headinthecloud Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 He's not fulfilling your needs in the relationship and that's not healthy for you. It sounds like you have taken part in a one sided relationship. Of course he loves you, you've facilitated a life if leisure for him by doing all the work. I'm sure he is appreciative when you're together but it sounds like he's a bit of a narcissist. Keep in mind that if you do decide to go back to him that he will take more for granted as the relationship progresses. I agree with philosoraptor, make this a permanent break. It might be terribly hard to deal with the pain now, but you'll be happier being single in the long run. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted November 21, 2013 Author Share Posted November 21, 2013 Thank you Tarathehut and headinthecloud, I really appreciate the advice and like to hear both sides. :-) I understand the sternness of your opinions also. After some careful thought, because after all this is my relationship and my choice, I decided to work through it. I know that a few of you despise that choice and it's understandable. But after three years, I can't just give up, it's not my character. I feel like my relationship is worth more than walking away when things get tough. We talked last night. I talked about my issues with the relationship and I told him this is what I need from him, if he can't give that to me then I can't continue this relationship. I also said that if I don't see any change (because we all know actions speak louder than words) then I will have to rethink the relationship. He told me he doesn't want me to leave and he wants to work things out and we will start planning trips together and communicating more. I reminded him that his actions will play a bigger part in determining whether I stay or go. He seemed sincere and willing to do (versus just try). I love this man more than anything and he has always been there for me. We have been through a lot and there are times I hate him (in a silly, un-serious way), but there are many more times I really cherish him. I know I have problems that I need to sort out: co-dependency, insecurity, anxiety... I believe that if we both work out our problems and work as a team, it can and will survive. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 Just don't move in with him, at least not until you see effort and the willingness to change and be there for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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