Maxtor Posted November 19, 2013 Share Posted November 19, 2013 So, lets pretend that I have a girl that i like, at work. She is very out going, likes to laugh, and she messes with guys, normal stuff, not flirting. Lets also pretend that i like her, and it causes me inner rage! I know its my issue, so i need some pointers in how to deal with it. What you guys think would be the best way? Last time it happened something similar i grabbed the guy by the neck. She didnt like it that much. Should i play cool? I would, but everyone see's in my face that im not cool lol. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2013 Share Posted November 19, 2013 If some guy who liked me but who I wasn't dating got physical with another guy b/c I flirted with the other guy, I would conclude the 1st guy is abusive & never interact with him again on any level. Rage is a Powerful emotion . . . way disproportionately too much for this situation. I'd look into some professional anger management. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maxtor Posted November 19, 2013 Author Share Posted November 19, 2013 If some guy who liked me but who I wasn't dating got physical with another guy b/c I flirted with the other guy, I would conclude the 1st guy is abusive & never interact with him again on any level. Rage is a Powerful emotion . . . way disproportionately too much for this situation. I'd look into some professional anger management. No, lol, the other time i was with her, he didnt know and got all cutchi cutchi over her and she was avoiding him. Was kinda a different story. Rage was me exagerating. What would be your advise then? Play it cool? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2013 Share Posted November 19, 2013 No, lol, the other time i was with her, he didnt know and got all cutchi cutchi over her and she was avoiding him. Was kinda a different story. Rage was me exagerating. What would be your advise then? Play it cool? OK. In that case, yes, you should play it cool. A big huge public dramatic display won't get you anywhere. If she is the type of girl who wants that -- who plays with guys & messes with their heads just to see them act all jealous, you don't need that in your life. If you like her, ask her on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 19, 2013 Share Posted November 19, 2013 You're asking for advice on how to be passive aggressive? Seriously? If you like her and want to ask her on a date, go for it. If you don't want to, then don't, and keep out of her interactions with other guys - they are none of your business. Link to post Share on other sites
Kate9292 Posted November 19, 2013 Share Posted November 19, 2013 So, lets pretend that I have a girl that i like, at work. She is very out going, likes to laugh, and she messes with guys, normal stuff, not flirting. Lets also pretend that i like her, and it causes me inner rage! I know its my issue, so i need some pointers in how to deal with it. What you guys think would be the best way? Last time it happened something similar i grabbed the guy by the neck. She didnt like it that much. Should i play cool? I would, but everyone see's in my face that im not cool lol. Thanks. So you grabbed a guy by the neck? Actually I'd like a bit of jealousy, but what you did would be too much. Maybe if we were bf and gf already... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maxtor Posted November 19, 2013 Author Share Posted November 19, 2013 So you grabbed a guy by the neck? Actually I'd like a bit of jealousy, but what you did would be too much. Maybe if we were bf and gf already... Yes, was another girl i was with, we were dating but no one knew. I didnt like that way he was messing with her, and she was avoiding him so i grabbed him by the neck. Link to post Share on other sites
Kate9292 Posted November 19, 2013 Share Posted November 19, 2013 Yes, was another girl i was with, we were dating but no one knew. I didnt like that way he was messing with her, and she was avoiding him so i grabbed him by the neck. Oh, if she was avoiding him and he might be actually threatening and you tried to protect her, I would say you did the right thing. But for just "a girl you like" you need to keep it in check. Link to post Share on other sites
SmartDude Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 Just realize that she is not your girl. Don't go into "relationship mode", with her or you will drive her away. Ask her out when she is in a good mood. Just find out if there is mutual attraction as quick as possible. If you think about her a lot and do nothing, you will build up an image of her in your head that has nothing to do with the reality of who she is as a person. Then your screwed! Link to post Share on other sites
fixing Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 yeah, ask her out on a date man. But it will not make any sense to her, or anyone watching if you go getting aggressive and strong arming other men because of her lol. Just be cool now, and wait for your chance to ask her out. Dont be shy. Link to post Share on other sites
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