Angelica Posted December 25, 2004 Share Posted December 25, 2004 I'm 30, married with kids. Very unhappy in my marriage (with no obvious reason since my husband is a great guy) I started to look for passion and accidentally got into relationship with the married man. He said that he has no passion in his life. His wife is nice but he doesn't love her, blah, blah, blah. At first it was convenient. You know for sure that it will be discreet. Both of us are not interested in any complications. I knew its not going anywhere but I wanted the excitement, adventure and passion. But then I started to be involved emotionally and I feel that I'm falling in love. He doesn't share the same feelings toward me and made it clear that his family is the first priority for him. I'm a beautiful woman, independent, smart and sexy. He is much older then me. Yet I'm trying to impose myself on him. Feel upset if he doesn’t contact me, I invite him over etc. It's a first time in my life that I'm not a queen in the relationship and man doesn't worship me. I know it's disrespectful toward myself and very disturbing. But I feel a deep pain when I think that I need to let him go. I never told him what I feel because it will scare him out. I think I want two different advises: first, how to get out of this without much pain. And second, maybe there is a way to make him fall in love with me, to keep him? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted December 25, 2004 Share Posted December 25, 2004 I wouldn't say "accidentally" as in "whoops, I'm sorry I fell and my dick slipped in" I would say more as in "I recognized the signs of attraction but failed to stem them before the relationship turned sexual. Of course you feel for him-over an extended period of time you'd be hard pressed as a woman NOT to, as we tend to give our hearts with our bodies. But beware. You are EVER so f*cked now. ROYALLY f*cked. Your feelings will continue to increase until it makes you clingy, and him panic and drop you faster than a greasy baby in a hospital delivery room. Did I mention you were f*cked on an astronomical scale? This is only going to end in heartache. PLEASE PLEASE believe that he will not leave his wife for you, ever no matter how good the p*ssy is because he doesn't love you-he'll just replace it further down the line. There is no way for you to keep him around. The way to end this with less pain is for you to profess your undying love for him-the minute the words leave your lips you'll realize just how hollow they sound. It's not good to keep your emotions in, so tell him how you feel. Then tell him that you will not continue to sleep with him. You are fooling yourself into thinking your love for this man is valid. It's not-have you left your husband yet? You're BORED-and you've got a toy dangling in front of you that you want but can't have. YOu don't even want him, you just want to know he'd give up EVERYTHING for you. If he started to pursue you to the point where it was threatening your family life you'd be sh*tting bricks. Wake up, and smell the reality. Affairs happen. Your feelings are fabricated-please just walk away and consider yourself VERY lucky you haven't gotten caught. Oh, and for christ's sake if you're unhappy in your marriage LEAVE. Don't put your family through the hell of finding out you're sleeping with people other than your husband. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angelica Posted December 25, 2004 Author Share Posted December 25, 2004 You're so right. Thanks. I just needed to hear it again Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted December 25, 2004 Share Posted December 25, 2004 I do as well. Not a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Zoot Posted December 27, 2004 Share Posted December 27, 2004 Read you quote. Run like HECK cause the ice weasles are close at bay. You can get thru this.....don't go there again. Link to post Share on other sites
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