amit khubchandani Posted November 15, 2013 Share Posted November 15, 2013 :o:o1 year passed and we are still best friends. I am in love with her from day 1 but she is not ,what should i do.??? She is passing through hard times but she is not yet ready to accept my proposal i just dont wanna lose her Link to post Share on other sites
Zimmer Posted November 15, 2013 Share Posted November 15, 2013 I have the same problem too. The only difference is that, i know her for 4 months now Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lizard Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 I hate to say this because it's not what you want to hear but if she doesn't feel the same way the you will potentially damage the friendship and that's going to force her out of your life completely. I'm sort of in the same boat except that my female friend is more like my little sister and my love for her is more of a protective nature. Link to post Share on other sites
GatsbyMH Posted November 18, 2013 Share Posted November 18, 2013 I was in love with my best friend for years. We became very close until she finally "saw" me. Its been amazing ever since. Be patient. The right time will present itself. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted November 18, 2013 Share Posted November 18, 2013 I fell for my best friend. We've been friends since we were kids Did not go well, and we are no longer friends. I regret saying anything... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Arty54 Posted November 18, 2013 Share Posted November 18, 2013 I had a thing with my best friend who I had known for years, we had a brief fling before we realised it was too risky for our LT friendship and I was recently separated so we agreed that the timing wasn't right. She met someone else but in time this did not work out and we spent a summer supporting each other as friends until I finally had the courage to ask her out. We have just spent the last two years having the best time of our lives, literally the happiest we both have ever been, but it always brings complications and recently she decided that she wanted to move on, wow, never saw it coming, totally devastated and while she wishes to remain friends because her hurt is less I cannot cope! So have lost my confidant and best friend, I cannot accept her friendship because of the way I feel, maybe in time things may be different. Was it worth it, well difficult to say, because if we hadn't got it together I'd still have her as my friend and I wouldn't be feeling so low but also would not have experienced the life that I have had with her. In time when I have recovered and healed I will no doubt look back and say that I had no regrets, she still is the love of my life and will no doubt remain that........until I meet the next lucky girl!! Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 telling someone you love them or like them more than a friend is a risk because the friendship is forever changed....you cant go back.....it just doesnt work.....deb Link to post Share on other sites
tommyjenkins Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 This is not the answer you want, but it's the answer you need because it's the truth. Your first step is to be honest with yourself and acknowledge this girl is not your best "friend." She is a girl you want a romantic relationship with. Thus there is no "friendship" to lose. Continued contact with her is under one of the following two circumstances: 1. She reciprocates your affections, and thus you are in a happy relationship. Or 2. She doesn't reciprocate your affections, in which case you constantly existing in a state of unrequited love - your love and feelings perpetually invested in a girl who will never satisfy your need for romantic companionship. (Yet she gets to take advantage of all the attention/benefits that someone who "loves her" will "selflessly" provide, while never giving anything in return.) If she were truly your "friend," then she would care enough about you to say, "I'm not interested in you, and I'm not going to be. You should put your time and energy into finding another girl who will love you, and I will not allow you to waste your time on me, because I actually do care about you being happy. She hasn't told you that, thus she is not your "friend." What she gave you was an excuse as to why she can't be in a relationship with you, yet still gets to keep you around. When a girl likes you, she will not reject your advances. Period. Even if there is "a lot going on right now" and she may not be able to invest optimal time/energy into the relationship, she will not reject it. She has rejected you because she does not love you and never will. If you would like to be in a happy, loving relationship with a girl who loves you, then you should cut off contact with her, cry your cry, process your heartbreak and hurt feelings, and then go try to meet another girl. Link to post Share on other sites
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