I'm going bald and it's sending me into a Depression.

[stereosystem]

I'm having a very difficult time accepting the fact that

i'm losing my hair. I'm 27 and I have black hair, that's

really starting to thin. I noticed it last year and got

bummed about it but then just tried to accept it, thinking

"well, I'll have some time before it will really show".

 

But Now, It's really starting to show and It's really bumming

me out. I'm bummed because I used to have such Thick hair

before and Now i'm going to have to shave my head all the time

and wear hats to cover it. I'm a bit self-concious about things and

my self-esteem isn't the greatest. My Girl hasn't seemed to notice

yet, but I know she likes me to have Hair, rather than the Shaved bald

look. I mean really, i'm know she'll accept me the way I am. I just

wish I didn't have to be going thru this. I've struggled for years with

the way I've looked and Now Baldness???

 

If there was a magic pill , i'd take it, but it seems so selfish. I know there

are far worse things going on in the world. Yet, i cant help

but be depressed over it somewhat.

[Pocky]

Has she seen you with your head shaved?

[tiki]

Shave it off.

 

Take advantage of being a "skinhead" while it's still in style.

 

And P.S. She's noticed.

[stereosystem]

[color=blue]

yeah, She's probably noticed. I'm sure she has. She just acts like she

hasn't. She just likes shaggier hair on me, like I used to look

5 years ago when we met.

 

Funny thing is, I'm already kinda skinhead in the way I dress.

Mod-Jamaican-Ska-Soul-Skinhead. I just have never thought I looked the

greatest with a Shaved head. I don't mind wearing hats all the time, Heck

Half my teenage life I was wearing a ball cap backwards.

 

It just bums me out that I'll never have the choice again to grow my hair out

if I wanted to. Damn.

 

 

Honestly, I've already been preparing for the day I'm going to shave my head,

Because, I'm not gonna be one of those dummies who tries to come over or

doesn't shave the few hairs he has left. Once I make the commitment, I'm

buzzing it all off, and staying that way. I was just hoping I'd have more time.

I'm getting married in 7 months. I wanted to have Hair for the Pictures.[/color]

[Lil Honey]

She may have noticed, but it isn't what makes her love you. It's what's inside you that matters to her. And that is as it should be.

[moimeme]

Depends what the pattern is. I'm not much fond of the golfball look; I think the 'monk' (lol) cut is perfectly fine. The interesting thing about baldness is that it will make your eyes stand out that much more, which is rarely a bad thing!

 

Don't do the Donald Trump - he looks like a fool and everyone knows it. Think Sean Connery - practically every woman's knee-melter! I've seen Hector Elizondo in person and he, too, is one hot tamale.

 

Get a good hair guy who knows how to trim what you have left to your best advantage. You'll eventually get used to the new look and if you embrace it, your attitude will attract the ladies.

 

One more tale - I once worked with a guy who wore a toupee. I suppose it was a good one because it didn't look fake. One day, though, he decided to try coming to work without it - and even though his rug looked natural, everybody *loved* the look without. He tossed it and never wore it again - and he looked great.

[tiki]

Can you brush it forward? That works wonders.

 

Yeah, I agree with moi, get a good hairstylist. You can find one that will accentuate what you do have.

[tattoomytoe]

well with all this worrying you are doing what hair you still do have will go gray.

 

that is the thing with aging....the hair on your head, now reattaches to your nose, ears, chin, feet, and chest......ewwwww!

[tiki]

Wait...are you thinning or receding? Be specific here....

[moimeme]

Can you brush it forward? That works wonders

 

Please say you're kidding! You're not really Melonia, are you?

[tiki]

Okay, okay, if my man brushes his forward a little, he looks so much younger, otherwise, if he wears his hair spiked up, well, you know, every man 'recedes' a little.

[Pocky]

Just shave it. Bald is sexy.

[stereosysstem]

I Don't know what's the difference between thinning and receding?

 

I'ts going the route of the Male Pattern Baldness. It's doing that

thinning in the back of my head but it's also thinning on top and

up front. But the Sides and away back are fine. So it's the Bozo

the clown thing. It's not fully gone, But you can notice if you REALLY stare

at it, and I just gave myself a Haircut last night and it's looks worse.

because I cut it really short.

 

 

I'm only 27 years old. I;'m not going to wear a Toupe or Brush my hair

foward. that's too silly.

 

 

Damn, why Me? Ugh. Curses, Curses. ****, Hell, Damn.

[moimeme]

Why Connery? He's much better looking without the hair and you may well be that sort, too. Quit cursing, get yourself a nice big pic of him to put up beside your mirror, cultivate that delightful look of mischief in your eyes and you'll knock women dead.

[tattoomytoe]

grow it long and pull it back into a pony tail. that will cover the top.

 

personally...i think it looks better if the guy just does what he normally would with his hair..... you can tell sometimes if someone tries too hard to cover it up, that is when it looks tacky...aka Donald Trump comb around.

[tiki]

...or put it in a pony tail and toss it over the front.

[Pocky]

grow it long and pull it back into a pony tail. that will cover the top.

 

[tiki]

Just grow a skullet, uh, I mean a mullet.

[Lil Honey]

Originally posted by stereosysstem

I Don't know what's the difference between thinning and receding?

 

Thinning hair is just what the word implies. Your hair is thinner in some places than others.

Receding means that your hair remains pretty much the same all over except the front hairline is now moving back and your forehead is getting bigger.

