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Dear, please, stop.

 

Stop all contact. I realize you are doing this, and you will go through ups and downs, but, for your own good, stop it now. I am terribly sorry he had done you this way - it is not right. He really deserves a fist in his face! You are going to have a battle on your hands; up and down, however, you will win.

 

It takes time, and failure, to succeed. It takes fighting depression that can develop. It evolves you regaining your sense of self, your ego. To adjust to being single, and develop independent likes apart from this creep.

 

Do not be too sad over breaking no contact. Emotions will run high, and you clearly loved this creep. This is not the end for you; oh, so many chances exist for you, in the future....

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Had to break this up, phone was being a pain, lol..

 

 

Look, I have been where you are now, and are going to be. The world appears grim, and you wonder why that person did you this way. One day that will end, you will not care as to why.

 

The why is clear in front of you. He is a creep. A loser. Someone who lies and hurts people, selfish. A manipulator. He has serious issues.

 

You were a light in his life, and he blew that candle out. Let him suffer for his own error. He will. What he and that ex/gf have will not last. He has not changed. He will do her, like he has done you.

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Thankyou I know you are right. Unfortunately im a sensative person I feel deeply. I admire this trait as I have the power to view thing's on another level, yes you do have bad times as in this case where he clearly has no remorse or empathy for his actions. I realized the person I thought he was is gone. Hes a new person, a horrible person. He always had the horrible person coming in every now and then. Now its in full swing while he plays out his fairytale in his head. Acting like the victim and turning it around on me.

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I hope one day he realizes what hes lost and regrets and feels bad for his actions. But I guess this is very unlikely to occur.

 

Mostlikely. Most people similar do not ever regret their actions.

 

I admire that you feel deeply. You seem like a very lovely lady. I am sure better awaits you. I too know what it is like to deeply love someone, and have them coldly spit in my face. Only be strong :) you're a real doll!

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Thankyou im sure trying my hardest to be strong. Its nice to know im not the only one whos had to deal with situations like this. I hope one day I can look back at this and laugh at him for the idiot he is. I guess I just hate that im suffering while hes living in a fantasy world.

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Thankyou im sure trying my hardest to be strong. Its nice to know im not the only one whos had to deal with situations like this. I hope one day I can look back at this and laugh at him for the idiot he is. I guess I just hate that im suffering while hes living in a fantasy world.

 

You're suffering will be temporary, really. His will come, and be more constant, due impart to his foolishness. He will always have trouble following him. You will have peace, one day. :) It always seems like they are happy....but, you cannot believe this. Even if they have some happiness, a lot of it is nothing. Social media posts, aren't always what they seem.

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Yes I agree with what you're saying. Thankyou it helps :)

 

Remember I will be here to help you with anything you need. Do not be afraid or shy to post how you're feeling. Whether good or bad. I love helping people, and you seem very nice :)

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Thankyou. I'm really struggling again. I miss him. We didn't have the best relationship as he was not over his ex and he's hurt me so much getting back with her and yet I still miss him, I don't understand it. I don't want to be thinking about him, I don't want to miss him. But I can't help it. I can't get over the feeling that he used me and that he never loved me, I just can't believe it, I mean I believe it I know his actions are not of someone who genuinely loves me, I just can't believe he used me.

 

I can't believe I fell for someone who used me. I wanted him to love me, I tried to help him, he did improve a little bit, but he was never going to be the right person for me. I think I'm just way to good for him. Wen I say way to good I don't mean in value of money or items, or job, I mean my heart, I feel, I care, he just was never capable of any of that. I remember 1 day he said to me it's so much better with you my ex never touched me but u touch me u make me feel loved. It's a shame he couldn't return the favour, making me feel loved that is. I guess I just wonder what she has that I don't? Why he's so besotted with her, I guess it's because she has his son, but yet again he couldn't even go and see him until I encouraged him. I just don't get it. Sometimes I wonder what's the point in being kind, pure, sensitive and loving, in the end you just get hurt.

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Being noble and honorable, a good and kind person is unquestionably a great thing. People like your ex, who are wicked, are not afraid to use people. People like him(many) will do whatever it takes to fulfill their needs and wants. They are free from the burden of what a genuine person would never do.

