The hits just keep coming...

[experiencethedevine]

I don't think you are "whining" either. Even if you are, its a support website LOL.

 

Could you imagine a suicide hotline being run that way?

 

"Yeah, she dumped you. So what? Maybe it's because you're ugly. Quit your bitchin' and get over it!"

 

I get the reaction post-dog news as well.

 

Here's what I did during my separation with my husband which looked at the time to be 110% certain to lead to divorce.

 

I did what I call the "dog test."

 

If he sent a message or I had to send him one I would check how pissed off I was by mental let checking myself out. I would envision my dog getting into the garbage and see if I was angry enough to yell at my dog about it. Like be freaky-pissed off about it. If I was that level of pissed off, I wouldn't respond to him until later.

 

Sometimes you just feel REALLY pissed off like "if I caught the dog in the garbage right now I'd mail her to Iran!" Sometimes you're so mad that you can't even think about the dog. "Screw the dog! I want ex's car to explode on the freeway!" Those are really bad times to respond. If you must draft something to deal with your anger, do so. But don't hit send. I have tons of pissed off emails sitting in my drafts folder!

 

What often happens is ill redraft and send (if applicable) when I'm less angry. I find it quite therapeutic.

 

I laughed so hard I NEARLY PEE'D MY PANTS when I read this..... it is without doubt one of the cleverest ways of deflecting anger response I have heard of, and well worth taking into consideration, and the pounding out an angry email but keeping it in your draft box is therapy alone... Well done!

[bentleychic]

Thinking of you and your sweet furry family member tomorrow, Raena.

[Raena]

Thinking of you and your sweet furry family member tomorrow, Raena.

 

Aww thank you! She's in a lot of pain right now. I know it's for the best, but it's awful.

[Raena]

Oh dear... well the sh*t hit the fan today!

 

My ex promised me last Saturday that he would come by today and get the car out of my name. He bailed out on me and I got tired of it so I drove the 45 minutes up to his house and tried to get the tags off myself. I told him I was coming and he took off in the car. I sat and waited. He eventually came home and I then went and tried to get the tags off. His nasty girlfriend was there making foolish comments. He called the police. I calmly went to my car and waited for them to get there.

 

Once I explained what was going on, the police were most helpful. The Sheriff asked me to give him until Sunday to get the tags to me since he waited so long and gave me such a run around that it was too late to go to DMV today anyway. He leaves for Cali on Monday, so I guess the car won't be switched over to his name until at least another month from now. This same officer, and two other ones, all gave me their names and numbers to call them on Sunday if he doesn't do as he promised he would do. They said they would be more than happy to escort me there and help me retain my property.

 

I'm thinking about having the car towed and sell it to the nearest junk yard for whatever they will give me for it. Is that being too nasty? I don't really want the car... I just want it off my insurance and my name off the registration.

 

Ugh. I'm so sick of all his lies and bull crap. He's been telling me for the past 2 weeks that he isn't living with her... but there she was. One of the officers even pointed out the fact that she was standing there egging things on and trying to cause more problems. He wasn't too happy with her.

 

I calmly dealt with it, explained my situation and what's been going on... ALL of it. When I was done, the officer looked so mad I thought he was going to pop a blood vessel. He said to me "well, it seems that you have tried to handle this in a mature fashion but he has been giving you the runaround for quite sometime. I can understand your frustration. Just next time call me and let me deal with it for you, ok?". What a nice man

 

Goodness... I really wish I could just go NC altogether and never have to deal with him and his craziness. He's clearly psychotic. Well, it's clear to me... especially after spending several hours talking to his ex-wife last night. That was interesting too.

 

Anyways, thanks for listening! I just thought I'd give an update on the latest craziness.

[peaksandvalleys]

Oh dear... well the sh*t hit the fan today!

 

My ex promised me last Saturday that he would come by today and get the car out of my name. He bailed out on me and I got tired of it so I drove the 45 minutes up to his house and tried to get the tags off myself. I told him I was coming and he took off in the car. I sat and waited. He eventually came home and I then went and tried to get the tags off. His nasty girlfriend was there making foolish comments. He called the police. I calmly went to my car and waited for them to get there.

