Author Meadowgreen Posted December 2, 2013 Author Share Posted December 2, 2013 Meadow, A few posters tagging on have opinions on J. I'm of the mindset anyone forming an opinion on J's intentions or his character are doing so based on your description of him alone. I don’t believe you asked the board to categorize J, rather you asked for advice on how to deal with his reentry into your life and should you "Block and Ignore" him electronically. Such advice was given and you took action. I thought we can leave J alone now and consider any assumptions on his intentions a rather moot point in my opinion not to mention it appears OT in someways. Meadow, what are your thoughts? Are you all good? I'm good. I'm sorry I let this thread get a bit derailed. I guess I was caught on a sad night. Don't worry, I know I did the right thing in blocking him. I feel a lot better now after some sleep Thanks everyone Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 No apology needed, rather I meant my comments to support you. I'm good. I'm sorry I let this thread get a bit derailed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
felicity1 Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 ....J would drop in details about chicks he was pursuing or sleeping with, even going as far as asking advice on what to do about a girl he was falling in love with! ..........he never saw me as gf material. ..... J pops up from time to time to catch up, and always manages to sprinkle in details about all the women he's shagging that aren't me. He never asks me questions about my boyfriend ..... /QUOTE] J sounds like a typical sick in the head narcissisist. He has manipulated you b/c you allowed it to happen. It says something about your level of self-worth. He's so full of himself he really couldn't give a crap about you. Why are you letting a man like this get under your skin? He's rubbish! Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 You're offbase...real all the threads before you comment, please. ....J would drop in details about chicks he was pursuing or sleeping with, even going as far as asking advice on what to do about a girl he was falling in love with! ..........he never saw me as gf material. ..... J pops up from time to time to catch up, and always manages to sprinkle in details about all the women he's shagging that aren't me. He never asks me questions about my boyfriend ..... /QUOTE] J sounds like a typical sick in the head narcissisist. He has manipulated you b/c you allowed it to happen. It says something about your level of self-worth. He's so full of himself he really couldn't give a crap about you. Why are you letting a man like this get under your skin? He's rubbish! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meadowgreen Posted December 2, 2013 Author Share Posted December 2, 2013 ....J would drop in details about chicks he was pursuing or sleeping with, even going as far as asking advice on what to do about a girl he was falling in love with! ..........he never saw me as gf material. ..... J pops up from time to time to catch up, and always manages to sprinkle in details about all the women he's shagging that aren't me. He never asks me questions about my boyfriend ..... /QUOTE] J sounds like a typical sick in the head narcissisist. He has manipulated you b/c you allowed it to happen. It says something about your level of self-worth. He's so full of himself he really couldn't give a crap about you. Why are you letting a man like this get under your skin? He's rubbish! You're right. I did allow him to manipulate me, because at the tender age of 20 and living quite a sheltered life I didn't know what to look out for in a textbook narcissist, as you clearly do seen as you're the world's leading psychiatrist. Thank you so very much for floating down from your ivory tower to share you infinite wisdom with us mere mortals. It says something about your inflated self-importance that you didn't even do your research before piping up. If you'd bothered to read the thread, you would know that I had already dealt with J as of two weeks ago. Next time, exercise a little observation before hamfistedly shoving your 2 cents into the mix. Much obliged. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meadowgreen Posted December 2, 2013 Author Share Posted December 2, 2013 No apology needed, rather I meant my comments to support you. Thank you, I appreciate it. The whole experience has given me a lot to think about, and for the most part it's very positive Link to post Share on other sites
felicity1 Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 You're right. I did allow him to manipulate me, because at the tender age of 20 and living quite a sheltered life I didn't know what to look out for in a textbook narcissist, as you clearly do seen as you're the world's leading psychiatrist. Thank you so very much for floating down from your ivory tower to share you infinite wisdom with us mere mortals. It says something about your inflated self-importance that you didn't even do your research before piping up. If you'd bothered to read the thread, you would know that I had already dealt with J as of two weeks ago. Next time, exercise a little observation before hamfistedly shoving your 2 cents into the mix. Much obliged. Sorry Meadowgreen, I should have read the thread. I was triggered by your post as I am at present going through a similar experience. I was probably projecting my own feelings onto you. Sorry. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
felicity1 Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 Sorry Meadowgreen, I should have read the thread. I was triggered by your post as I am at present going through a similar experience. I was probably projecting my own feelings onto you. Sorry. I've got "dad" issues too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meadowgreen Posted December 3, 2013 Author Share Posted December 3, 2013 [/i] Sorry Meadowgreen, I should have read the thread. I was triggered by your post as I am at present going through a similar experience. I was probably projecting my own feelings onto you. Sorry. Don't worry about it Felicity, I'm guilty too of sometimes zooming straight to the end of a threat and firing off something without taking in all the details (I'm definitely in Team TL;DR, haha) I appreciate you writing back though, and I'm sorry I reacted the way I did. Everything you said was true and that's probably why it stung a fair bit Sad to hear you're dealing with a Narc as well. They really are like an atom bomb to the heart, the way they conduct themselves. I dunno if you've been doing any research on Narcs but I've found a great blog that specifies in how to deal with them, worth taking a look if you're interested: Surviving a Narcissist - The Path Forward | Lisa E. Scott Yeah those crap Dads...they have a lot to answer for! *shakes fist* Take care Link to post Share on other sites
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