Where do I go from here?

[artiearens]

Hello Everyone! I posted a few months ago my story, and really would like some advice again.

 

Backstory is probably the best place to start. I'm working on my graduate degree and my ex-girlfriend just started her freshman year of college about two hours away. A few weeks into her being up there, she broke up with me and used many excuses that were really lame on why she did it. Since then, we have hardly talked, her initiating the contact every so often. It wasn't really worth it because everytime she did call she would tell me even more reasons why she had been unhappy with me etc.

 

Then, last Monday, she started calling a few times a night. I was either studying, or didn't pick up because she has been pretty brutal to me on the phone. Finally, last Wednesday, she calls and tells me she would like to see me Friday when she comes home from school. She lets me know that she will call me Friday and see if I still want to hang out with her.

 

Well, come Friday she ends up susprizing me at my work to let me know that she can't hang out with me because she wants to hang out with her mother instead. Well, this kinda upset me, seeing she has made no effort to see me in the last three months. She did, however, let me know "I was lucky because she could have just called and cancelled if she had wanted, but she atleast came to see me." We ended up talking for a few minutes and she told me that she never wants to get back together with me and that she has guys she wants to go visit in a few states away and many other things over her break.

 

At this point, I tell her that she just needs to walk out of my life, because she has been pretty mean etc. She does leave and calls me like twenty minutes later asking why I am being so difficult. The conversation ends again in her hanging up on me and I figure that should be it for awhile. Well, that night, she ends up calling me on the phone and we have a nice conversation etc. She admits FINALLY that she had no reason to break up with me and had a panic about being so serious with someone at her age. (Which someone on this forum actually called her on back in Sept! She also told me that she does love me, and knows she could never find anyone as perfect as me. She also says she knows that I never would have treated her the way she treated me. And she truly sees a future with me.

 

So, we left the phone that night under the impression that we wouldn't talk again until she can straighten her own stuff out. She left me a text message last night telling me she couldn't sleep the night before and was crying all night, but she didn't call me because she knows that isn't what I want right now.

 

The question to everyone I guess is...Where do I go from here? I'm in my first year of graduate school and she is a freshman in college...18 years old and 22 years old. Do I take all these things she is saying to me seriously or what? She has been extremely mean over the past few months and the past few days (since she got home from school) has been nice, yet hasn't called since our last conversation...I care about her deeply and in the end want to do what is best for both of us...Everyone here is always so helpful...So Thanks!

[Puma]

yo bro, my ex is 19 and i'll be 22 soon enough, i will tell u that since she is a freshman she might want to experience soem things and wouldnt want to feel bad/guilty about it doing it behind ur back so she wants to be single so she wont have that regret pokin at her liek a vulture on a dead carcass. i got the whole im young, want to have fun, time/space thing myself and although it hurt...put urself in her shoes when we were 18/19..how were you? i know i personally was after the party party, but then i settled down and realized life isnt just about that. our girls need to experience as my girl put it "take advantage of my college years" now u ahve to think about what kinda person ur ex is. it sounds to me very familar as i felt my ex also felt things were goin to fast for her age..and although she didnt tell me she got scared, she did say shes not ready for a serious relationship, ironically after 4 mths of being in one, so its very confusing..but tahts what they are: CONFUSED!