Hard to Get

[jjjj44]

Is it true that guys like it when a girl plays hard to get? And, furthermore, how exactly does one play hard to get?

Thanks!

[alphamale]

Originally posted by jjjj44

Is it true that guys like it when a girl plays hard to get? And, furthermore, how exactly does one play hard to get?

Thanks!

 

Both guys and gals like a challenge and when someone plays hard to get. The most valuable things in life are hard to get and take a lot of work. Why are diamonds so valuable and sought after? Cause they are very very rare.

 

A girl who has 10 men running after her will be much more valuable and desirable than the skank librarian who weighs 200 lbs and has no men interested in her. Same goes in reverse. Women like men who have other women interested in them cause his value goes up.

 

This is human nature and people always want what they cannot have or which is hard to get.

 

One plays the "hard to get" game by being less available, showing interest but not too much, giving some but not all, staying mysterious and making sure the person knows there are other people interested in you. Also by giving yourself but only doing it intermittently, not all the time.

 

It is all a sick game but a game one must be good at playing.

[amerikajin]

Alpha's right. I think there's something to be said for a woman who creates a little value for herself, and I'm sure the same is true in the reverse. I've noticed, though, that if a woman looks good, then frankly, she doens't really have to do much else - she's going to have an abundant supply of dumb men to remind her how beautiful she is, and (obliquely or not) tell her how much they'd love to get in her pants. I hasten to add that this generalization only applies to the initial stages of attraction and the first couple of dates - it doesn't hold true for the long-term, though, as men also require things like a brain, good personality, integrity etc...

 

We men are the ones who keep having problems figuring out how to play the game. That's because women actually want more than just good looks, and they'll even settle for less than a 10 if the guy has game - a fact of life which confuses the hell out of many a logic-driven male. A guy often makes the mistake of transferring his own belief system and approach to dating on to women, and it just doesn't work. We're either wired differently or conditioned differently.

 

But yes, generally, people like something they have to work a little harder for. It becomes more "valuable" to them, and the rewards of the hunt are greater.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by amerikajin

I've noticed, though, that if a woman looks good, then frankly, she doens't really have to do much else - she's going to have an abundant supply of dumb men to remind her how beautiful she is,

 

in my experience it is the rare beautiful woman who also develops her personality and mind and intellect.

 

beautiful women are all over. smart beautiful women are quite rare.

 

and i'm sure it applies to males also.

[moofer]

i think playing hard to get is annoying and a waste of time.

 

if i want a challenge, i'll play a video game.

[amerikajin]

Nevermind me, Alpha. I'm just making crass generalizations again.

 

I'm entitled to make at least a few every day, I think.