After some much needed tips

[Hugo12]

Hey guys, I'm going away in January with a group of friends and a couple of other people I haven't met. I'm the one incharge or organising it all so I've got to message everyone all the details ect.

 

I was messaging one of the girls who was coming away some of the details, prices ect. We'd never talked before but we have some mutual friends, we continued to talk after about general stuff, she's so nice, I genuinely enjoyed talking to her and I thought we had a lot in common.

 

I messaged her a week or two after that just to have a general chat and that went really well. She honestly seems just my type and I would love to see if I can take things in the more than friends direction.

 

I want to make some sort of move before the trip because she can only come for three nights and in a house with 20 others it would be hard to start doing that.

 

She also lives an hour away so I can't just ask her on a date, I'm really not sure how to go about it so any advice would be appreciated.

[d0nnivain]

An hour isn't that far. Just ask her on the date.

[Shepp]

Be bold brother! Ask her to meet up before hand.

 

Failing that get yourself a wingman - someone whos a mutual friend to arrange a more intimate outing - just a few of you so she knows you better so you can then ask her out.

[Hugo12]

An hour isn't that far. Just ask her on the date.

We've only talked a couple of times so I think it's to early to ask her on the date I'm not sure how to go from the just talking stage to been able to ask her out on a date.

Be bold brother! Ask her to meet up before hand.

 

Failing that get yourself a wingman - someone whos a mutual friend to arrange a more intimate outing - just a few of you so she knows you better so you can then ask her out.

I really would love to get meet up with her before we go away I'm just not sure how to get to that stage, I'm always getting Friendzoned so I'm not that keen on going through the fazes and becoming close friends first.

 

I had a mate try and be a wingman but he failed me bad and now I'm worried that he likes her...

[d0nnivain]

Call her up, tell her you have enjoyed talking to her over the phone & you'd love to get together to talk more about your upcoming trip. Pick someplace in the middle between you two & ask her to meet you there. Don't be shocked if she brings a friend. After you chat her up there, next time call & ask for an official date.

[Shepp]

I really would love to get meet up with her before we go away I'm just not sure how to get to that stage, I'm always getting Friendzoned so I'm not that keen on going through the fazes and becoming close friends first.

 

I had a mate try and be a wingman but he failed me bad and now I'm worried that he likes her...

 

If you dont want a wingman and you don't want to get into the friend zone then i guess you could set up a get together yourself - you, her and a couple of mutual mates

 

or you just go for it and ask her. Try and have another few chats with her first, so she thinks you seem a decent guy and not a psycho - get her number - purely for trip organising purposes of course then send her a text "forgive me if this is a bit forward as we havent met but I'd like to change that, so do you want to meet up for a drink/bowling/sports game/(whatever you think she'll agree to) next week? What's better for you Thursday or Saturday?"

 

(probably not exactly that becase I just made that up 10 seconds ago while giving my son his breakfast and you probably want to put more thought into it than that - always give her an Option of two days though, it's a sales technique but also in your case it's an easier get out for her, she can say she's busy without making it awkward for your trip)

 

The worst she can says no - and so what if she does? At least you know sooner rather than later, God loves a trier, and she knows you like her, she might think on it and watch you more closely on the trip.