brokenhearted9 Posted December 25, 2004 Share Posted December 25, 2004 Hi all, New update now. My ex and I have decided to date again so we are doing things hangingout and sleeping together. Well for the holidays he wasn'd doing much and so I said maybe you can drop by and finally meet the family. We dated for 8 months and I never introduced him for fear that my paretns might hate him because he is of a different race than my family. Well He once said he wants to meet them because he flew me all the way to france to meet his family and it was a big emotional investment and not once did I ever want him to meet mine and kid around saying I want to know who I am married to. Well fast forward to today we broke up because of his pervy ways ( he likes to flirt with women to get validation,loves porn etc) and so we're just dating. He gave me an ipod for christmas and wants me to spend new years with him so I am thinking he does love me but I can't tell. He says he wants me to be more vulnerable with him and I am not sure what that means. I am a bit cauteous because I caught him going on the net to flirt with other women. In any event I am so confused. I don't know if I should distance myself and let time decide if he really loves me or if I should keep on trying to work at it or else he will feel rejected and move on and that's not what I want . I considered telling him to date others and see if he wants me but I am not sure if that's wise. Please someone, give me advice about how not to ruin this and to see if it is the real thing. Link to post Share on other sites
indigo_moon Posted December 25, 2004 Share Posted December 25, 2004 In a somewhat recent thread of yours, you posted how WHILE you were dating, you caught him checking out the online sex dating sites........but you justified this tacky behavior by saying he was "just curious".....and the reason for your recent post was because you'd recenctly FOUND his profile there. Now you're back with him and SLEEPING with him? Are you looking to get AIDS? Or Herpes? Or Hepatitis B? or Genital Warts? He's a potentially walking-disease who placed an ad online, looking for random sex with any stranger......and you're SLEEPING WITH HIM? Scary. So big deal he bought you an iPod, maybe that was done to suck you back in and "keep you hanging on" while he's out flirting with women and God knows what else. And big deal he offered to meet your family...........he didn't show any interest (that you admitted) in the 8 months you were together, suddenly now he's interested? And WOW, he wants to spend New Years with you.................he might be the kind of perv who gets comfort from knowing he has a naive lil' woman back at home waiting for him. A shame you gave him another chance, I'd say. Here's ONE of your recent posts telling what dog he is: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=360970#post360970 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted December 25, 2004 Share Posted December 25, 2004 How can you "break up" and now be "just dating"? One thing is for sure, he loves the p*ssy you give him-I've got a feeling not meeting your family is a big song and dance that gets him sympathy points he can cash in when he does things like look for oral sex online-he probably does not give a rat's ass if he ever meets your family. Once in a while, he'll feel ashamed of his behaviour and do things like fly you to France or buy you an IPOD (please note that real women would much rather have a man that's not a loser than one who is and buys them junk)and you confuse this with "love". If he hasn't actually asked you to marry him and says junk like that it's so he can keep you interested and in "love" and keep you putting out. So, you need to grow up and realize that him buying you stuff and humping you does not mean he "loves" you. Link to post Share on other sites
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