Tony T Posted January 21, 2001 Share Posted January 21, 2001 Your whole situation is riddled with problems. You are in a bad marriage (vulnerable), you like a guy at work (bad), he's much older (seeks ego satisfaction in a young chick), he's married (even worse), he's not very communicative (bad), you have no idea where you stand with him (bad) and to top it off he has problems with sex (why would you want that, you've alread got problems at home?). If you're having problems with your marriage, either work on them or get a divorce and find somebody who doesn't work where you do and who is available for a healthy relationship. This guy at work is a dead end in many ways. He's not going to get a divorce, he's not serious about you...just flirting and sees you as an attractive young girl he can mess around with at work...kind of like Monica Lewinsky. And the guy is MARRIED. Why would you expect him to be verbally and emotionally intimate with you? You really have needs that aren't being met at home...but you need to find them other than with this dude. Best of luck to you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Catari Posted January 21, 2001 Share Posted January 21, 2001 Mysterious are, indeed, sources and reasons of attraction among people. My prediction concerning your situation is a possible fatal attraction. Try to fix your problems not by adding more to your life. I MARRIED WITH TWO CHILDREN BUT NOT VERY HAPPY IN THE MARRIAGE. ABOUT TWO YEARS AGO I STARTED TALKING TO A MARRIED MAN AT WORK WE BECAME REALLY GOOD FRIENDS WE TALK BY E-MAIL EVERY DAY AND I SEE HIM AT WORK BUT ONLY MAYBE TWO OR THREE TIMES A WEEK AND FOR ONLY HALF A HOUR AT A TIME. THE PROBLEM IS I HAVE REALLY STRONG FEELINGS FOR HIM I KNOW JUST BEING FRIENDS IS NOT RIGHT BUT WHAT CAN I DO I CANT LET HIM GO. WE HAVE NEVER HAD SEX BUT WE HUG AND KISS WHEN WE DO SEE EACH OTHER. WE HAVE FALLEN OUT QUITE A FEW TIMES ONLY BECAUSE WE SEEM TO WANT TO HURT EACH OTHER WE SEEM TO TAKE IT IN TURNS I DONT KNOW WHY. HE IS A LOT OLDER THAN ME BUT WE REALLY SEEM TO CLICK. I TELL HIM EVERY THING BUT I FEEL HE DOESNT TELL ME ANY THING BUT HE SAYS HE TELLS ME MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE AND HE TRUST ME BUT I DONT FEEL THIS. I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT HE WANTS OR WHY HE TALKS TO ME HE CAN BE A RIGHT COLD GET AT TIMES. HE AS A PROBLEM WITH SEX SO ITS NOT SEX THAT HE WANTS. COULD IT BE POSSIBLE THAT HE DOES HAVE ANY FEELINGS FOR ME ? OR IF ANY ONE AS ANY SUGGESTIONS WHAT IT IS HE IS AFTER PLEASE TELL HE REALLY CONFUSES ME AT TIMES Link to post Share on other sites
bootheelbabe Posted January 29, 2001 Share Posted January 29, 2001 Girl, do I need to talk to you. I am experiencing the same thing. We need to get in touch with each other. I got on this site for some advice, some was good, others were judgmental. Then I came across your message. I couldn't hardly believe my eyes. I'm married too with two kids and am very much attracted to another married man. So see, we have a lot in common. Some of the things you talked about is exactly how we are. Respond as soon as you can to this message and let's talk. I will send you my personal email address if you want. Hope to talk to you soon. I MARRIED WITH TWO CHILDREN BUT NOT VERY HAPPY IN THE MARRIAGE. ABOUT TWO YEARS AGO I STARTED TALKING TO A MARRIED MAN AT WORK WE BECAME REALLY GOOD FRIENDS WE TALK BY E-MAIL EVERY DAY AND I SEE HIM AT WORK BUT ONLY MAYBE TWO OR THREE TIMES A WEEK AND FOR ONLY HALF A HOUR AT A TIME. THE PROBLEM IS I HAVE REALLY STRONG FEELINGS FOR HIM I KNOW JUST BEING FRIENDS IS NOT RIGHT BUT WHAT CAN I DO I CANT LET HIM GO. WE HAVE NEVER HAD SEX BUT WE HUG AND KISS WHEN WE DO SEE EACH OTHER. WE HAVE FALLEN OUT QUITE A FEW TIMES ONLY BECAUSE WE SEEM TO WANT TO HURT EACH OTHER WE SEEM TO TAKE IT IN TURNS I DONT KNOW WHY. HE IS A LOT OLDER THAN ME BUT WE REALLY SEEM TO CLICK. I TELL HIM EVERY THING BUT I FEEL HE DOESNT TELL ME ANY THING BUT HE SAYS HE TELLS ME MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE AND HE TRUST ME BUT I DONT FEEL THIS. I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT HE WANTS OR WHY HE TALKS TO ME HE CAN BE A RIGHT COLD GET AT TIMES. HE AS A PROBLEM WITH SEX SO ITS NOT SEX THAT HE WANTS. COULD IT BE POSSIBLE THAT HE DOES HAVE ANY FEELINGS FOR ME ? OR IF ANY ONE AS ANY SUGGESTIONS WHAT IT IS HE IS AFTER PLEASE TELL HE REALLY CONFUSES ME AT TIMES Link to post Share on other sites
CONFUSED Posted February 4, 2001 Share Posted February 4, 2001 HI THERE I TOO WANTED ADVICE BUT ALL I GOT WAS ABUSE MAYBE RIGHTLY SO TOO. SEND E-MAIL ADDRESS WE WILL TALK HOPEFULLY YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP ME. WHO KNOWS Girl, do I need to talk to you. I am experiencing the same thing. We need to get in touch with each other. I got on this site for some advice, some was good, others were judgmental. Then I came across your message. I couldn't hardly believe my eyes. I'm married too with two kids and am very much attracted to another married man. So see, we have a lot in common. Some of the things you talked about is exactly how we are. Respond as soon as you can to this message and let's talk. I will send you my personal email address if you want. Hope to talk to you soon. Link to post Share on other sites
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