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bobby326

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i don't think my ex will ever contact me especially not at christmas. she has a huge family to keep her busy.

 

last christmas we had a big fight too and christmas day was horrible, i can't even remember what it was about. i just look back and think wow this is definitely something to learn from. i wouldn't let that happen again i wish i would of just sucked it up grabbed her and said "i'm sorry, this is silly let's go have fun".

 

Yeah I'm not sure if she will contact me either, like I said she could have a bf or be involved with someone and I wouldint know as I've avoided all info about her since early October. I would imagine if she's got someone then I won't hear from her but I think she feels guilt for what she did to me, then again Xmas is her favorite time of the year with her family and one of the reasons she claims she left me was so she could move back home (2 hours away) to be with them, so who knows, I just wanted to be prepared in the event she does reach out, it gives her an excuse to send something

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I would never initiate a text, but I might say thanks if one comes my way. It just seems pointless. My ex would send it because he is trying to keep his foot in the door and look good.

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So how many of you guys will respond or greet your ex this coming holiday?

 

I think I will not greet or respond either :p

 

Last time my exW and I had contact at the holidays was Thanksgiving five years ago, where we had dinner with her family at the new house which became hers in the divorce. As I tend to remain in contact with people who demonstrate love and care, and there really is none between my exW and I, neither contacts the other and I trust we're both fine with that. I know I am.

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Wouldn't surprise me at all if I got or shot out a text. It wasn't a bad breakup even though my heart is the one that is broken. She texted me on my birthday early in the morning a few weeks ago.

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I've totally changed my mind. **** my ex. He will probably text me but I won't respond. I'm D. O. N. E.

 

I've been the stupid girl for 2 weeks begging and crying, the spineless one...NOT MYSELF. WTF?!!! For who??? A coward? A liar? A manipulator? A selfish PRICK who led me on and on and on. I've never been a fool for anyone except this one *******.

 

Time to regain my dignity while I still can and let him fade from my memory as he is POSION and does not belong a part of my memory, heart, life...nothing. He is totally screwed up in the head and is just SELFISH.

 

But hey, what's new? Most people are.

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Pa76

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Heeeeeeeeeeeck no! He can kiss my butt! I am miserable cause of him and he changed my birthday and holidays so he can f**k off.

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I've totally changed my mind. **** my ex. He will probably text me but I won't respond. I'm D. O. N. E.

 

I've been the stupid girl for 2 weeks begging and crying, the spineless one...NOT MYSELF. WTF?!!! For who??? A coward? A liar? A manipulator? A selfish PRICK who led me on and on and on. I've never been a fool for anyone except this one *******.

 

Time to regain my dignity while I still can and let him fade from my memory as he is POSION and does not belong a part of my memory, heart, life...nothing. He is totally screwed up in the head and is just SELFISH.

 

But hey, what's new? Most people are.

 

 

Feeling same way! I stopped talking to my ex day after he dumped me. So much I want to say and ask but what's the point....just another selfish a**h**e!

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Feeling same way! I stopped talking to my ex day after he dumped me. So much I want to say and ask but what's the point....just another selfish a**h**e!

 

Well, my dumb-ass actually thought we'd get back together. So for the past week (and a few days 2 weekends ago) I have been pretty much trying to win him back. HA! I'm so embarrassed for pining over a ****ing jerkoff like that. Literally 2 nights ago he tells me "you're still my best friend."

 

Ya right. Best friends are BEST FRIENDS, you know, who love and care for each other and actually hang out and talk. What a POS. BFFS aren't just people who know the most about each other. What an ass stringing me along. I am trying to keep hate for him out of my heart but he has made me resent him to the fullest at this point.

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bobby326

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Yeah after reading this thread, **** her, I'm not going to respond at all, I hope she does not send me a text but she probably will to make herself feel less guilty, like when she texted me about my grandfather dieing. She is not a part of my life and after what she did I never want her to be. I'm over 50 days of NC and I'll tell you what, it's really strange, it's starting to almost feel like she died, like I don't know that person anymore, really strange....

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Yeah after reading this thread, **** her, I'm not going to respond at all, I hope she does not send me a text but she probably will to make herself feel less guilty, like when she texted me about my grandfather dieing. She is not a part of my life and after what she did I never want her to be. I'm over 50 days of NC and I'll tell you what, it's really strange, it's starting to almost feel like she died, like I don't know that person anymore, really strange....

