Bleeding in the name of love

[bleedinglover]

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What do I do? I've been seeing this guy for a little over eight months now. We had gotten back together after a while of not talking...We had broken up a long time ago due to my many illnesses at the time. He was 17 and I was 15...I am now 17 and he is 19. He stayed with me as long as he could and he loved me so much, he, being a young man just entering his senior year in high school, having to think about the next year in college, just couldn't take what was happening in my life. Yes, it broke my heart, but I got healthier and worked hard to do so. About nine months ago, we began talking again. Every feeling that we had for eachother came flooding back to us, this time, without the medical and mental issues that were present in the past. My parents, not approving of him, forced us (if we wanted to see eachother) to sneak out of our houses to see eachother. He now lives in a dorm room, but comes home on the weekends to his parents' house. His parents don't have a problem with me, but it was safer to keep them out of the picture. So for eight months, we snuck out to see eachother at nights. There was a lot of risk involved and all, but it was his idea. He begged for me to agree to it in the beginning. Eight months, almost every saturday or friday night, we made love (for a better choice of words). Recently, actually about 3 days ago, he sent me an e-mail saying that he just wanted to be friends (after he had told me how increadible it felt to talk to me, be around me, to touch me...how too overwhelming it was to ignore it) and that he didn't think he was well enough to be in a relationship at this point. He said he was sorry if he hurt me and he still wanted to talk to me. He also claimed that he knew I would be alright because I'm so much stronger than he is (that is what he said). I hurt so much and I love him so much. He's blocked me from AIM (aol instant messenger for those of you who don't know) and hasn't talked to me in three days. What do I do? I know he still cares, but why doesn't he talk to me? What should I do? Should I just try to forget about him and what went on between us? HELP ME OUT!!!

[Mr Spock]

Be thankful you're not pregnant. He's found someone he likes better-not that they're better than YOU just that he likes them better.

 

He's SO full of crap. He used you, you're very young and one day you'll be able to see it sooner and head it off. What he's doing now is softenign the blow in case he wants to come back and get laid someday. Do not confuse sorriness with him wanting sex.

 

Don't contact him. Unless it's to say you don't ever want to hear from him again. He does not care. About your feelings, about your future. People who care don't cut off contact with someone they supposedly like.

 

It's going to SUCK-rejection always does. Chalk this up to a learning experience.

 

 

Once more. He doesn't like you the way you like him, if he ever did. Adolescent males will say almost anything to get into your pants. You couldn't date him openly-in his mind this was a sexual relationship and now he's found another one.

 

Remember, "let's be friends" is a BS cop out. Find someone worthy.

[HokeyReligions]

Mr Spock is spot on.

 

He's in college now -- a whole plethora of new faces and bodies and he has decided, as many do when entering college, that the world is larger than they thought and they have more dates from which to choose. He has out grown you and, while sad, is pretty typical.

 

You are going to hurt for a while, but when you get to college you will understand and find your own smorgasboard of men from which to choose and you will find new loves. Date some other guys now, but don't be too serious with anyone, just enjoy dating and new people and new conversations and new experiences and your love for him will diminish and be gone from your heart and you will be happy again before you know it.