chocolate_boy Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 Ok I hate long rambling posts, so quicky to summarise so far... Was with a girl for 2 years, v intense relationship, was very much in love... we were engaged... also best friends as well... we went through some problems and it ended in late 2002... We're both heartbroken, it hit her pretty hard and she had a bit of a breakdown, I was also devistated and became bit of a recluse for a while... we didn't talk for quite a while as I was too messed up in my head and she was too angry at me for ending it... We exhange xmas cards and birthday cards every year since, but thats about it. She got with new guy about 6 weeks later.... still with him now and has recently moved in with him. She wasn't overly happy with him at first, he had alcohol probs and she said she only used him to make me jealous.. but eventually fell for him and now she is happy with him. Fair enough.. up to present day... I've stayed single pretty much since then, had few flings, but to be honest never really got her out of my heart... nothing I've had since has matched up to it, and besides I'd got used to being single and I actually moved far away from her (about 200 miles away in another city) and started a new life. I lived for my work last couple of years and now have v good job and lifestyle. Last month I was ill and in hospital. Out of blue I get a call from her one night, we got chatting, it was a bit awkward to be honest (what do you say after so long?!) But she then says that we should meet up again that it would be a laugh... I agree... not entirely thinking it would happen, but we set a date... It arrived yesterday and I met up with her again... we had really nice day together... she drove to see me... first hour was v awkward, but after that we felt v comfortable, infact so much so it almost seemed like it did when we were together... and by the afternoon she was holding my hand as we walked around, and kept accidently calling me nicknames she called me when we were together... at one point calling me baby and then apologising... We also gazed into each other's eyes quite a lot during the day, and she admits she's v happy with her life now, but has never had a relationship like ours since.. and doubts she ever would... and questions like if we'd got back together do I think we'd still be together... and reminiced lots about our best times together. At one point I said something and she just grabbed me and kept hugging me so tight in the street! At end of day she said she'd had the "perfect day", and we hugged which turned into just holding each other for about 5 mins with her head on my shoulder... she then said she "keeps forgetting and almost kissed me".. We said goodbye after that... She went away, we just said bye didn't say we'd meet up again... but I felt like I had been punched in the stomach after, missed her so much... Now I'm v confused... what the hell does all that mean and why have I got these feelings.. I thought we had got over each other a long time ago... Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 I very carefully went through the dictionary trying to figure out what your v's stood for. I'm very confused. VERY confused. I consider your post to be more of a confessional than a request for information. You know what it's about. What's to analyze? There's really nothing to be confused about. If I were you I'd regret giving her up in the first place, if it was so great. But I don't recommend meddling in her relationship. On the other hand, what do I know? You know what you have to lose. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 I assume the v stands for a long word you chose to abbreviate to keep your post short. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted December 23, 2004 Author Share Posted December 23, 2004 err, yeah V stood for "Very". Maybe it was more of a confession, but it just struck me as odd that it turned out like that. I thought after two years things like that wouldn't happen. Just wondered if anyone else had ever experienced anything similar. Maybe deep down I do regret ending it, but at the time it seemed the right thing to do. Just thought I was over it all... maybe it seems like I'm not? It's just come as a bit of a shock to the system. Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 No contact rule. Use it. You are proof that if you don't use it, you will be in constant pain. Thanks for proving that to all of us once again. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 Well, I'm not sure you need to implement no contact as a "strategy" here. You spent some time with an ex and you were surprised there were still feelings there. You'll just have to let it go, I think. Any moves there are to be made should be made by her, because she's in a committed relationship. That's not "no contact" as much as it is wise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted December 23, 2004 Author Share Posted December 23, 2004 To be honest I have no intentions of asking her back, like I said I live a long way away now, we have seperate lives... it's been over 2 years since we split. I was just knocked for six that we reacted like that to each other. Was wondering if it had happened to anybody else? I have barely thought about her much for quite a while, but it was just surreal, exactly like when we were together, I just think maybe it was because we hadn't spent anytime together since we broke up, therefor we didn't know any other way to be around each other... Or maybe if you're a true romatic, there is such a thing as "the one" and soulmates and all that crap I don't know how to explain feelings lying dormant for so long and only surfacing when we met up. I've met other ex's before and it's never been like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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