 

 

im in 3rd day and it is a total nightmare for me.i hope to reach the stage that your are right now.i really want to say that she is not a part of my life she dump me i must not care about her.but right now im not ready it hurts a lot i miss her

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I've totally changed my mind. **** my ex. He will probably text me but I won't respond. I'm D. O. N. E.

 

I've been the stupid girl for 2 weeks begging and crying, the spineless one...NOT MYSELF. WTF?!!! For who??? A coward? A liar? A manipulator? A selfish PRICK who led me on and on and on. I've never been a fool for anyone except this one *******.

 

Time to regain my dignity while I still can and let him fade from my memory as he is POSION and does not belong a part of my memory, heart, life...nothing. He is totally screwed up in the head and is just SELFISH.

 

But hey, what's new? Most people are.

 

Ok, i'll bite, what brought this about? A few days ago you were letting your ex's parents pay for your therapy and you were basically saying that you won't listen to any advice from them besides them telling you to wait and fight for him. What happened to change that?

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I was going to ask what changed your mind 180?

 

My ex sent me happy birthday video on Youtube a month before she unofficially dumped me. She sent it very late at night and I hadn't heard from her all day.

 

She's in the bathroom recording it before she is going out to her friends birthday party. She says how she loves me, can't wait to see me, gives me two kisses.

 

I can easily see by her body language and voice that she did it because she felt she had to, it was my birthday she has to do something.

 

She even rolled her eyes at one point about me moving down to be with her.

 

So guys if your ex does contact you at during the holidays it's mostly likely because they feel it's in good spirit to do so. It's best to ignore it because let's be honest most of us aren't going to enjoy the holidays so I'm not going to lie to them and I'm not going to let them know I'm not exactly happy.

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JohnnyLoverBoy

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Good point my friend. now you made me thinking

 

 

sometimes though the conversation starts there. It goes like this

 

 

Her: Merry Christmas

 

Me: same too you! merry Christmas

 

Her: How are you?

 

Me: Doing good you?

 

Her: I'm doing fine. Hows blah blah blah

 

 

and so on and so on.. hahaha

 

 

I was going to ask what changed your mind 180?

 

My ex sent me happy birthday video on Youtube a month before she unofficially dumped me. She sent it very late at night and I hadn't heard from her all day.

 

She's in the bathroom recording it before she is going out to her friends birthday party. She says how she loves me, can't wait to see me, gives me two kisses.

 

I can easily see by her body language and voice that she did it because she felt she had to, it was my birthday she has to do something.

 

She even rolled her eyes at one point about me moving down to be with her.

 

So guys if your ex does contact you at during the holidays it's mostly likely because they feel it's in good spirit to do so. It's best to ignore it because let's be honest most of us aren't going to enjoy the holidays so I'm not going to lie to them and I'm not going to let them know I'm not exactly happy.

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Good point my friend. now you made me thinking

 

 

sometimes though the conversation starts there. It goes like this

 

 

Her: Merry Christmas

 

Me: same too you! merry Christmas

 

Her: How are you?

 

Me: Doing good you?

 

Her: I'm doing fine. Hows blah blah blah

 

 

and so on and so on.. hahaha

 

Yeah, the odds of that turning into a substantial conversation are slim and none.

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Well, my dumb-ass actually thought we'd get back together. So for the past week (and a few days 2 weekends ago) I have been pretty much trying to win him back. HA! I'm so embarrassed for pining over a ****ing jerkoff like that. Literally 2 nights ago he tells me "you're still my best friend."

 

Ya right. Best friends are BEST FRIENDS, you know, who love and care for each other and actually hang out and talk. What a POS. BFFS aren't just people who know the most about each other. What an ass stringing me along. I am trying to keep hate for him out of my heart but he has made me resent him to the fullest at this point.

 

It happens. My friend told me other day she regrets how she kept talking to ex after he cheated on her. We are so pits off and hurt we don't think clearly. I'm pits my ex hasn't had the decency to text asking how I am. Even my ex that verbally abused me text after two weeks. You learn and realize more after your ex is gone. People tell me don't have hate but for real what a f**king ahole piece of crap he is.