 

It's not fully gone, But you can notice if you REALLY stare

at it, and I just gave myself a Haircut last night and it's looks worse.

because I cut it really short.

 

First of all, I think YOU are the only one who REALLY stares at your thin hair. I don't know anyone who walks by a guy and says, "OMG! Did you SEE his thin hair?!? I just can't BELIEVE it!"

 

Second, no one should ever cut their own hair. Let it grow out and then go to a stylist.

 

My vote is with another member who doesn't go for the golfball look . . .

 

Don't worry. Your girlfriend loves you for WHO you are. You are getting married in seven months. When babies come and life challenges come knocking at your door, do you think that the amount of hair on your head is what your wife depends on and works with to get through those challenges? I don't think so.

[Pocky]

Originally posted by tiki

Just grow a skullet, uh, I mean a mullet.

 

Snort.

[stereosysstem]

Thanks for all the Jokes, Skullet, Pony Tail and what not.

 

It makes me feel, SOOOO much better.

 

Actually, forget about it. We all gotta do what we all gotta do, right?

 

I'm just gonna shave my head and wear a cap the rest of my life, no biggie.

 

There are far worse things going on in the world, My hair or lack of it, is

 

the last worry of the world. People are dying and suffering in the world and

 

i'm worried about my hair, right? Right, it's stupid. I'll deal with it. I'll be fine.

 

No Big Deal.

 

Thanks anyways guys, i'll be cool.

[Pocky]

Thanks for all the Jokes, Skullet, Pony Tail and what not.

 

It makes me feel, SOOOO much better.

 

Actually, forget about it. We all gotta do what we all gotta do, right?

 

I'm just gonna shave my head and wear a cap the rest of my life, no biggie.

 

There are far worse things going on in the world, My hair or lack of it, is

 

the last worry of the world. People are dying and suffering in the world and

 

i'm worried about my hair, right? Right, it's stupid. I'll deal with it. I'll be fine.

 

No Big Deal.

 

Thanks anyways guys, i'll be cool.

 

 

Your balding head is insignificant. You're right - people are suffering and dying around the world. Be thankful you're not one of the 44,000 people that died in Asia and that you still have your head, with or without hair. Just shave it off and go with it. There are so many sexy bald men - I mean SEXY.

[HokeyReligions]

Think of it this way, you are not going bald, you are getting head.

 

 

I understand that it can be traumatic for a man to lose his hair. But if you are the only one noticing right now then do nothing -- it will take some time for others to notice it and even more time to be completely bald!

 

Go to a stylist who can recommend some cuts and styles that will mask the thinning hair without it looking fake or unnatural.

 

You will look gorgeous for your wedding and won't be anxious at all about your hair then.

 

 

In the grand scheme of things balding is not a big deal. But to you it is and that is understandable and quite normal to feel stress and anxiety over this. It is something important to you. I am a woman but I have thinning hair and two large bald spots on the sides of my head. It runs in my family and my mother is nearly bald. My hair is important to ME and I understand that your hair is important to YOU. I would hazard a guess that it is far more important to you than to anyone else, including your gf. That is not selfish or vain, it's human nature.

 

My hair and my nails are the only real feminine bit about me. I've always been a tomboy. But when my fingernails are long and manicured I feel 'prettier' and I know that if I said anything when I break a nail about how it makes me want to hide my hands and how I feel less feminine I guarantee there will be a lot of people laughing it off as nothing -- because it is nothing to them, but to me it IS.

 

Look into some the the hair-club-for-men stuff and Menoxidill [sp] stuff that is supposed to help slow down hair loss and even promote new hair growth.

 

We've come a long way since Ricky Ricardo had Lucy use raw eggs and an electric massager on his head!

[Clancy]

Hokey's right about the Minoxidyl. Also, take a picture of yourself now with the thinning hair that you think is a problem. Then in 10 years take a look at that picture and hear yourself say: Man i wish I still had hair like that. In other words dude, live now. Enjoy what you have now.

[hairy]

I know exactly how you feel man. While there are a lot of other things in life that are much worse than going bald, it is still a big deal to a lot of people. Until you actually start losing your hair, you just won't be able to understand what it's like. But just remember, most people don't look at hairloss the way that we do. Remember how you were before you started losing your hair? I bet you never noticed that a person was losing their hair unless they were slick bald. But once you start losing your hair yourself, you start noticing everyone's recession, even if its just a little bit.

 

I started losing my hair my freshman year of college at the age of 19. Initially, I was depressed and all that too. I figured that I wasn't going to go down without a fight. I began doing a lot of research on hairloss and discovered that there are things that you can do to prevent it.

 

There are only two things that are FDA approved to stop hairloss, minoxodil and finasteride. There are a lot of other things out there that people claim to work, but these are the only two that have gone though the FDA and have been proven. You can pick up minoxodil (rogaine) at any drug store. Finasteride requires a perscription, but if you don't want to go through your doctor to aquire one, there are ways to obtain the drug online.

 

The only other thing that I use is a shampoo called nizoral. You can also pick this up at a local drug store and it is supposed to help thicken up your hair and reduce hairloss.

 

I am now 23 years old and have maintained most of my hair because of these drugs. I really don't even think about hairloss anymore because my hair looks better now than it did 4 years ago. These are not miracle drugs, they will not grow hair on a person that is slick bald, but they will usually maintain what you've got with the possibility of regrowth.

 

Go on google and try to find some of the hairloss forums out there, they will provide you with a lot of information.