keep hanging on???

[ona]

recently, i have been involved with an ex. the problem is that he lives over 200 miles away. he came and stayed with me for a couple of weeks, the whole time saying he's going to go home and move back down by me to live and work and be with me. however, he has not done it yet. it's going on 3 weeks now. he tells me he loves me, he knows that i love him. and we have an awesome time together-never a dull moment. we could have an great life together, only if he would get his act together.

 

since he's been away, he doesn't call me and rarely e-mails me, therefore, i haven't been contacting him. why should i always be the one to make the effort? but it's breaking my heart. i love him so much, i would do almost anything for him. there's something else, also: i don't really trust him as far as him being with other women. i'm just waiting for him to come back, because there's alot i want to say to him to his face. at times i feel he's so hesitant because he's been treated badly by women in the past. what can i do? am i just wasting my time and my heart? i just can't shake my feelings for him.

[Georgia]

I don't want to be harsh, but you are wasting your time. You should not have to do all of the work in the relationship-it's a 50/50 partnership, which means that he should be giving as much as you are. If hardly talks to you or even e-mails you, then he's not taking you or the relationship seriously. Also, if you do not trust him, then get rid of him. A solid relationship is built on trust, and if you do not have any trust for him, then your relationship will crumble.

 

My advice to you is to move on and find someone new. You need to find someone in your town that can offer as much as you can and deserves you. I wish you the best of luck!!

recently, i have been involved with an ex. the problem is that he lives over 200 miles away. he came and stayed with me for a couple of weeks, the whole time saying he's going to go home and move back down by me to live and work and be with me. however, he has not done it yet. it's going on 3 weeks now. he tells me he loves me, he knows that i love him. and we have an awesome time together-never a dull moment. we could have an great life together, only if he would get his act together. since he's been away, he doesn't call me and rarely e-mails me, therefore, i haven't been contacting him. why should i always be the one to make the effort? but it's breaking my heart. i love him so much, i would do almost anything for him. there's something else, also: i don't really trust him as far as him being with other women. i'm just waiting for him to come back, because there's alot i want to say to him to his face. at times i feel he's so hesitant because he's been treated badly by women in the past. what can i do? am i just wasting my time and my heart? i just can't shake my feelings for him.