StillHurtin Posted December 28, 2004 Share Posted December 28, 2004 I agree. I am waiting for a post from you that you left him and are getting on w/ your life w/o him. You are not happy KMT. Why put yourself through this? Life is too short to hang onto someone who isn't willing to put you number 1 in his life. Link to post Share on other sites
veronese Posted January 2, 2005 Share Posted January 2, 2005 I do love you sometimes! Link to post Share on other sites
veronese Posted January 2, 2005 Share Posted January 2, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock And when you're done snagging your good, attractive AVAILABLE man April they'll be a somewhat dysfunctional, hot, smart, attractive, witty and independant girl to f*ck him behind your back when he gets tired of the real you. Pleasant dreams. Yes Spock, but when they're done f@cking their dysfunctional, hot, smart, attractive witty and independENT girl, there'll be a beautiful, loving, sexy, kind, caring, considerate, understanding, loyal, devoted, BETROTHED, patient, adored wife giving them even better sex than anything they get from their OW Link to post Share on other sites
veronese Posted January 2, 2005 Share Posted January 2, 2005 In answer to your original question? Yes, I'd say you are over-reacting, but I'd also say that your reaction is perfectly natural and understandable. It's strange how all of us women other women and wives alike, take exception to being treated like this. None of us seem to appreciate being cr@pped on from a great height. Our decisions to allow/tolerate/accept such treatment however, counteracts any justification of outrage and distress we may experience. Link to post Share on other sites
kkat Posted January 2, 2005 Share Posted January 2, 2005 KMT. What do you want the outcome of this relationship for you to be? Don't censor your answer, for now, with dividing between fantasy and reality - just answer directly - what do you wish would happen here? Then, ask yourself - is that outcome possible? Is it within your power? If so, what do you have to do to accomplish it? If you want to get out of this addictive, abusive, relationship, you have to accept that this is what it is, accept that you are human and you got into it, and have stayed it in too long, and are having a very hard time getting out, and then COME UP WITH A PLAN to get out, step by step, day by day. I worked my tail off to get out of mine. I made a decision to get out instead of being in the pain of being in it. I waited until I was ready, and then I literally fought for my life and sanity. Some of the things that worked for me - I went to therapy, to group meetings, read every book out there, got a puppy, started gym and yoga and a part-time job on top of my business, starting volunteering, asked friends to help me (not enable me) and I am out of the relationship. I needed to fill up all my time and energy elsewhere - that's what worked for me. I am still hurting, in pain, and trying to resolve - just like anyone would be after ending a relationship that meant a great deal to them - but I am out of it. And believe me, it doesn't get any worse than the addiction I had to it. I am telling you this only because I know if I can do it, anybody can - really! This guy treats you like crap. You are in this relationship because somewhere in your little tender heart you think that's what you deserve. Get out. Link to post Share on other sites
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