I'm going bald and it's sending me into a Depression.

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Oh man, I googled and found this thread (bookmark!), and it actually makes me happy.

 

I'm in pretty much the same situation. I'm 21. In about 2 years ago, a friend shaved my head (well, gave it a buzz cut for 1-3mm), and he said "**** man, you're going bald, haha". Well, I didn't think it was fun, and barely noticed it either. The thing is I had let my hair grow for some time after had it shaved for about 3-4 years. It was all dready in bottom. Well, I did care, I was depressed. It was just before my 20th birthday.

 

Well, I still got a lot of my hair. I can put it in an ugly pony tail if I want to. I's curly, so right now it doesn't show the small thinning spot in the back of my head that much (I know). Only when I've worn a hat (winter is cold), and one of my friends tell me about it. Nothing serious though. He's 18 and his hair up front isn't looking too good, which he's aware of. Thing is, I got depressed and saved my hair. At first I just saved because "this is the last time". Now I keep it because it's making people freak out. I hear people at work saying "for **** sake, it looks horrible, cut that thing!" (since it's curly I can get a huge afro if I like to). So I save it to annoy, since others seem more concerned about my hair than I am. I will try to go on one of those Rogaine things, at least for a while, because I would like to try on dreads. Now that I haven't cut my hair in over a year (really cool thing) I could just try it. Been thinking about Rogaine for about a month now. Soon moving away (within 2 months I hope) which would make a perfect start (I want to keep this as private as possible, since it's more embarresing for people to know you try to prevent it than it actually happening).

 

Anyway, the thing is that I've accepted this (what I've described so far is just a damn fun thing that's happening). I know a guy who's about a year younger than me. He has practically NO hair. Seriously, it almost looks as if he's been crowned by Caesar in Rome. Me, I guess I'm closing up to the same kind of hair as Fredrik Ljungberg, the CK model you might (must) have seen. He's also about 27, and have started to get thin haired quite some time ago. He's still considered to have the most beautiful/sexy face in the football world (at least in England).

 

I know I'm going to lose my hair. I just want to delay it until I'm older than 25 for some reason. Probably because then people have grown up and matured a bit. I was really concerned about not meeting someone. But then I realized more ugly guys get girls. And I sure as hell don't want to be with someone who judges something as superficial as hair (look at all of them old ladies with crazy hair, that's worse). Hair doesn't represent me (perhaps why I still keep this hideous thing I have now, which I need to file for the future, hehe). I attend at the university, and see lots and lots of guys going a bit thin haired. So I know I have company. But please, just a few more years.

 

Like 99% of all people on the street share like 5 different haircuts. How stereotype. This means people with hair don't deserve it, or don't know what to do with it.

 

I have, as I said, already experienced skinhead hair cuts. I can really say it attracts women a lot more than hair. Funny thing: the day after I shaved off my hair once, I went to a football game. Even though I did't meat one, I noticed I got a few good looks. Then recently, I got picked up by a girl, and later on dissed by her. It must have been the hair, that she saw. I've always seen the skinhead look as my real look. If you're really into it, it can be quite a job. You can work it down with moisturaisers and ****. One cool thing to do, is to make it shiny! Simply use some hair spray. I think most women can assure you that a shaved head is hot. In some cases with a bit of beard or mustasch.

 

If you're ashamed, wear a baseball cap or hat. Always fashion. Hair isn't everything. Shaved is manlier. When you grow older, you get the Sean Connery look. Even I would kiss that man!

 

Closure: don't worry, don't try to hide it, live with it, don't be a prick, don't be a wuss, put on the Ben Sherman shirt (or Fred Perry), Doc Martens, green military trousers or old Levi's and become a skinhead Me personally, I've gone the hiphop way. Just make sure you shave it, and be proud of it. What a splendid way to fight racism by the way

[ShyDee]

OK, I've been there myself, so here is my story & two cents:

 

I'm 38 but look younger due to my somewhat boyish face. My hair, which I always thought was my best feature, began to thin rapidly starting about 9 years ago. I sometimes keep my head completely shaved, but right now I wear a very short fade, shaved at the very bottom, which draws attention away from not having much on top. I can honestly report that I have a lot more women hitting on me today (when I'm married) than years ago when I was single with a full head of the stuff. However, there is more to it than that. In my experience, there are things that seem to matter more to most of the women I know (ladies here, please feel free to agree or disagree):

 

1. Being in good condition. While I was never very overweight, I am much more fit and trim than in years past. Not a muscle-bound bodybuilder by any means, but toned with a flat tummy. I eat right, drink a lot of water, and don't do things that are harmful such as drink alcohol, use tobacco, etc. It makes a huge difference.

 

2. Taking care of your skin. My boyish face is no accident. I always use sunscreen (I live in a semi-tropical area of the US, which makes that even more important) and use other skin-care products. I even get a facial from time to time. Again, women notice.

 

3. A nice smile and a good sense of humor. This helps everyone look better.

 

4. Good hygiene, nice clothes, the right amount of a good cologne, etc.

 

5. Acting like a gentleman. Loose translation: keep the profanity and third-grade bathroom humor to a minimum.

 

6. Having a quite confidence in yourself.

 

As far as the hair goes, I would find a barber, not a hair stylist, and get some advice on what would work best for you. Before you say that you aren't about to get a haircut from a 68-year-old man named Floyd (I wouldn't do it either), it's pretty easy to find women barbers these days (mine is not only very good, but is also very beautiful, but that's another story). A lot of women I know like my hair the way it is today, as well as when my BB (beautiful barber) shaves my head (I think she likes that, lol). They also notice, and comment on, my baby blues more now than when I had (more) hair.

 

Friend, try some of these and you may find yourself attracting more women than you know what to do with. Happens to me all the time. Good luck.