beach Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I love all women. Lying and cheating is a strange way of showing your love. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I've heard of the AP being bitter. I've hear of the B'S being bitter. But the serial cheating, cake eating MM being bitter well that's a new one* lmao!! 6 Link to post Share on other sites
JourneyLady Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 What you care about > keeping your marriage and your mistress even if it hurts one or both of them in addition to your "buddy", right? Basically you only care about yourself. To quote a song... Someday I hope you get the chance to live like you were dying. Few ever say they wish they had been meaner to others... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Iamhisflower Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 LOL! non of anyone's business. I am fine. But your wife isn't "fine" with her husband cheating and I doubt she would be "fine" with you pimping her out to your buddy so you can watch. Doesn't sound like you care, but she was crushed the first time... Can you imagine her pain and devastation when she learns about this affair with someone she knows. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I love all women. Like you love cheeseburgers, motorcycles, action movies and football. It's all about what they do for you. Their individual feelings, pain, hopes, dreams don't matter to you. They are your entertainment, your excitement... there to satisfy you and make you feel good. We all have different meanings of love. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GG3 Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I love all women. LOL. My favorite cheater quote. You love no woman. You will never truly love anyone. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
violet1 Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I've heard of the AP being bitter. I've hear of the B'S being bitter. But the serial cheating, cake eating MM being bitter well that's a new one* lmao!! Unfortunately, it's not uncommon. Threads like this were all over a wayward forum I was very recently on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AlwaysGrowing Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I am unsure of the purpose of the OP. Was it to....run to his OW defense and slay the dragons (AKA: the "liars" on LS) to impress his OW? It has been my experience most knights in shining armour are just fools in a tin foil hat. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lokie Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 Oh Bobby, I really feel for you. All these people doing all these things that MAKE you do all these other things. That's really tough. I completely understand why you would cheat. One year without sex? The NERVE of her. She pretended she was into the same things? OF COURSE you should cheat on her, that b*tch. Hard to resist the other girl? Resisting is for wimps, you deserve to have sex with the other woman. You could divorce your wife and be single, and you ask WHY? - Because you are depriving the mother of your children of making a decision for her own life based on all the facts. - Because your sons are learning to lie and deceive from you. - Because you made a commitment to your wife and promised to be faithful to her in front of all of your family and friends (including your buddy, I'm sure.) - Because having integrity means you don't blame others for your poor behavior. My heart goes out to your deceived wife. Why she won't have sex with a lying, cheating, selfish, disrespectful guy like you leaves us all stunned! 6 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I said I love my wife and we have a pretty good life. We are not rich though far from it and I don't want to split anything in half or have her move away with my kids. I'd still have to live here to work I'd never see them and she's crazy sometimes. Would make life living hell. I said that. Besides that I love her, she is a good mom and a pretty good wife. I don't think you comprehend the meanings of the terms "I love...." and "I care for..." I think maybe you should use "I want to be the center of everyone's life because I am either a Narcissist or a Sociopath." 3 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 Ya I'm not looking for someone to tell me it's alright. If it was alright probably wouldn't be exciting or as fun at all, would it. So basically, you need visible reminders thàt "it's wrong" so that you can get your thrill. I guess a wife and child would provide that. They can cause you to feel that "it's wrong." And then you can feel like crap for a bit because you're a "bad person." Then you can use your affair to escape that. Your brain probably already worked it out for yiu by just getting you in the mood to call your 'friend's' wife before you even start to feel crappy. To help you avid the feelings of guilt and shame. Most addicts have that bypass. And they blame the circumstances surrounding them, even though it's purely an internal thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlueBobby Posted November 23, 2013 Author Share Posted November 23, 2013 Ya I'm not bitter I don't know where anyone's getting that I am lol! And I did not call my wife a bitch. I don't have other people besides my girl and my wife, I said I had before but not during this affair, it's been over a year since this started and like two years since I've been with someone other than her. No STD's, clean as a whistle. But that's another common thing like threats being thrown around to make people break into tears and confess? No I'm good. Link to post Share on other sites
felicity1 Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 . The longer I go between seeing or talking to her, the more excited I am when I do get to see her. She likes lots of attention, so in order to keep it exciting I pull away and then come back. I figured out I do that, I didn't do it to manage her or manipulate her. I just wanted to keep it fun. That's what she says she wants too but I can tell she wants more and I'd like to be able to give that to her but in all honesty I can't and she needs to be ok with it or it would have to end. We are both married and her husband would kill me, my wife would flip out and leave and ya custody would be shared but she'd get more and make life a living hell. She would move away and I would never see them and I love my wife and my life is a good life right now. /QUOTE] You tell us your wife and kids are important to you. So why are you f***ing around with another women? All you are doing is giving yourself unecessary stress. Respect yourself and end the affair. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
