Author Froelich87 Posted November 20, 2013 Author Share Posted November 20, 2013 She's not making you do anything. You are bringing this on yourself. You poked the bear and the bear started talking sh*t. And if she really wanted you back, she'd contact you -- not passive-aggressively use your brother as a go-between. So no, until she makes a real play, she doesn't want you back. She just wants to know that you are still there as an option and guess what? -- you've pretty much told her that in capital letters and exclamation points through your brother. You need to learn to stop meddling and need to stop imploding and going to sh*t when something out of your control happens. Nah, she knows nothing about me. Just that I'm doing well and taking things day by day. C'mon man, we have all been here. Including you. Can't we be positive and actually give me some examples on what I need to do to get my **** together? I just wqnt to be okay again. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Nah, she knows nothing about me. Just that I'm doing well and taking things day by day. C'mon man, we have all been here. Including you. Can't we be positive and actually give me some examples on what I need to do to get my **** together? I just wqnt to be okay again. Several posters have given you things to do. It's not going to be a quick fix though. And yes, I've been here. And I listened to what other posters had to say and it helped me a ton. I didn't ignore advice or try to argue against it. As for being positive, I really don't know what you want us to say. You did one really awful thing and wrote a letter that was universally panned as bad. I'm not sure what you are looking to hear here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Froelich87 Posted November 20, 2013 Author Share Posted November 20, 2013 Several posters have given you things to do. It's not going to be a quick fix though. And yes, I've been here. And I listened to what other posters had to say and it helped me a ton. I didn't ignore advice or try to argue against it. As for being positive, I really don't know what you want us to say. You did one really awful thing and wrote a letter that was universally panned as bad. I'm not sure what you are looking to hear here. I never sent it. You're right. Guess I'll just keep moving forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Armyguy123 Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 I know everyhing sucks about this. Just try to picture yourself a 6 months out, then a year out. This girl by then might make you cringe by then, and make you go REALLY?! I let this girl do that to me... That's I'm trying to picture. (again easier said than done) Mine was not only the first one I loved, but I loved her family as well and was mentally getting ready to propose by the end of next year or so. Again it sucks, but its a hard life lesson learned. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Have to agree with SP. No one is criticizing you, just giving advice, and being honest about it. Sometimes the honest advice is the hardest advice. Your letter was probably very therapeutic for you, but it's also something that needs to continue to be kept to yourself. We've all been here, and there's a lot of tough work ahead of you, I hate to say! But it's all worth it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 I never sent it. You're right. Guess I'll just keep moving forward. That's what you should be doing always. It's up to her to run and catch up if she chooses, it's not up to you to look back and she where she is. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Welcome to the boat Froelich. You're now in the same situation as every dumpee here going NC. You've reached that point were every word you give her is a step backwards. Think of it like chess, you've made moves to win her back but everything you do now will lead to a loss. Keep whatever pieces you have left and don't let her take anymore. You may regret it like I did. I wish I walked away with every pawn on the table. We're all hurt, we're all trying to move on and heal. Some of us would accept the return of their ex if they came back genuinely sorry and wanting another chance. There's nothing you can do and I'm sorry I really am. It will get better. Stick around the forum you'll a lot about relationships and why people do things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Froelich87 Posted December 19, 2015 Author Share Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Good to be back!!! Edited December 19, 2015 by Froelich87 Link to post Share on other sites
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