Lifeingeneral Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 Ok a bit of background info- ive been with this man since 16, i am now 28, hes 9yrs older than me, we have 3 children. The last 2 years we have been living more as friends than lovers. I love him but not in love with him. He sleeps on the couch, when we have sex which was hardly ever i just do it and want it over with since the connections not there. Ive told him how i feel and that i want to break up, he isnt taking it well and doesn't understand where im coming from. Tbh i dont even understand it :/ I feel as if ive missed out on my youth settling down so soon and now i feel selfish but i cant just suck up how i feel and keep being unhappy. Anyone here can help me deal with this, i hate that im hurting him, i hate that this will hurt the kids but im done Link to post Share on other sites
health Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 I see you've already met someone new from your post in the dating forum. Does your Ex know you're dating so fast out the marriage? Can you be on your own and heal like that or is that too uncomfortable for you? Cause ultimately sure you can heal by doing the rebound thing, but true healing and grieving comes when you do it by yourself. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lifeingeneral Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 I see you've already met someone new from your post in the dating forum. Does your Ex know you're dating so fast out the marriage? Can you be on your own and heal like that or is that too uncomfortable for you? Cause ultimately sure you can heal by doing the rebound thing, but true healing and grieving comes when you do it by yourself. Good luck. No he thinks we are just friends.. I still talk to that guy here and there but we are not getting romantically involved. He understands what im going though since he going though the same thing but ive backed right away from him. Ik i need time by myself but I've never been alone, im terrified but i know i cant stay in a loveless relationship due to my own fears Link to post Share on other sites
health Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 No he thinks we are just friends.. I still talk to that guy here and there but we are not getting romantically involved. He understands what im going though since he going though the same thing but ive backed right away from him. Ik i need time by myself but I've never been alone, im terrified but i know i cant stay in a loveless relationship due to my own fears It's a tricky situation. Relationships fall apart when the love and special moments stop happening. You can try to re-kindle your marriage, or you can divorce. The thing is, it's like you're wanting to go out cause you have pain in your marriage and are seeking it elsewhere. You have this built up long term marriage, and may throw it away for a band aid solution that may be temporary. You're in a tough position. I'd suggest you take time out and really follow your heart. Link to post Share on other sites
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