nicepuzzle Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I was OW once and my xMM did all that you are saying but nt communicating to me directly. I was led on crazy in love with him while he compartlize did push and pull and gave gap while meetings so he doesnt fall in love. However he did fall in love... Women dont have sex and fun, even though they say so.. and eventually it does become serious for them. I can guarantee you its NOT going to end well and you will either hurt your wfe or OW or both and you will be caught one day. That is the bad part of affair. I got so hurt by xMM even though I knew he was in love with me and I was family friend, I told everything to his wife and dumped him for good. He will have to pay the price all his life by emotionally leading me on. I have no guilts. I just think man like you eventually pay the price and conitinue to hop on to sex partners and they dont love anyone, just themselves. and eventually it comes back to them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nicepuzzle Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 LOL. My favorite cheater quote. You love no woman. You will never truly love anyone. I love myself way too much to love anyone else 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nicepuzzle Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I sttill had feelings for him somewhere, but reading this thread makes me know my Xmm even better and I am truly feeling disgusted by him. LOL. thanks for posting this Bobby 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Mascara Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 Well you're hardly going to admit to OOW with your girlfriend here reading every word. Do you still have sex with your wife? I suspect the answer will be "no" or "rarely" seeing as OW is here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 I find it funny and ironic that Bobby keeps bitching about "lies and more lies." And that "lying" got him inflamed enough to post here. He seems to take real issue with "lies." It's like the blackest, sootiest nasty burnt pot calling out the kettle that hasn't even been taken out of the box yet. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Britain Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 This is 101 on compartmentalizing. The mm I know does the same as Bobby. It is like clockwork. It justifies his meaning, his life is played out in fragments. These fragments never coincide or match up. It does not do much for the other person that is compartmentalized. It is up to that person to decide if they wish to play that part. We all have choices. It would be naive to believe being only a smidge a fragment will ever materialize into love, trust or more than temporary madness or if one chooses to stay...long term madness. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlueBobby Posted November 23, 2013 Author Share Posted November 23, 2013 Ya I still have sex with my wife. Have never lied about that. It's just not very often at all and not the same. No reason to lie to my girl about who I have slept with or want to. The only thing I've lied about is the extent of my feelings. I'm not bitching other people are lying either, just saying everyone lies to suit their own agenda. Saying people will hundred percent get caught is even a lie. When people don't buy into it people start saying things about diseases or that there is no feelings and everyone's being used. Bull****. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 Ya I still have sex with my wife. Have never lied about that. It's just not very often at all and not the same. No reason to lie to my girl about who I have slept with or want to. The only thing I've lied about is the extent of my feelings. I'm not bitching other people are lying either, just saying everyone lies to suit their own agenda. Saying people will hundred percent get caught is even a lie. When people don't buy into it people start saying things about diseases or that there is no feelings and everyone's being used. Bull****. So you're generalized theory is that everyone lies. So what died it matter what degree they lie to and to whom? Or "as long as if suits your own agenda it's fine?" You have no idea what you are doing to your wife. Frankly, I doubt you have the maturity or life-context to even comprehend it. It isn't about "semantics" or "technicalities." It the amount if pure bull**** unnecessary trauma you are going to infuse into her and your children's lives. My father was a cheater too. You have no clue. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 (edited) Ya I still have sex with my wife. Have never lied about that. It's just not very often at all and not the same. No reason to lie to my girl about who I have slept with or want to. The only thing I've lied about is the extent of my feelings. I'm not bitching other people are lying either, just saying everyone lies to suit their own agenda. Saying people will hundred percent get caught is even a lie. When people don't buy into it people start saying things about diseases or that there is no feelings and everyone's being used. Bull****. Where have you seen anyone say this????? Please point me to the thread. Bobby you're the main one lying here. Lying to your wife, lying to your OW, lying on LS about "other people's lies" that you've made up. Misinformation or even having an opinion that is wrong is not a lie. Do you know what a lie is: A lie is a false statement to a person or group made by another person or group who knows it is not the whole truth, intentionally. That is what a lie is. Telling someone you THINK they are being used if you think so or the FACT that you CAN get STDs if you're praciticing unsafe sex with multiple people, or that you CAN get caught and many do with As are NOT lies! Rare is it that I see people make absolutist claims that you're saying they've made or that are "always" made. In any case, since NO ONE has said any of what you've said they've said...you're the main and only one lying here. No OW here thus far in this thread even feels comforted by your opinions....I'm not sure what you hoped to accomplish. MM don't often post and many OW want MM to post to get a glimpse into their own situations perhaps, yet, although you came here to idk what, make OW feel better that they're not being used and that everyone is lying, it just makes you look bad and makes most MM look bad too if we imagine they all think like you. And your own MOW...well...I'm really curious about who she is and what she thinks of this. I lied ( )...I don't really care about that either, you two enjoy! Edited November 23, 2013 by MissBee 3 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 Dealing with MM/MW is often so ridiculous. "I have to get Sex outside my relationship because my relationship isn't giving me what I need." "So why not leave your relationship to pursue one that does give you what you need?" "Becayse then I won't have my relationship!":confused: --------------------------------------------------------------- "You see, Your Honour, I HAD to steal the food because I didn't have any food at home and I've been unemployed for six months." "But don't you have 2.5 million in the bank? Couldn't you BUY some food?" "Well yeah, but then I wouldn't have 2.5 million dollars in the bank now would I?" 3 Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 It looks like he came here to reassure Autumnmoom - that when he's silent on her - she should be ok with that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted November 23, 2013 Share Posted November 23, 2013 It looks like he came here to reassure Autumnmoom - that when he's silent on her - she should be ok with that. But why did the rest of us have to be subjected to it? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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