Difficult circumstances for a single mom I care about; what would you do?

[Sunlight72]

Hey, thanks for the update sunrise.

Best wishes on everything.

[Radu]

 

Radu: The mom and the child's biological father never married; they were engaged and then separated soon after the child was born

This is the first time I've ever heard the phrase emotional tampon; after researching the meaning and reflecting back upon my entire history with the mom... well, you nailed it.

I agree that the child is the real victim, from the unhealthy examples set for her by both parents (abusiveness from the father, taking anger out on others from the mother), but ultimately they will be her challenges to work through; I wish her the best.

 

That is the very definition of abuse.

If the anger is verbal, it's verbal abuse.

If the anger is physical, it's physical abuse.

 

But make no mistake here, IT IS ABUSE.

[sunrise24]

...I recently made a new friend who I have become very close to, and it turns out she is very close friends with the mom.

I spoke too soon...

 

The mutual friend and I had a falling out today. I won't go into the details, but basically much of what has been said about the mom's character also applies to this other woman; I quickly implemented No Contact.

 

Now that there are no longer any relationships tying me to the mom, No Contact with her is back in full effect. I don't even miss the child much anymore; I've come to terms with the reality that I was never accepted by the mom as a parental figure (or anything close) for her daughter, which is what BeingMe was trying to tell me in my previous topic. Despite how much the child enjoyed my companionship, a meaningful relationship between her and I is not meant to be.

 

Moving forward; a sincere thanks to everyone who has contributed their insight into this matter over the past year.