Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I'm a 16 year old guy, i've been with my girlfriend for 7 months now, she is my first love, my first proper relationship, she took my virginity, met my parents and all the rest. About 2-3 Weeks ago we had a big fight over her breaking promises and etc ever since she has been feeling in and out of love, she is the party independent type of girl always goes out with friends etc, i'm the lovey dovey person who always worries and messages her over facebook/text in the relationship, she's a honest good person just very selfish, but not intentionally. When we were together we were the happiest people on earth, most perfect couple. About a week ago we got into another fight( her not keeping her word ) about some nonsense, she asked for a break and i accepted that, i still in love with her and so on, she promised the days before the break she still loved me and will come back , and she is a honest person she wouldn't lie about something like that due to her past. On the 3rd day of the break we got into another fight i don't know how but she told me to go see her the next day, i went and saw her she said she thinks she has fallen out of love with me, i'm still in love with her but i don't know what to do next, could it just be a phase because it happened so quickly? is there still hope? I don't want to lose her, i want her to be apart of my life because of so much impact she had on me, took my Virgnity etc, she was my first love, my head says give her space and see if she'll come running back, my heart says chase her and don't let her go, win her back. I don't know somebody please help me! towards the end of the relationship though things were getting a bit boring, maybe that's why? maybe she loves me but she's just bored of us. Somebody help me please? And Also i don't want to push her further away, has she really fallen out of love? Can i get her back? What do i do?.. p;s. It ended 7 days ago ( it's been a week since break up )
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I'm a 16 year old guy, i've been with my girlfriend for 7 months now, she is my first love, my first proper relationship, she took my virginity, met my parents and all the rest. About 2-3 Weeks ago we had a big fight over her breaking promises and etc ever since she has been feeling in and out of love, she is the party independent type of girl always goes out with friends etc, i'm the lovey dovey person who always worries and messages her over facebook/text in the relationship, she's a honest good person just very selfish, but not intentionally. When we were together we were the happiest people on earth, most perfect couple. About a week ago we got into another fight( her not keeping her word ) about some nonsense, she asked for a break and i accepted that, i still in love with her and so on, she promised the days before the break she still loved me and will come back , and she is a honest person she wouldn't lie about something like that due to her past. On the 3rd day of the break we got into another fight i don't know how but she told me to go see her the next day, i went and saw her she said she thinks she has fallen out of love with me, i'm still in love with her but i don't know what to do next, could it just be a phase because it happened so quickly? is there still hope? I don't want to lose her, i want her to be apart of my life because of so much impact she had on me, took my Virgnity etc, she was my first love, my head says give her space and see if she'll come running back, my heart says chase her and don't let her go, win her back. I don't know somebody please help me! towards the end of the relationship though things were getting a bit boring, maybe that's why? maybe she loves me but she's just bored of us. Somebody help me please? And Also i don't want to push her further away, has she really fallen out of love? Can i get her back? What do i do?.. p;s. It ended 7 days ago ( it's been a week since break up ) No offense but teenagers are crazy. You both are walking over a hormonal mine field. Anything can happen from day to day.
Author Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 No offense but teenagers are crazy. You both are walking over a hormonal mine field. Anything can happen from day to day. Yeah maybe, but that doesn't help now on what i have to do or fix how i'm feeling.
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Yeah maybe, but that doesn't help now on what i have to do or fix how i'm feeling. Do you guys go to the same school? If you do, try to become friends with hot girls and make your gf jealous; this will work in HS. Also, ignore her whenever you see her. Just walk past her and pretend she doesnt exist.
Author Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Do you guys go to the same school? If you do, try to become friends with hot girls and make your gf jealous; this will work in HS. Also, ignore her whenever you see her. Just walk past her and pretend she doesnt exist. We don't go to the same school unfortunately, i wish i could do that but it's out of reach.
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 We don't go to the same school unfortunately, i wish i could do that but it's out of reach. I would block her on any social media site and stop pursuing her. During that time, you could date other girls. She may come back or she may not. If you want to keep her on your social media site, try to go out with other attractive females and take pictures with them and put them up all over the social media site. The key is jealousy. If she doesn't get jealous, then she really doesnt want you back.
Author Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Ok i'll give it a try, how will i know if she gets jealous or not though?
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Ok i'll give it a try, how will i know if she gets jealous or not though? If she is initiating contact and asking about your life (especially if you are seeing anyone), then her curiosity has peaked. Remember, let her contact you. You should never initiate contact. When/if she does text you, feel free to ignore the text or respond hours later. If she really is interested in you, she will text again. If she asks to see you, don't jump immediately to her request. IMO you shouldn't be so available, meaning if she asks to see you, you dictate the time, not her. Don't be afraid that you're not so accommodating to her. Also, provide as little information as possible to her (especially text) when responding to her questions. The key is to appear like you have moved on. Again, this will only work if she even has an ounce of interest left. If she just wants you to leave her alone, nothing will work.
Author Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 If she is initiating contact and asking about your life (especially if you are seeing anyone), then her curiosity has peaked. Remember, let her contact you. You should never initiate contact. When/if she does text you, feel free to ignore the text or respond hours later. If she really is interested in you, she will text again. If she asks to see you, don't jump immediately to her request. IMO you shouldn't be so available, meaning if she asks to see you, you dictate the time, not her. Don't be afraid that you're not so accommodating to her. Also, provide as little information as possible to her (especially text) when responding to her questions. The key is to appear like you have moved on. Again, this will only work if she even has an ounce of interest left. If she just wants you to leave her alone, nothing will work. Ok, how long will this take? and the thing is though, she wants me to be apart of her life still as well as she loves me as a person just not ' in love ' in her words.. she still likes to see me and stuff, so i won't be able to know if she wants me back or just wants me to be a good friends for her? I will do all that you have said though.
Author Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 It's just really confusing for me.
Author Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Anybody else have any advice? It would mean a lot
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