I messed up- Now what?

[mankc]

Met a woman online who, eventually, came out to meet me (and my best friend); to go out to dinner, etc. I wasn't really sure how it would go. It went better than expected, as I was kissing her goodnight things got a bit heavy. As I left, I told my best friend how it went - in detail I was stoked and I messed up and kissed and told. I trusted my best friend with everything, obviously, and had planned on my girlfriend hanging out with him the following day because I was unable to get away from my obligations. He ended up telling my g/f everything I said to him, which upset her. She said she talked about the details with him also, He also told her I was treating her like some woman was, currently, treating him, (who was stringing him along). As he told her all of this - she asked 3x to include me in the conversation, and he said "no, it will destroy our friendship". She, ultimately, listened to him, and I was not contacted. She kept the plans we had made for them to hang out (which was supposed to be at the zoo). It rained though so they went to dinner, caught a movie (that ended very late), and he ended up sleeping at the hotel with her (her decision). She said nothing happened, and I want to believe that is true. However, neither one of them contacted me through almost 19 hrs together, or responded to my attempts at contacting them. She said it was b/c I told them I would be busy. She also went to do a pet sitting job with him during this time. I later learned there was a sexual innuendo made by him (which she took as a joke)... My gf and I did not talk about my screw up, really, until she went back home. Because I talked about making out with her, does that justify not being contacted for 19 hrs while they spent the night in a hotel - after all that had happened? Clearly, I should have not said anything, but wow - all that over a 30+ second conversation? Is there any chance a woman doesn't realize what a guy is really up to when they pull something like this - and why would a woman go ahead and hang out for 19hrs and not contact me? Was it payback?

Edited November 14, 2013 by mankc

[PegNosePete]

Met a woman online who, eventually, came out to meet me (and my best friend);

Uh, what? You met a woman from a dating site and brought your best mate along? Seriously?

 

had planned on my girlfriend hanging out with him the following day because I was unable to get away from my obligations.

Again - WHAT?! Your gf, after 1 date? And why on earth would you plan for her to hang out with your mate? This is making no sense whatsoever.

 

It rained though so they went to dinner, caught a movie (that ended very late), and he ended up sleeping at the hotel with her (her decision). She said nothing happened

HA! If you believe that then I have a bridge to sell you.

 

Dude - I have no idea why you have acted like you did. You met a woman from a dating site. You met her with your friend in tow, and your friend was going on a date with her the next day as well. It's pretty obvious what happened - she preferred him to you. He used your kiss and tell story to win her favour by turning her against you. They proceeded to have a nice date which ended with sex in the hotel room.

 

The thing I am really confused about is why you keep calling her your gf? She met you once, kissed you, then had sex with your mate.