2 months long enough to see each other again?

[sportygirl84]

Okay so I met someone over the summer through a dating website and we actually hit it off quite well. I met his family fairly soon and we always had a blast together. We were always acting in love, kissing, holding hands, being so mushy it would sort of gross people out. We were the couple in the restaurant who would always have to sit right next to each other and yes that was us. So right before he goes on a business trip I didn't want to spend the night. I had my reasons, I wasn't feeling well but he had everything I needed but I was being a pain and went home. He leaves for a month on his business trip and can't see me. When he comes back, he isn't exactly excited to see me and felt like I was acting weird towards him and I felt he was acting weird towards me. We end up fighting for the first time and it was really bad. We just never got over the fight and by the end of that week we are splitting up. He thought we were over or assumed when we weren't.

 

Recently he's been dating other people and has told me they all aren't great but it's going okay and that he misses me. I am finally not dating anyone right now and he's thrilled about it. Or he seems to act like it.

 

We haven't seen each other for 2 months but we have occasionally talked and there has been some bickering back and fourth because I am hurt about what he did and how he just gave up. And then the big wammy happened: He stood me up a week ago and told me he forgot about our plans of meeting up. I was pissed and told him off. I felt incredibly insulted. It made no sense because he has NEVER done anything that cruel before towards me. He told me it wasn't intentional and I do know he has been working like a slave lately to his work.

 

I wasn't his official girlfriend and that was a problem for me. He told me I should of told him my real feelings and he had no idea I wanted more. I also found out that his mother was pissed off at him for ending things and that his whole family really liked me.

 

Anyways, things have gotten a lot better we are talking and want to have an official date. He is even calling me now, which I thought he wouldn't do. He is stepping up but I am concerned that we will have the same problems again? He didn't communicate very well with me. I understand people's feelings get hurt sometimes but he wouldn't tell me about how it hurt him that I didn't spend the night and that happened 3 months ago.

 

Please advise. I really do care about this guy and would like this to workout if it's possible?

[r321148]

I'm not sure what your question is?

 

Are you asking if you should try again?

[d0nnivain]

Until I got to the part where he stood you up, I was going to be optomistic & say OK try again.

 

I hate to say this but from your post I get the feeling this guy is settling for you. He doesn't really care about you & you're not a priority for him but you are better then what else is out there & you don't make him work too hard for it. If you are OK being second fiddle & a place holder until somebody better comes along, go ahead & rekindle this but if you aren't move on by letting him go.