 

Once I explained what was going on, the police were most helpful. The Sheriff asked me to give him until Sunday to get the tags to me since he waited so long and gave me such a run around that it was too late to go to DMV today anyway. He leaves for Cali on Monday, so I guess the car won't be switched over to his name until at least another month from now. This same officer, and two other ones, all gave me their names and numbers to call them on Sunday if he doesn't do as he promised he would do. They said they would be more than happy to escort me there and help me retain my property.

 

I'm thinking about having the car towed and sell it to the nearest junk yard for whatever they will give me for it. Is that being too nasty? I don't really want the car... I just want it off my insurance and my name off the registration.

 

Ugh. I'm so sick of all his lies and bull crap. He's been telling me for the past 2 weeks that he isn't living with her... but there she was. One of the officers even pointed out the fact that she was standing there egging things on and trying to cause more problems. He wasn't too happy with her.

 

I calmly dealt with it, explained my situation and what's been going on... ALL of it. When I was done, the officer looked so mad I thought he was going to pop a blood vessel. He said to me "well, it seems that you have tried to handle this in a mature fashion but he has been giving you the runaround for quite sometime. I can understand your frustration. Just next time call me and let me deal with it for you, ok?". What a nice man

 

Goodness... I really wish I could just go NC altogether and never have to deal with him and his craziness. He's clearly psychotic. Well, it's clear to me... especially after spending several hours talking to his ex-wife last night. That was interesting too.

 

Anyways, thanks for listening! I just thought I'd give an update on the latest craziness.

 

 

I wonder if our WS are related?

[bentleychic]

Aww thank you! She's in a lot of pain right now. I know it's for the best, but it's awful.

It's always incredibly hard to lose a furry friend, even when we know it's best. I feel for you.

 

Is his tag in your name, too? If not, I'd drop the insurance and let him enjoy the fines with it.

 

If it's in your name, I guess you're kind of screwed in that aspect. Is the car in your name? If so, I say go for it on having it towed and sold. He's obviously not looking to make anything easier in any aspect at all.

[Raena]

I wonder if our WS are related?

 

Maybe so peaks. Seems both of them are doing some pretty crazy things these days.

[bentleychic]

It's always incredibly hard to lose a furry friend, even when we know it's best. I feel for you.

 

Is his tag in your name, too? If not, I'd drop the insurance and let him enjoy the fines with it.

 

If it's in your name, I guess you're kind of screwed in that aspect. Is the car in your name? If so, I say go for it on having it towed and sold. He's obviously not looking to make anything easier in any aspect at all.

Read a little more and saw it is in your name.

 

 

I'd be tempted to report it stolen if it's all in your name and he won't give it back, personally. You owe him NOTHING.

[Raena]

It's always incredibly hard to lose a furry friend, even when we know it's best. I feel for you.

 

Is his tag in your name, too? If not, I'd drop the insurance and let him enjoy the fines with it.

 

If it's in your name, I guess you're kind of screwed in that aspect. Is the car in your name? If so, I say go for it on having it towed and sold. He's obviously not looking to make anything easier in any aspect at all.

 

No, it's all in my name... registration, title, insurance. The car is mine legally. I've given him 5 weeks to take care of this. He kept giving me one excuse after another as to why he couldn't do it. I finally just had it with his crap today... and since my son is at my mom's... I figured now was as good a time as any to take care of this problem. Never would have gone there and done with this our child around.

 

I have been waiting and waiting. I was going to just sign the title over to him... in fact, I already signed it... he chose not to take it last weekend. I don't want to be a jerk but the reality is... he's treating me like crap and I've had enough of it. It's time for me to stand up for myself.

[Raena]

Read a little more and saw it is in your name.

 

 

I'd be tempted to report it stolen if it's all in your name and he won't give it back, personally. You owe him NOTHING.

 

Oh... the officer told me I can't report it stolen. I let him drive it. I bought it FOR him. So for whatever reason, it can't be reported stolen.

[bentleychic]

Oh... the officer told me I can't report it stolen. I let him drive it. I bought it FOR him. So for whatever reason, it can't be reported stolen.

Dammit. Okay, if he doesn't cooperate Sunday, you'll contact those nice police men and they'll kick his arse to the curb then, right? Any specific time that they told him to do it by?

