TranslucentThoughts Posted December 26, 2004 Share Posted December 26, 2004 Alright. So, I decided to call my ex today and see if he wanted to get together and play some pool for a bit. This would have been our first time hanging out since we split about 3 months ago. I was really nervous about calling... and didn't know what I was going to say really... try and just be friendly and ask I suppose... catch up a bit... whatever. So, I finally got the nerve to call...and he wasn't even home. His daddy was very nice to me though. Asking me how I was and all... awww, he's so lovely! hehe. Anyway, the ex was staying at a friends place. So... damn. His Dad said he'd give him the message when he returned tomorrow... so... we'll see I guess. (his parents have always sucked at giving him messages though) Should I try back tomorrow? Cause I was planning this get together for Tuesday. I'm busy for the next week after that. Anyway...Yeah.... I could really use some suggestions on how to ask without sounding like I want to get back together or something. I am terrible at getting words out, especially on the phone for some reason. It makes me babble like a loon. You're all so helpful here and I really appreciate everyone who has ever given me advice! I lurve you all!!!!!!!!! Heh. Link to post Share on other sites
debs Posted December 26, 2004 Share Posted December 26, 2004 I really don't get it? He is you ex? He is off living his life? And you called to ask him if he wanted to hang? I would like to know what type of a response you are expecting?! If the ex cared would you two be apart? If the ex cared both of you would be hanging right now and working on your life together! I am sorry but why impose something as calling wanting to hang, when obviously the ex's are living their lives. They are free to do as they see fit without us! So why may I ask, bother? Yes it will probably be viewed as a last ditch effort to get back together by him. Is it you want him back? Or are you wanting to be nosy about what he is doing? Either way he is your ex and time to move on! Sorry but sometimes the truth is far better than candy coating things! Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted December 27, 2004 Share Posted December 27, 2004 I am also wondering if you do secretly hope you'll get back together? You seem fairly concerned about whether or not he'll call back. If you didn't really care, that probably wouldn't bother you too much. If you really have no such intentions, and he doesn't call back, I'd leave it a while before calling again, and then keep things casual, with no assumptions. Sometimes it's nice to be friends with an ex, but that usually happens after time, and can be tricky. Just wanting to hang out with an ex, does sound like you'd like more than that. I hope you arent upset if he doesnt want to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TranslucentThoughts Posted December 27, 2004 Author Share Posted December 27, 2004 Well, We did break up... so there was that time of little contact afterwards. But, I miss talking to him and hanging out. I do still love him and care about him and when we broke up he said he felt the same way. So... if that's true, why wouldn't he want to try hanging out? I figure I can at least ask him if he'd like to. If he says no, then he says no and we'll go back to not having any contact. It's not like i'll die over it. But, it makes me sad that we're like strangers when we were really close before. I do have my own life and I know that he has his... I just don't see the point of blocking people out who you know that you care about. Whether or not we get back together is not really the point...I have to see him everyday at school, and school sucks without having to avoid someone who I could just be able to talk to and be friendly with. Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted December 27, 2004 Share Posted December 27, 2004 You can give it a go then. But things do change when you've had a relationship, and just being friends can become more complicated. It can be a tough transition to make, finding a new balance. It depends I guess, on how serious you were, and how the breakup was.., The longer and more serious the relationship, the harder it can be. But I've known people to resume a friendship...which in time, did taper off when they each met a new partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TranslucentThoughts Posted December 27, 2004 Author Share Posted December 27, 2004 Yeah.. Well, I know that things change and that it can be hard... but i'll never know how a friendship would work out between us if I don't at least try. I'm friends with all of my ex's... maybe I'm just used to it working out that way so easily... Link to post Share on other sites
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