zzzman Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Hey, basicly my situation is the same as the one baffled111 has. If you take the time to read his post maybe you can help me. I'm also still in highschool with my girlfriend and we just broke up. It however, was her first relationship and I really dont think she would call me because she would be too scared and not really know what to do. Our relationship ended postive, we really didnt argue much at the break-up, except for me convincing her that all the problems she had with the relationship, well actually there werent alot- basicly that we argued to much{we also talked for like 3+ hours a day} , could be fixed easily. I mean, seriously, lets talk alot less and we wont get in so many arguments and our whole relationship would be better. SHe also talked about the loss of that "feeling" We ended without being really upset with eachother and we still wanted to be firends after the break-up. We still both like eachother alot, except thats as far as her feelings go for me supposedly. Basicly,i want to know if, with a really inexperienced gf, i should try the long period of no-contact. Seeing as she probably is scared of commitment and was disheartned by the arguments, and she probably doesnt know how to handle her feelings as this is her first relationship., would it be alright to call her after about a week?{not talking about our past and being happy and keeping the convo short} I dont want to wait a month+ and miss something that could be fied easily now. So should i call her or wait? I doubt she'll call me because she isjust gonna think i dont like her anymore at all if i dont call her. She still wants to be good friends, but not bf/gf. this is my third relationship, but the first lasted 2 months and ended bad, the second lasted 5 months and she moved away. This relationship im talking about now lasted 3 months. Link to post Share on other sites
smile Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 You're going to hate reading this part so lets get it over with right now.. you're so young .. just give youself time..there are plenty of fish in the sea... you will fall in love again bla blah blah... ok so now onto what i want to say.. you are in high school with her so it may be hard to do nc... for a month even. Say hi to her in the halls or whatever and maybe a bit of catching up.. you can limit it to school only contact if you think she may feel you arent into hanging out with her ever again if you ignore her. the funny thing that most hs kids dont realize is.. you are forced to socialize everyday... when you grow up (after college anyway) you dont get that kind of perfect place to meet someone. Work relationships are too complicated and bars are just umm kinda sleazy. Enjoy high school. I know it hurts.. just as much as any of us.. maybe even more sometimes. But I say you should lessen contact but not end it all together. You were buddies... try to be that now and see what happens. Sure its gonna be tough but in the end its better than that resentment or loss of connection. Take care and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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