 

Unlike a genuine person, these cruel people will never have true respect and honor. They will never be as loved. A lot to lose in being a nasty person. He has no value in getting back with her; something anyway, senseless, and without real value. He will use her to make you jealous and it is working.

 

You will go through all types of emotion: Sorrow, Anger, joy and finally be at peace with this. You will bounce up and down between all emotions; till one day, you have had enough, and simply stop caring. Thus, enabling yourself to move on.

 

Time and what you now do with this time, and yourself, will determine how you will do in the future. Sitting still, only brings painful memories. Battle them, have your ups and downs(price in loving a person), and become better. You can win by not playing his game: Allowing for this to effect your future. To stay a kind person, though tempered, to speak...To know how to deal and watch for people like him, that may come into your life someday.

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Thankyou. Im not going to contact him again. Ive deleted hus number. When ever I get the urge to contact him I won't let myself. Nothing good comes from it. It just hurts me. Before meeting him I was a gym junkie pretty much went 7 days a week. When I was with him I lost my motivation completey. He lowered me. Im going to go back to the gym after I get over this sinus infection thats giving me nasty pressured headaches. I think the gym will def help it makes me feel good about myself. Im going to try and move on and let go of everything. If he contacts me when he realizes I dont care anymore. I will simply ignore him. My intuition tells me he will try when his current relationship shatters again. I don't know why I know this but I can just feel it and forsee it. But I will ignore him. Im going to focus back on my self and do things I enjoy. The thing is ive just completed my third year at university studying psychokogy and counselling. I know how to help myself sometimes its hard to take that step. Thankyou so much for your support it has been very helpful. Ive just recently sat exams under the stress I was under, however I think I did ok, I really am alot stronger then I gove myself credit for.

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You are. And you will do fine with your education, that I am sure of. The gym is a great habit to have. I find when I am weightlifting, that I am more in control, and at ease. I am sure you will yet again too. Plus, the health benefits, and you overall look good.

 

:) anytime you have an urge to contact him, distract yourself till it ends. You can even talk on this thread to help you. I am quite proud of how you are handling this, really, you are strong.

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I dont understand my ex is he trying to mess with me. I told him after he said stop messaging me your making myself and his ex uncomfortable that I have had enough and that I'm moving on. That I'm never going to talk to him again. And that I'm going to forget about the pain he caused me, forget about the past and remember how incredible I am. Going to move on and let him go. Wished him well and said goodbye he didn't reply. Ive just noticed he's unblocked me on FB. I told him to block me two weeks ago since he couldn't leave things on a good note I said u want to act like I don't exist block me then. Take away the temptation I have to contact u when I hate u. He did. Now hes unblocked me why. Maybe unblocked me coz i said I'm moving on? who knows. He's strange! All I know is I'm over it, I'm sick of being upset over an idiot who never deserved me.

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Hi, your going to be ok in the long run. I am 4 months NC and it does get better. He is fresh in your mind and can do no wrong. But he has wronged you. Just hold that thought. You tried and it didnt work. You felt and you loved. All good and positive things for you. You are not the loser here. Will they regret it? Soon you wont care and it wont even be a question. Stay strong, warm and not cynical. Post when you feel like breaking NC. Take care.

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I dont understand my ex is he trying to mess with me. I told him after he said stop messaging me your making myself and his ex uncomfortable that I have had enough and that I'm moving on. That I'm never going to talk to him again. And that I'm going to forget about the pain he caused me, forget about the past and remember how incredible I am. Going to move on and let him go. Wished him well and said goodbye he didn't reply. Ive just noticed he's unblocked me on FB. I told him to block me two weeks ago since he couldn't leave things on a good note I said u want to act like I don't exist block me then. Take away the temptation I have to contact u when I hate u. He did. Now hes unblocked me why. Maybe unblocked me coz i said I'm moving on? who knows. He's strange! All I know is I'm over it, I'm sick of being upset over an idiot who never deserved me.

 

You should block him. Makes it much easier to block him and delete any posts he may have made or any messages he has sent on FB. You cannot depend on this type of an ex to play fair, and do as you'd wish of them: Him blocking you. He will just play you. Just make sure that all this light contact firmly ends now. You've dealt with enough of his crap.

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