carhill Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I am an OW currently but we are trying to plan for our future and think how best to handle the kids issue. I don't want to be a total stranger to them but have them like me before I "start" dating their dad. IMO, an appropriate time would be when you and he start having serious discussions about blending your families, either well into his divorce process or after it. I have one anecdote regarding such blendings and the OW remained a relative outsider to the MM's family for a number of years, even after the divorce and when they were living together. I saw a change about 8 years out, when his kids started spending more time with OW, and this coincided roughly with his changing her title from employee to girlfriend, publicly. As far as I know now, they are living together happily and the kids are integrated and nearing/at college age, some 14 years after first contact. That's one anecdote of billions. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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