ExGirlfriend calls after 25 days of NC - needed

[Tactical Mind]

How much time do we need u think?

 

Alotta time bro.

 

Give yourself enough time to learn to enjoy the things you did with her, without her.

 

When you can do the things you both did together by yourself or with friends and not feel any regret/remorse... when you've given yourself enough time to look at your relationship from an outside perspective where YOU can clearly state what was that went wrong.

 

At that point, you'll be ready to respond with logic and not just pure emotion and "heart."

 

Don't bother regaining her if you can't first take care of you and fix your own personal issues.

[BC1980]

UPDATE

 

SHE HAS CALLED ME 45 TIMES TODAY! AND SHE KEEPS CALLING AND BEGGING!

 

Looks like things are going the way i planned them to.

 

Why would you want this? Clearly, a mature adult, capable of a relationship, would respect you and leave you alone.

[bubbaganoosh]

UPDATE

 

SHE HAS CALLED ME 45 TIMES TODAY! AND SHE KEEPS CALLING AND BEGGING!

 

Looks like things are going the way i planned them to.

 

Dude. Here's a real good idea. ANSWER THE DAMN PHONE! Talk to her and this time try acting like an adult. Listen to what she has to say. If she still is interested then meet somewhere and talk about it. If not then you know where you stand and you can move on.

 

My God, I don't call 45 people in a month. Your two are playing a game in which who can out ignore the best. You wanted her to call and she did. Now it's up to 45 times and you wont answer the phone when you wanted her to call. Call her back or text her and let her know that your phone went on the blink and talk to her or put a fork in the relationship and call it dead. Your choice friend.

[r321148]

How much time do we need u think?

 

I may have got the wrong end of this one.

What is your objective here? If you just want to make her beg and plead and possibly get her back in the short term and leave again feeling like you won...then I think you may meet that.

If your objective is to get back together and make things last then I think you need a lot of time.

Assuming it's the second one then the first step is to sort out your mindset.

When it goes from "how can I make her beg me" to "why do we keep breaking up and how can we work on our problems and build a lasting relationship" you might be able to talk to her and discuss why you keep breaking up and see if you can work your issues out. That means you and her....you probably both have some blame in why your relationship is so volatile and you both probably have work to do which will take time. Until then there is no point in even thinking of a relationship with her and you should just continue no contact and work on improving yourself.

[dvx]

Quick update. She stopped calling for 2 days until yesterday she called. I did not answer, several hours later i texted her what do you want? She texted back "did you call me yesterday?" LOL. My reply was No i did not call you nor won't call you, leave me alone.

 

She is really afraid that i've found another girl.

 

The thing is when i try to reach out to here, she becomes cold and says stuff like "it's over for a reason, don't contact me if i want to talk to you i will contact you" And when i ignore her she ****i**g calls and acts nice. Wtf should i do, keep ignoring her?

Edited November 30, 2013 by dvx

[BC1980]

Don't engage with her. The only way to win is to ignore and walk away. She is getting high on the drama.

[dvx]

Don't engage with her. The only way to win is to ignore and walk away. She is getting high on the drama.

Yes, but what to do when i actually want her?

[BC1980]

Yes, but what to do when i actually want her?

 

I don't know what to say because this seems really immature on both sides. Calling back and forth multiple times, then ignoring each other. If you go NC, stick to it. I don't see this ending well if you keep engaging with her.

[amorydiver]

wow. dvx. ill tell you one thing... you two are both nuts.

[dvx]

I don't know what to say because this seems really immature on both sides. Calling back and forth multiple times, then ignoring each other. If you go NC, stick to it. I don't see this ending well if you keep engaging with her.

 

She is the immature one, i don't want to keep doing this but it's the only thing that i must do. Because as soon as i answer her or call her she becomes cold and acts like an idiot to me and knows that I'm there waiting for her.

 

So the only thing i can do is play this worthless game of ignoring so she might think i've moved on forever and maybe change her mind for real. What else is there for me to do? I really want her back and wish i never had to do it like this.

[r321148]

You could stop playing?

If you really think that's what she's doing then she doesn't care very much for you. In that case you shouldn't want her back.

[aliveagain]

Change your phone number, change your email address, if there is a girl she hate's or is jealous of, send her address as your new change of address.

[dvx]

Last night she called me at 3:am I didn't answer. Tonight she sent a text "do you want to pick up your stuff or what?"

 

I didn't answer that either. Is this an excuse to meet me? Or she simply wants to give back my "stuff". It's just a 5 dollar t-shirt and a half empty old perfume lol. She called about this a month ago and i told her to throw it away.

[strive]

She's trying to get a reaction from you again. If she persists, tell her again to throw them away.

[dvx]

She's trying to get a reaction from you again. If she persists, tell her again to throw them away.

 

I got another text from her few hours ago "you're a jerk! i hate you"

 

Still no reply from me.

[Simon Phoenix]

She is the immature one, i don't want to keep doing this but it's the only thing that i must do. Because as soon as i answer her or call her she becomes cold and acts like an idiot to me and knows that I'm there waiting for her.

 

So the only thing i can do is play this worthless game of ignoring so she might think i've moved on forever and maybe change her mind for real. What else is there for me to do? I really want her back and wish i never had to do it like this.

 

Dude, you are plenty immature in your own right. I'm guessing you are 16 years old.

[dvx]

Dude, you are plenty immature in your own right. I'm guessing you are 16 years old.

 

I don't see your point here? And I'm 25 FYI.

[Simon Phoenix]

I don't see your point here? And I'm 25 FYI.

 

I'm saying you are conducting yourself like an immature child throughout this. I think you and this ex deserve each other from what I'm reading -- just a lot of petulant, adolescent behavior going on from the both of you.

[dvx]

I'm saying you are conducting yourself like an immature child throughout this. I think you and this ex deserve each other from what I'm reading -- just a lot of petulant, adolescent behavior going on from the both of you.

 

It may look like that but trust me, I'm only playing by the cards I'm dealt with. Obviously she gets attracted to me when I'm acting like this. I've tried all the mature ways, none of them worked with her. Im guessing the "chase" is attracting her. Im starting to get the "i can't live without you" texts from her now. But I will remain ice cold for another few weeks atleast.

[Simon Phoenix]

It may look like that but trust me, I'm only playing by the cards I'm dealt with. Obviously she gets attracted to me when I'm acting like this. I've tried all the mature ways, none of them worked with her. Im guessing the "chase" is attracting her. Im starting to get the "i can't live without you" texts from her now. But I will remain ice cold for another few weeks atleast.

 

The fact that you want a woman that acts like this says a lot about you. And not much of it good. Why not find an emotionally mature woman that you don't feel compelled to play manipulative games with? Are you that insecure and lacking that much self-respect?