becca_69 Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 A while ago my boyfriend was showing me some pictures on his phone and a text from his ex popped up (it was her name and the contact picture so I knew who she was). He was immediately like "That's my friend Stacy". Since I knew who she was I thought it was weird that he said it was a friend so when he left the room I looked at his phone (:-/) and there were a bunch of text messages from her. I didn't read them, but he told me before that he never talks to any of his exes. I found out later from a friend that she had been texting him that she missed him and was sending him pretty flirty messages. I confronted him and told him what I heard and said that I saw her message on his phone and I knew he had been talking to her. He said they were just talking as friends and that she had text him first and that I had nothing to worry about but I'm worried why he referred to her as his "friend" when every other time he talks about her he called her his ex. Not friend. To me, it seemed like he was trying to cover up that they were talking. And when I asked why he never told me he started talking to her again, he said he never thought about it. I don't believe that when a message came up when I was sitting right there, and he seemed to be trying to cover it up! Should I be worried? Link to post Share on other sites
greenfairie Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 Mmm I don't know. I'm sorry to be blunt but you sound super insecure. Trust is important in a relationship. You already asked him and he told you what it is…and you STILL are suspicious.. That's a red flag. He clearly cares about her still. It doesn't mean he's still in love with her. You say that he told you she's the one who starts the conversation, then that tells me that he's not really into her. I have an ex and if his new girlfriend flipped out on the fact that we were just talking, I would think, wow…Insecure. What's the history between your bf and that girl? They probably are old enough to know the boundaries they shouldn't cross if they decide to still be friends…And if they do CROSS the line, honestly they knew better not to cross those lines! I also think it's sexier if you show that you don't care because you HAVE HIM NOW. You can always share your feelings with him in a calm manner, don't keep it all in, don't let it consume you but try not to nag or give him digs… You have now and that is all what matters Hope all this helps in some way! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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