 

From what I've seen you say about him AND her, I wouldn't put it past them to hide the car. How freaking stupid can they be that you're willing to sign it over, just want it out of your name and they won't even turn over the tags? Talk about lacking common sense!!! They're about to start having to walk everywhere if they keep that crap up! (If it were me, anyway! LOL I have no patience for ignorance!)

[Raena]

Dammit. Okay, if he doesn't cooperate Sunday, you'll contact those nice police men and they'll kick his arse to the curb then, right? Any specific time that they told him to do it by?

 

From what I've seen you say about him AND her, I wouldn't put it past them to hide the car. How freaking stupid can they be that you're willing to sign it over, just want it out of your name and they won't even turn over the tags? Talk about lacking common sense!!! They're about to start having to walk everywhere if they keep that crap up! (If it were me, anyway! LOL I have no patience for ignorance!)

 

Oh I was so ready to just take the tags today. The officer told me I could if I wanted to, but he said it works more in my favor if I give him a couple more days.

 

It's just one more thing to add to my "journal of events". By the time I get to court with him I will have more than enough evidence to ask for full physical custody with no visitation unless I allow it.

 

I'm pretty sure that stupid twit he is with had no idea the car was actually mine, or that just a month ago he was calling his ex-wife and begging her to take him back. Oh this is going to be so much fun to watch when she figures out the truth. I can't wait!

 

It still cracks me up that the officer said to me "yeah, it doesn't help that that twit is standing over there smoking cigarettes and egging him on"

[Raena]

Dammit. Okay, if he doesn't cooperate Sunday, you'll contact those nice police men and they'll kick his arse to the curb then, right? Any specific time that they told him to do it by?

 

From what I've seen you say about him AND her, I wouldn't put it past them to hide the car. How freaking stupid can they be that you're willing to sign it over, just want it out of your name and they won't even turn over the tags? Talk about lacking common sense!!! They're about to start having to walk everywhere if they keep that crap up! (If it were me, anyway! LOL I have no patience for ignorance!)

 

He didn't give a specific time, but I'm going to make sure it happens some time during the day before my son comes home.

 

Do you know that idiot had the nerve to tell me that he was going to come pick up our son and take him to his house on Sunday and that I could come get the tags when I come to pick him up. What a foolish man! I told him there was no way in h.e.l.l. that our son is going to that house with that girl there. NOT going to happen! I will NOT allow it and I have every right to say no.

[bentleychic]

Gah, he is a genius. We need to all get together and have an @$$ kicking party with him as the guest of honor.

[Raena]

Well... here's the final portion to this story.

 

Around 8 pm this evening I was on the phone with my mom, getting ready to talk to my son and say goodnight. She asked me if I had taken any good pics of my dog recently and said I should make sure to do so before I take her to the vet tomorrow. I look over at my sweet little baby girl, who is laying on the couch in my office and I notice that she looked so serene, almost happy. I was thinking I should hurry up and take a pic of her but I was still on the phone. A few minutes later my son gets on the phone and starts talking. I'm talking to him and watching my dog, smiling at her because she just looked so happy.

 

She passed on right before my very eyes. It was awful. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. She sat and watched me right up until the very last minute.

 

Poor baby girl. I'm comforted by the fact that her last view in this world was me looking at her and smiling.

 

She was the best dog I've ever had. Sweetest, kindest, gentlest, friendliest dog. Loved everyone, even the mailman and she did her best to tolerate the 2 cats I brought into the house this past summer too.

 

I feel so empty right now. This house is an empty shell of what it used to be. It isn't the same anymore without her here... and the ex being gone and being nasty to me doesn't help either. It feels like just a few months ago I had it all. I had my man, our son, our step-son, 1 dog and 3 cats. We had a great summer together. And now... 3 of that crew are missing. It feels like someone came along and just ripped the rug right out from under me and I'm still flailing around trying to catch my footing. Nothing seems right.

[peaksandvalleys]

Well... here's the final portion to this story.

