grahamssss Posted December 27, 2004 Share Posted December 27, 2004 hey jus needed some advice, was goin out with my gf and she was the first serious girl id been with and the same her with me. we were 2gether 2 years and had a gr8 sex life and the connection was so strong. i was considerin askin her 2 marry me. then this summer on our break from uni, i got involved in the single life, had a laff with women, texted women and forgot bout her, guess it was the easiest thing to do. i still saw her every weekend. then we got back to uni and i was still the same, i didnt wanna c her and negelcted her over work and other ppl. she stood by me but i dumped her and cried my eyes out, i was so confused to what i wanted i didnt think it was fair to keep the relationship goin. i didnt spk 2 her for a week. then we met up and had sex, talked and did everything again, felt like a new couple. this confused me more as we met up say 5 times. i then decided i had to get away from her cus i was so confused i didnt know what i wanted. took me 2 weeks to realise that it was her i always wanted to be with and loved stupidly. i rang her and told her. she sed if i was a week earlier she would hv jumped at it. we went on three dates and i found out shed kissed and was meeting this lad, goin round his and she told me they had no connection and he was the opposite of me. then she broke down in tears, told me she had tried to have sex wuith him, it had lasted 5 mins and it was horrible, nothin like being with me. i understood as she had onyl been with me and was curious. i got possessive and emotionally obsessed over her, rang and never gave her space. then heard she had kissed him again and was goin round to his and textin him. i think i pushed her to him. this xmas i have tiold her not to ring or text me as she wants to b friends and i cant give her that. i hope she realises but i feel i must leave her to this lad to discover 4 herself if she wants him, me or neither. i know she loves me but says she cant love me the way i want her too right now. she wants 2 put uni work 1st. she hasnt kissed me or had sex with me since that lad. i guess shes guilty and scared of anything. but then again shes kissed him and i dont know what else they may have done, and dont want to think bout it!! i guess i must leave her alone, i didnt even text her xmas day which im regrettin, but with no ties emotionally 4 me and let her discover what she wants ut at the same time get over her, move my life on and let her see i am movin on and meetin new ppl. i need to be the person i was wen she met me.... do u think im doin the right thing? if its true will it come back?? i dont know!!! G Link to post Share on other sites
Author grahamssss Posted December 28, 2004 Author Share Posted December 28, 2004 i jus read the post on non contact, think im gonna try, see what it does. wen i told her bout other girls and how much i love her theres a definate response but shes put up so many walls that its difficult to get a staraight answer. i guess iv hurt her incredibkly and shes scared of being hurt by me that much again. its been a week and a half since nc, i just hope it works. all her mates tell me to give it time and i guess if i leave her witht his lad, she wont get the things off him that i give her and she'll come searching for them again, and if i dont give them her she'll want them more! G Link to post Share on other sites
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