not, and if not how to tell her without hurting her feelings? I have suggested it several times, but when we talk it is like she convinces me of it could be a good idea, but then; something inside says no. Like some warning sign, and I don't have a real reason for it.

 

Please suggest.

 

Thanks

[Sukotto]

Well first I'd tell her that stuff that goes on inside your place stays within your place. Though its most likely out of concern for you, I wouldn't make any decisions if you've taken the breakup quite bad. They tend to cloud most judgements and you could ruin a friendship.

 

What about getting a place big enough for 3 and getting your other friend to move in? Just means that if you decide to run away she won't be all on her own.

[Barby]

If you are doing okay financially on your own and don't need or want a room-mate then I would just tell her you are looking to get your place back, you want your space to get your head together, ect.

 

 

As far as her breaking your trust by telling your other friend what's been going on (even if it's self destructive behavior) she should talk to you about it and not spread gossip to other friends....

 

 

Just be nice and honest and tell her you'd rather not get a place together that you'd rather her move out and you stay where you are now, let her know by no means is this something personal with her and that you still want to be friends like now but that you're just not up to moving in with her.