Cinnimon Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 Amazing how MM get away with saying, I didn't mean to do it, she came after me. I didn't want to sleep with that woman whom I've just made road kill out of. It just happened, I was walking down the street one day and it just happened, I slipped and fell and well it just kind of landed in the va jay jay and the force of the fall just made it explode...................Rolling my eyes so hard I can see the back of my brain. Slips every time yet continues to take the same route by choice Hmmmmm. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
threelaurels Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 MTV did an ad campaign in Europe a few years ago called "sex is not an accident" that mocked this whole phenomenon. I'm not going to link to it in case it violates the TOS, but you can easily find it through a google search. I think it's very relevant. Link to post Share on other sites
yellowmaverick Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 Amazing how MM get away with saying, I didn't mean to do it, she came after me. I didn't want to sleep with that woman whom I've just made road kill out of. It just happened, I was walking down the street one day and it just happened, I slipped and fell and well it just kind of landed in the va jay jay and the force of the fall just made it explode...................Rolling my eyes so hard I can see the back of my brain. Slips every time yet continues to take the same route by choice Hmmmmm. I am sure that there are some MM who paint the OW as the aggressor, but my experience is that most of them say that it was 50/50. This was probably the only honest comment that my STBXWH made. They were both selfish married people who just "felt like it". Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 Amazing how MM get away with saying, I didn't mean to do it, she came after me. I didn't want to sleep with that woman whom I've just made road kill out of. It just happened, I was walking down the street one day and it just happened, I slipped and fell and well it just kind of landed in the va jay jay and the force of the fall just made it explode...................Rolling my eyes so hard I can see the back of my brain. Slips every time yet continues to take the same route by choice Hmmmmm. It is quite similar to saying "I know he was married but he was unhappy and we both slipped and fell and well his penis just slipped into my vagina". It works both ways and both are equally to blame, that is unless the OW/OM was lied to ie divorce, not married etc. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 Agree with you. It is demeaning to beleive that an adult can't control themselves enough to avoid causing such havoc. The assumption has to be that they assessed the risks and the potential damage and decided to do it anyway. I DO beleive that is is possible to two people to get too close emotionally without being completely aware that they are doing so, but there is always a line that they choose to cross, be it kissing, saying ILY or having sex. And they cross that line deliberately. H never demeaned himself or OW by blaming her for 'seducing' him or saying the affair 'just happened' but he did say they didn't mean to get too close initially. I can forgive him for the 'getting too close' because I know it can happen - has to me - I struggle with forgiving the fact that he acted on the feelings instead of taking a deep breath, looking around him and stepping away. BTW all of the above applies to her and to him. Neither get off scot free IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Mascara Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 MM tell everyone what they want to hear (or what will give them the easiest life) So to the OW, this means "she's more of a roommate than a wife, we've grown apart, I can't leave the kids" And to the wife it's "she came on to me, she was going through a hard time, it was just sex" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
will-ow Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 Fascinating conversation, but how is any of this supportive to OW/OMs or discussing things from their POV? Wouldn't this be more suited to the 'Infidelity' area? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cinnimon Posted November 23, 2013 Author Share Posted November 23, 2013 Fascinating conversation, but how is any of this supportive to OW/OMs or discussing things from their POV? Wouldn't this be more suited to the 'Infidelity' area? I am a former OW, it is my point of view. It is very relevant. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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