2unique Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 I have a friend that I have sex with (but I really like him) We go out in public, I have been in his apt many times day and night! He tells me he doesn't have a girlfriend or another fwb but I found it very strange when we do go out he always on his phone, messaging whoever and that really pisses me off! Also when I go home by him he has 2 toothbrush and tells me he have toothbrush all over the place. What are some things can I look for in his apt that tell me he have someone else? Btw I don't like sharing my fwb! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Ask? From a health perspective you need info re: disease, exposure etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
imtooconfused Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Btw I don't like sharing my fwb! I have a lot of problems understanding the FWB relationship, but if you place boundaries on your partner and expect exclusivity, I feel you have crossed the line into LTR. If that is the case, be very clear and set that expectation with your partner, but understand your partner may have other goals. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 FWB are not meant to be exclusive or have a strong emotional bond. It's just supposed to be fun. If you want an emotionally intimate, exclusive and committed r/s, FWB is not the way to go. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
deliciousD Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Then, is it okay to FWB with someone who has bf/gf? Link to post Share on other sites
rebamarvin Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 Ok so I am friends with this guy who is really nice and charming. About a year ago he suddenly asked me to be his girlfriend and I freaked out and rejected him. After a while we went back to being friends and I got to know him better and totally fell in love with him. I know he still likes me but as I have never had a boyfriend or anything before I don't know how to hint him I like him. It gets even harder because we all hang out in a group and in that same group are two other guys who asked me out (and I rejected them) too, so I feel awkward flirting. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted December 9, 2013 Share Posted December 9, 2013 ...is it okay to FWB with someone who has bf/gf? If you care to the slightest degree whether the FWB even has a bf/gf, then you have too much emotional involvement for FWB to be successful. Some large fraction of men (maybe even 50%+?) are emotionally capable of successful FWB (i.e. no pain and no regrets), but I doubt even 1% of women are. I do wish women would just say "No" to this craze.... Link to post Share on other sites
imtooconfused Posted December 9, 2013 Share Posted December 9, 2013 If you care to the slightest degree whether the FWB even has a bf/gf, then you have too much emotional involvement for FWB to be successful. Wow, so well stated. Most of the LoveShack FWB problems fall into this category. If you're 'just friends' then you shouldn't care if they have a gf/bf. In fact as a true friend, you should feel happy for them, and if you can't accept that, you have crossed the line emotionally. Link to post Share on other sites
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