tegteg Posted December 26, 2004 Share Posted December 26, 2004 Well what im goin to say is kinda F'ed up but PLS dont take it the wrong way any if you have ANY input at all PLS PLS tell me..... First off I posted this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t53350/ bout a week ago... And may end up asking this lady out. Ill call her M... But heres my new delima..... My Ex J called me that night at my freidns house(in the other post) First time i talked to her in bout 8 moths..Me and her been talkin this past week (by way of me working on her car)(i know im to nice) anywho, i havent had really any contact with her cept what i hear from friends and what not for bout 9ish or so months (we've been broke up over a yr) said she just wanted to be friends for now when we broke up... Now J "seems" very interested again in me, flirty and teasing etc.... But whats really getting to me is that she looks deep into my eyes again while we have chatted the last couple times and is very interested in what i have to say and what im doing... I just came from her work (just there to drop off a movie to her and ended up chatting for bout 2 hrs) shes a good person i belive @ heart but im not to sure if i should see were this could go with her again.... I DONT want to get hurt again, but i know that if i want to take the chance it is a chance i am willing to take..... J wants to go out snowboarding. But stated she would only go with me? I didnt really understand that, but took it as she would go if i taught her? (duh).... This was my first LOVE and i have known her for a looong time and can read her very well, for the most part.... But this, this put me in spin cycle... I get so lost in her when we are talking that i start to pull away. (Gun Shy.. Ya blame me?) hehe Soooooo my lady friend M will not be back to ask out till next month (out of town visiting parents) and have time to see were this could go with the ex... I do still love her and if the chance arose i will get back with her, cause i belive things happen, times change and the things that happen in time change the ppl..... Now i would like to note that the other lady is NOT on my back burner and will be used... I dont belive in such things and WILL NOT lead anyone on..... What im asking.... 1: Is J the ex just wanting to get back together or just patch things up and be friends still but be close or playin? 2: What are things i could say/do to fig out a lil more from her other then just flat out asking? 3: Should i just let time tell and play it out? I do understand there no real answer but i do need to hear others opinons... Especially WOMENS PLS! Sorry for such a long post i seem to end up doing that..... I know i know it sounds retarded but if you have ANY any info for me AT ALL pls let me hear it... Even if its bad...... TIA Sooo much DG Link to post Share on other sites
Zoot Posted December 27, 2004 Share Posted December 27, 2004 If you still love J....why would you involve M in your life? And if you still love J....WHY do you? Are you also the lost love of her life....or a convenient mechanic. Women can be cruel. You better weigh out motives before making a plan. If you aren't careful.....you will hurt yourself....and M....due to J's bad car motor. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tegteg Posted December 27, 2004 Author Share Posted December 27, 2004 Zoot good way of putting it... Thank You Much! *bow* But M was there befor J had cantacted me... And now M is out of town, M is a friend of mine that has been flirting with me tha last couple times ive seen her but i have not asked her out and cant tell if shes JUST a flirt or would like to go out... I do still love J but i will always love her, just not as deep as i used to... My feelings have subsied (sp?) quite a bit for her. Soo i fig if J is true about it then she'll end up showing it this next week, if not then i guess all it was, was being a good mechanic... I am trying to weigh out the motives and thats why i am here so i dont hurt M and to get others opinons and expereance's... TIA DG Link to post Share on other sites
YssaBoo Posted December 27, 2004 Share Posted December 27, 2004 EXCUSE ME!!! Women are cruel...I think the shoe can fit both ways...My ex broke up with me and after 5 months we are talking again...we both needed to grow up emotionally and I have succeeded...Maybe she just needed time apart to see if you ARE the one...Alot of people have told me that when you are under the no contact that they wonder what you are doing and with whom you are doing it with. Feelings just don't subside over night unless you are a cold and uncaring person. Talk with her friends without her knowing or just go out on the date and see where it goes from there...The book that is floating around on How to Get Your Ex Back is really good...Find a post with the link and even though alot of time has passed...maybe there is some info in the latter half of the book that will help you figure her out... I finally got the nerve after 2 months of talking with my ex again to invite him to a party...he didn't say yes or no...just where it was and the time...So time heals all wounds and the book said when you do see your ex again,make the first date short even though you want to make it last longer and whatever you do...DO NOT bring up the past...it will show that you haven't changed and still dwelling on it...You need to show her that you don't need her but that you desire to be with her and show her a new you!!! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author tegteg Posted December 27, 2004 Author Share Posted December 27, 2004 YssaBoo: Ur excussed! Well she broke up with me and would not give a reason why. Soo i left it at that and yes your right it does go both ways... But in this instence shes the one contacting me and is talking to me and yet i still cant tell if its just her being her old self and just wants to be friends or what... Kinda confusing. Im usually pretty good bout reading ppl and especially her but cant quite tell right now.... Not enough time i guess.... I fixed her car today and she said thx and she appreciates it. And (me letting her drive my baby to work) (whew its not totaled haha). I am not going to contact her again, till she contacts me. I fig. this will tell me all i need to know, if she calls and only asks for favors again then thats all it is and is only being her old self, but if she wants to know how im doing and wants to see me or something again, well then it may end up being diff. TY ill check around and see if i can find it.... *bow* Im just trying to fig. out if theres an easyer way or something someone has said or done to end up find out... Going out may end up happening but i dun know, still kinda werry bout it, if i was to i will just flat out ask her... TIA guys/girls DG Link to post Share on other sites
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