my Dad has a temper

[AmberK]

Hey..i live with both my parents, my older sister and my younger sister. so i am in the middle. well my older sister stephanie (18) and my dad has been arguing and like goin at it and you know cussing eachother out my whoole entire life..she got kicked out today again..but this time it seemed alittle more serious.///occasional pushes but never like beat the crap outta her..im just sayin is there anyway they could get along?...why does my dad get so mad about things like..we cant wear pants that drag on the floor because he doesnt like the sound, i also feel uncomfortable around him.. like i would never wear tight clothes around him and i can hardly look him in the eyes when i talk to him.. i dont understand .. im so afraid of him eventhough he has never touched me or anything .. im just looking for some answers..i know stephanie is involved in drugs and stuff and my dad has this "disease" where scar tissue is like growing around his bones because his immune system is like attacking itself and he takes alot of medicine eventhough hes acted like this ever since i could remember and he just started taking medicine like 3 years ago. i know they say you shouldnt mix alcohol and the medicine together but thats his only drink except for breakfast and sometimes with dinner he will drink kool-aid. I mean i feel so bad saying this because he is my DAD and i dont know too many people that their dad is still alive or they live with him so i am just probably complaining but i just have to say something. i dont do alot of things in life just because i am scared he will find out and ill get in trouble which results in my confined boring life. i know hes probably also mad all the time because he cant work from his disease and he doesnt stand up straight like he use to, and because we dont have alot of money. when my dad is sayin stuff to my sister and it gets crazy.. well my mom NEVER says anything ever. she just sits back and watches and when he says stuff to her she never has givin him attitude EVER and i dont know why she doesnt speak up. They say we dont have money for things but my mom can work but she doesnt have a job because my dad doesnt want her too. I wouldnt want her to get a job anyways because i knwo this sounds wrong but i dont like being alone in the house with him. I know one day he wont be here anymore and i will regret everything. Any ideas?

[Squid Jigger]

Wow. you are really going through a distressful time. I hope you can get to a counselor, either through your school or a community resource like your church, the salvation army, or a medical clinic. Please try to get in touch with someone who will listen to you and give guidance. You are not wrong for feeling the way you do about your Dad.

 

Remeber this. You can only change your own response to his behaviour. It's time to get some help and learn how to take care of yourself because the man whose job it is to do that is not well enough to do it. He's not able to relate to you in a healthy way.

Good luck. Get help.