jannie Posted December 18, 2004 Share Posted December 18, 2004 i am having such a very hard time being supportive of my boyfriend to the point that i or he may end our relationship! first he talked to his brother about opening a business, then he talked to his brother about starting his own business and buying some land to build it on, then he talked to his dad about buying his dads car without talking to me first too! none of these things passed my ears till i heard him on the phone with his brother or his dad. then i found out about him wanting to buy this old chevelle, excellent condition too, for $6500.00 he has the money for it like nothing but because he did not even talk to me about it, now i am furious about the whole thing! i seen the money order sitting on the counter and i crumpled it up and threw it in the drawer and told him i do not want to talk to him till he gets rid of the car. he did not say a word to me as i walked out the door. i am so mad that he can not talk to me about these things then when i found out, i was so mad and hurt then he tried to talk to me about these things but i found myself so mad and embittered about them that i was totally against what he was wanting to do now. now we are fighting about the whole thing with the car and i am so mad! am i wrong to fee slighted? i do not know how to be supportive of him now about the car. i want to be. i would love to drive around this old classic but because he did not discuss it with me first, i do not think i will be able to put aside my feelings and let this go. what can i do to keep peace now? or to make love not war in the future? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 19, 2004 Share Posted December 19, 2004 Do you guys have a shared income? Is the money he is spending money that he made or that you two made together? Do you share a bank account/s? Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted December 19, 2004 Share Posted December 19, 2004 I think if it is HIS money (that you did not earn with him) then you had NO right to crumple the money order...that's a whole lot of money to be "throwing away" and if it isn't your money then you have no right to say what he does with it or where he spends it at all. BUT if it was BOTH of your's and his money earned together or saved together with BOTH of you working and putting that money together then heck yeah you have every right to be angry that he didn't tell you or ask you how you felt about it. Please be more detailed so we can help you better by understanding your situation better. Link to post Share on other sites
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