Still in Love, but she wants out???

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Ok....Ive lurked here many times over the past few years dealing with breakups and whatnot. But now im married (for how much longer idk) and im at a complete loss. Here goes....

My wife and I are coming up on 2 years together next week, and have been married since April. Our relationship has been pretty rough at times, with a few breakups on her part cause she felt I wasn't fully invested in the relationship, but she would always say she missed me and couldn't be without me after a few days. Back in august I had to leave for 3 weeks of training, im in the Army Reserves, and our living situation fell apart, landlord made sexual advances towards her, and she was uncomfortable living there and called me telling me about it. Then out of the blue while I was still up there, she stopped talking to me and said she wanted a divorce, but wouldn't tell me why or even respond to me. A few days before I came back she called me out of the blue saying she was so sorry and that she missed me and was overwhelmed with everything and was upset I wasn't there with her, but understood it wasn't cause I didn't want too. Got back and I figured everything was ok the past few months. we had our disagreements, and a couple rough fights cause she wanted to go out with her friends all the time, and I wasn't always responsive to her needs and didn't show her affection a lot of times, but nothing that made me feel our relationship was in trouble. Around the 9th I totaled my car and ended up in the hospital, broke wrist, 3 broke ribs and bruised lungs. Before the accident happened I was upset with her but didn't want to fight so I told her I didn't want to talk or be around her at the time, and then left and that's when my accident happened. She didn't stay at the hospital with me that night and told through text that she didn't want to talk to me. Came up there the next morning and said that we needed to talk about our marriage. She left and said she would come back later that night and never did. I texted her that night and never got a response, and when I checked my facebook, she changed her marriage status to single and her last name back to her maiden name. I asked her about it and she said she was mad at me cause she thought I had wrecked my car on purpose cause I was mad at her. I do have anger problems and ive thrown a few things when we've fought but never at her. Anyways trying to make a long story short, get home last monday and she says she wants a separation and doesn't see us being able to work it out. So we talk, didn't turn into a fight, and she says I can stay at the house. Im out of work and wont be able to work until I get healed up, and I no longer have my own car, she has her car. I ask her what the point of the separation is like whats her end goal and she says to figure out if we are going to go our separate ways or if we cant live without each other, and her biggest issue is us fighting all the time. So I stayed at a friends house over the weekend and thought about our relationship and wrote her a letter saying I understood where I neglected her and pushed her to the side( which I had, and I realized that I didn't show her much affection except during sex) and I understood how she was feeling, and that I loved her. I gave her the letter sunday night when I got home and she cried saying it may be to late. I loved on her and we talked and she kind of responded to my affection but didn't initiate any of it. We have been sleeping in the same bed still, I was gonna sleep in the other room but she said she didn't want me too. Everything has seemed normal and we had been getting along, except she still wont initate any physical contact, until tonight when I told her I was confused about where we stood and asked her for one last chance.( Ive set up counseling and my wife agreed to go, but I had to cancel it cause her and my wifes schedule didn't work out). She said she didn't have it in her to give any more chances. She said shes still in love with me, still loves me and cares for me and doesn't want us too end, but doesn't have it in her to try one more time. I got emotional and it turned into a fight, she left the house and is staying at a friends, and I now have no idea where we stand. I love her and am willing to do anything to work on it but she doesn't want too. I apologized to her about blowing up and she told me that she had planned for us to go skiing in Christmas, that it was a surprise, but it doesn't matter anymore, we both ended up crying and I told her I was sorry, and she said she was too. What the hell do I do now? Any help would be appreciated, I know ive been kinda vague on some details, but I don't mind sharing those if needed, trying to keep it short. Im thinking I should back way off and not even talk to her unless she talks to me, but im not seeing any hope of reconciliation right now. Im stuck at the house all day cause I cant work till I heal up physically, and this **** is depressing. How can she be in love with me and not want to work on our marriage?