Author mendsley Posted December 30, 2013 Author Share Posted December 30, 2013 The last week has been very hard for me. I've been all over the place emotionally and it's because I didn't follow a strict path. I wandered off my program and it amazes me how quickly stuff got bad. It's a new year and time for my new life. I started this back up today and feel good about it. My main focus is the mental aspect of this, my physical/nutritional is very good, I just let my mind slip. Well as of today, NO MORE. It's time to start this bqck at day one and not stray! If anyone has some mental strengthening ideas please let me know! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnyaNova Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 The last week has been very hard for me. I've been all over the place emotionally and it's because I didn't follow a strict path. I wandered off my program and it amazes me how quickly stuff got bad. It's a new year and time for my new life. I started this back up today and feel good about it. My main focus is the mental aspect of this, my physical/nutritional is very good, I just let my mind slip. Well as of today, NO MORE. It's time to start this bqck at day one and not stray! If anyone has some mental strengthening ideas please let me know! Find the big thing and the big question. The overarching thing that your mind knows means it never would have worked and calms all its other thoughts on the issue. For me it was; and is, "why would I want a man who let fear and the familiar keep himself from me; despite his obvious feelings for me, and who also put that fear above his very self? Link to post Share on other sites
zen2475 Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 It's natural for your emotions to be all over the place after a break up. It's part of the grief process. Denying yourself the ability to really feel those emotions will only cause them to reappear later with greater intensity. Do you really want to prolong your pain like that? No matter how strict with yourself you claim to be, you can't deny what you feel. When you stop resisting your emotions and experience them fully, you cultivate inner strength. While it seems paradoxical, as you experience a fuller range of emotion without resistance (both the comfortable and uncomfortable), the more resilient you become. While you're not able to control the ups and downs of life, by opening to your emotional experiences you won't feel so knocked around by life. In fact, you'll feel empowered within who you are, and less dependent on things going right in life, in order to feel good. Reflect on your own experiences: how willing are you to feel your feelings, and how would your life transform if you could feel freer, more balanced and resilient within yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mendsley Posted January 2, 2014 Author Share Posted January 2, 2014 I've been doing really good with the program (as far as the physical fitness side of things) and the mental is getting a little better. I can see a huge difference in my body, which makes me feel good. I always get compliments from others telling me how muscular I'm looking, who doesn't want to hear that? Lol! Mentally I'm progressing a little slower than expected. Yesterday I woke up and I kept thinking about marriage. I was right there on asking her to marry me before she kicked me to the curb. Everywhere I turned I saw something about marriage, ugh. Today I woke up in better spirits, but I am thinking about her and this douche she's with. He is ten years older than her and her friends dislike him and say there is no way what ever they have going on will last. Not sure what she's thinking, but I guess if she's happy then so be it. The only thing I deviated on with my program is the dating part. I have been on a few dates and nothing had really caught my attention yet. I have three more dates in the coming week so we'll see. There is one girl I'm intrigued by and she seems to be interested in me, but we'll see. I'm trying to go on many dates before I make any major decisions, but I can feel myself rushing to find "the one." I understand I'm still going through the process and, in my mind, I will not be able to move on until I fall in love with someone else. A lot of people will disagree with that, but it's a true statement. That being said, I'm trying not to rush it and taking things slow and realistic. Thanks Mike Link to post Share on other sites
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