long distance too much?

[duelfeul]

K, here we go, i have a male friend who i worked with for about 8 months, and then right before i left to college, we became intimate. At first i thought it didn't mean anything because it happened so suddenly and then i had to leave the next day so it never hit me.

 

But then, i would occasionally come home and we would be together everytime i was home which was probably only twice a month. He would call sparadically while i was in college and we never really had a definite thing. But now I'm home for a longer break and we've started hanging out as soon as i got home but i made a point not to be extremely intimate with him as of now, knowing i would get attached, because a long the way i started noticing that i started caring for him.

 

I have never been in a serious relationship, no more than 3 months, and i've also made it a point not to be attached so i won't get hurt. (i'm young and i don't want to deal with the drama) and a few days ago he told me that he wanted more from me and since he likes me too much, he doesn't want to see me or speak to me. But then i keep getting texts, saying he regrets what he decided to do and he wants us to be friends, but it seems hard for me to go backwards when it already seemed like we were starting or at least wanting to go forward.... the phone calls are already starting to be awkward...him saying things like, "....i was just giving out an invitation, if you wanna hang out...yadayda..its like he's trying to be nonchalant bout this whole thing.

 

I'm actually at the point where i might be able to get over everything since nothings started yet, but i want to settle down for the first time in my life and it just happens to be him that i want to do this with, but everythings saying no, but the fact that we both know something could happen if i were to stay i think hurts us both. Would the most logical thing be to leave it as it is and go our seperate ways, or could a relationship that be put on hold until we see each other, possibly be able to work? I don't think i can trust him while i'm gone either, thats a major factor as well.

[Jilly10340]

At first I was going to say go ahead and go for it, the relationship thing. There's no harm in trying.

 

But then you said that you couldn't trust him while you were gone so......no, don't go for it. If you can't trust him then there's no point in having a relationship.