 

Around 8 pm this evening I was on the phone with my mom, getting ready to talk to my son and say goodnight. She asked me if I had taken any good pics of my dog recently and said I should make sure to do so before I take her to the vet tomorrow. I look over at my sweet little baby girl, who is laying on the couch in my office and I notice that she looked so serene, almost happy. I was thinking I should hurry up and take a pic of her but I was still on the phone. A few minutes later my son gets on the phone and starts talking. I'm talking to him and watching my dog, smiling at her because she just looked so happy.

 

She passed on right before my very eyes. It was awful. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. She sat and watched me right up until the very last minute.

 

Poor baby girl. I'm comforted by the fact that her last view in this world was me looking at her and smiling.

 

She was the best dog I've ever had. Sweetest, kindest, gentlest, friendliest dog. Loved everyone, even the mailman and she did her best to tolerate the 2 cats I brought into the house this past summer too.

 

I feel so empty right now. This house is an empty shell of what it used to be. It isn't the same anymore without her here... and the ex being gone and being nasty to me doesn't help either. It feels like just a few months ago I had it all. I had my man, our son, our step-son, 1 dog and 3 cats. We had a great summer together. And now... 3 of that crew are missing. It feels like someone came along and just ripped the rug right out from under me and I'm still flailing around trying to catch my footing. Nothing seems right.

 

 

Raena I am so sorry. I don't know what to say that will help. But she was with you knowing you loved her.

[Raena]

Raena I am so sorry. I don't know what to say that will help. But she was with you knowing you loved her.

 

Thanks I'm sitting here sipping some sleepy time tea hoping against hope that I'll get some sleep tonight.

 

I just noticed I put 3 cats in my post... I only have 2... not going to turn into one of those crazy cat ladies

[waterwoman]

RIP dear dog:(

 

So sorry raena, but it sounds as if she had the end she wanted,with her beloved owner smiling at her.

 

Chin up lovely xx

[Oberfeldwebel]

I am so sorry for your loss, don't bother telling your ex.

[bentleychic]

I'm so sorry, Raena. Take comfort in the fact that she passed away in her home with the one that loved her the most. Thinking of you...

[lilmisscantbewrong]

I'm so sorry about your dog. Hang in there.

[Raena]

So the plan today is this.... he's supposed to bring the car down here to leave it with me this afternoon. I will then drive him back up to his house to drop him off. He also wants to spend time with his son before he leaves.

 

I figure if he doesn't show up, then I will take the officers up with me tomorrow night and get the tags after he is gone to avoid any more dramatic situations.

 

He's pulling some more dramatic stunts, told me he kicked the skank out but there's more to the story than that. I can't share all of it here, don't want to risk her ever reading this, but he's planning something dramatic. He told me he blames her for ruining his life.

 

I just wanted to laugh at him and tell him.... no idiot... she didn't ruin your life.... YOU DID! But I'm trying to keep things cordial so I didn't say anything other than... I don't want her around my son, whatever you choose to do with her is your business, just keep her away from my son.

[peaksandvalleys]

So the plan today is this.... he's supposed to bring the car down here to leave it with me this afternoon. I will then drive him back up to his house to drop him off. He also wants to spend time with his son before he leaves.

 

I figure if he doesn't show up, then I will take the officers up with me tomorrow night and get the tags after he is gone to avoid any more dramatic situations.

 

He's pulling some more dramatic stunts, told me he kicked the skank out but there's more to the story than that. I can't share all of it here, don't want to risk her ever reading this, but he's planning something dramatic. He told me he blames her for ruining his life.

 

I just wanted to laugh at him and tell him.... no idiot... she didn't ruin your life.... YOU DID! But I'm trying to keep things cordial so I didn't say anything other than... I don't want her around my son, whatever you choose to do with her is your business, just keep her away from my son.

 

 

Amazing how they don't seem to get that huh?

[Raena]

Amazing how they don't seem to get that huh?

 

Yeah it is. Personally, I think he's just blowing smoke up my arse trying to make it out like he's really mad at her. I don't care. That's what he isn't getting. I don't care what his issues are with her. It's not my problem, it's his. He created that mess, now he has to deal with it. I suspect he's lying and making it all up anyhow.

[violet1]

Oh Raena I just wanted to say I'm so sorry about the loss of your fur baby. I really admire how strong you've been with all this sh*t your going through. I'm thinking about you.