RoxStar Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 How is it that I always attract the same guys... not intentionally either. It seems that looking back I initially attract guys that are either: older then I might be interested (have been told I have a classic look - whatev), players (ones that only want to have sex with me) or men that are emotionally unavailable - like my FWB and my last boyfriend... When the nice guys are interested in me they seem to pursue me to hard and I lose interest very quickly. I get smothered. Maybe that is another type of guy I attract... the smothering ones. I love my FWB dearly but we couldnt have a real relationship because of the lack of emotional availablity. Right now I am completely content with my situation with him but my feelings have been growing and I know he has feelings for me as well. I think though that down the road I am going to have to leave that situation and find someone new. I just need to figure out how to not attract the older, player, emotionally unavailable smotherers... Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 4, 2005 Share Posted January 4, 2005 Maybe, instead of trying to not attract them, you can learn how to identify them and to tell them that you are not interested, while still enjoying the flattery of being noticed. Concentrate on the kind of guy you do want and learn to qualify prospective suiters according to YOUR priorities and interests. Link to post Share on other sites
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