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Yeah after reading this thread, **** her, I'm not going to respond at all, I hope she does not send me a text but she probably will to make herself feel less guilty, like when she texted me about my grandfather dieing. She is not a part of my life and after what she did I never want her to be. I'm over 50 days of NC and I'll tell you what, it's really strange, it's starting to almost feel like she died, like I don't know that person anymore, really strange....

 

I'm so jealous of you!!! lol :laugh:

 

I can't wait for time to fly by and me be able to say, "I haven't talked to my ex or seen him in MONTHS!" It's going to be spectacular!!!

 

Just block her on your phone, I'm telling you. Ignorance is bliss.

 

My ex always says **** like "I hope you are doing ok and feeling better and know that this hurts me too but it's the right thing" **** that POS. He was being nice to me in the end because he knew how depressed I got and how hard it was (my fault for telling him, thought he cared, MISTAKE! NEVER AGAIN!) STILL FEEDING ME BREADCRUMBS & USED ME FOR SEX.

 

All my fault because I KNEW BETTER! At least now I can break the cycle and I'm not walking around in a fog of emotions anymore. I am on the road to feeling NOTHING for my ex except for pure regret and resentment. Then one day I won't feel **** excepts GOOD with someone new.

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It happens. My friend told me other day she regrets how she kept talking to ex after he cheated on her. We are so pits off and hurt we don't think clearly. I'm pits my ex hasn't had the decency to text asking how I am. Even my ex that verbally abused me text after two weeks. You learn and realize more after your ex is gone. People tell me don't have hate but for real what a f**king ahole piece of crap he is.

 

Ya, what a ****ing ahole piece of crap!!!! :mad:

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I can't wait for time to fly by and me be able to say, "I haven't talked to my ex or seen him in MONTHS!" It's going to be spectacular!!!

 

 

as im in my 3rd day of nc those words sound like a sweet music i also cant wait for that time to come. heck i reallllllly cant wait for that day to come i need it more than food right now

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JohnnyLoverBoy

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Guys just remember.. Do not greet your ex!

 

If you want to respond that is your choice.. but don't ever greet them first ok? :)

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I won't respond. And I'll be pretty damn surprised if he's even got the guts to wish me a merry christmas after all he's done to me. If he did, it would be to make himself feel better. So no answer from me. I. Am. Done.

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As for my situation, I highly doubt she'll message me at all.

 

I certainly won't. After the initial stages of my breakup with her, I even removed her from social media so that I could move on from the hurt she put me through.

 

It's not worth rekindling pain just to wish someone a happy holiday. If you feel nothing for your ex anymore then go for it, otherwise it's just not worth it. You can wish them a happy holiday internally without having to say it to them.

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He won't hear from me.

 

Good riddance to him.

 

I hope Santa brings him a lump of coal. And his new gf gives him herpes.

 

 

Happy Holidays everyone!

 

 

 

See, I'm already in the holiday spirit! :lmao:

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JohnnyLoverBoy

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That's a bit bitter isn't it? :D

 

He won't hear from me.

 

Good riddance to him.

 

I hope Santa brings him a lump of coal. And his new gf gives him herpes.

 

 

Happy Holidays everyone!

 

 

 

See, I'm already in the holiday spirit! :lmao:

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Ok, i'll bite, what brought this about? A few days ago you were letting your ex's parents pay for your therapy and you were basically saying that you won't listen to any advice from them besides them telling you to wait and fight for him. What happened to change that?

 

Um, I don't know when I said I wouldn't take any advice except for waiting for him...

But I'm glad you bit.

So now chew on this...I found out he has been in a relationship behind my back for the past like 3 weeks. Like as in even FB official.

As soon as a mutual friend told me this because they knew my ex was stringing me along & lying to me & calling me to "come home" use me for sex...all that. So a friend informed me of his new "relationship" so I then told his mother I could not accept her offer (only saying that it would not be right given the fact her son & I were no longer together)

I only accepted at first because my ex offered & I thought maybe that was a sign he wanted to be together in the future because to me it was kind of a big deal to me that he was asking his mother to help me.

I admit, I was foolish.

He has been blocked and I'm over it.

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Folks, you're putting way too much thought into this question...

 

Leave them be.

 

If by chance you receive a "greeting" you can almost be sure its being sent out of guilt. Being as likely, then why respond?

 

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