Does she even feel guilty???

[egor401]

I had dated a girl for 15 months. Long story short I was absolutely perfect to her and she always called me the perfect bf. She wanted to marry me. but she had a real history of lying and always talking to other guys. Always calling her sexy and she flirted back. I caught her talking to her ex two months in. She always said I was over reacting when i said it made me uncomfortable. She lied about meeting certain guys places and when i caught her she would cry and beg for me back then the next day say she didnt even do anything wrong and never cheated bc it is morally wrong. So finally when she went back to school she said everything would be fine and she loved me more then anything. then after a week asked for a break then eventually dumped me via text saying she was having to much fun with her friends of a week and felt she needed to be by herself and i should too. She was acting weird about it all one night saying i love you the next i spoke to soon. I had bought her a diamond promise ring and after she dumped me went to pick it up two hours away from her school to pick it up after being sized. She sent me a picture of it and said she felt dumb and nothing else.I was all over the place emotionally was mad and begged for her back. Then she just said i was just obsessed with her and il get over it and just cut me off completely. Then it comes out from her roommate she met another guy before she asked me for the break and i was furious and sure enough two days after she dumped me she had a new bf. I flipped out and said all kinds of mean things like ur a horrible cheater how could you do this you just said you loved me a week ago etc. She swears she never cheated which is a load of crap. She didn't even seem to feel guilty and just changed her number and blocked me from everything. It was the most heart breaking confusing thing ever. And the quick change in nature from her was weird. Did I just give her justification for what she did in her mind? And how does she seriously think she did nothing wrong and be so cold after 15 months?

[d0nnivain]

We can't tell you if she's feeling guilty but from the other things you posted I doubt it. She seems to be the flirty girl who enjoys the attention & never wanted to settle down. I'm sorry that you fell under her spell & got hurt in the process.

[fixing]

Tbh, i feel 'NO' is the answer to her feeling guilty. I feel sorry you for as i know what it feels like to be used and cheated on. Happened to me too, 15 months i wasted loving and giving to a woman who turned out to be a cold hearted cheating remorsless whore. It happens. You gotta to be strong now and never call, text or even respond to that girl again. Have some self respect and dignity and go No contact forever. Its good to post here instead of trying to contact her. Good luck

[mikecr50]

Just realize how lucky you are that it was only a ring! She's probably just emotional immature. It's hard to get players out of your head, in the long run you are so much better off, don't look back!

[coffeebean201]

I had dated a girl for 15 months. Long story short I was absolutely perfect to her and she always called me the perfect bf. She wanted to marry me. but she had a real history of lying and always talking to other guys. Always calling her sexy and she flirted back. I caught her talking to her ex two months in. She always said I was over reacting when i said it made me uncomfortable. She lied about meeting certain guys places and when i caught her she would cry and beg for me back then the next day say she didnt even do anything wrong and never cheated bc it is morally wrong. So finally when she went back to school she said everything would be fine and she loved me more then anything. then after a week asked for a break then eventually dumped me via text saying she was having to much fun with her friends of a week and felt she needed to be by herself and i should too. She was acting weird about it all one night saying i love you the next i spoke to soon. I had bought her a diamond promise ring and after she dumped me went to pick it up two hours away from her school to pick it up after being sized. She sent me a picture of it and said she felt dumb and nothing else.I was all over the place emotionally was mad and begged for her back. Then she just said i was just obsessed with her and il get over it and just cut me off completely. Then it comes out from her roommate she met another guy before she asked me for the break and i was furious and sure enough two days after she dumped me she had a new bf. I flipped out and said all kinds of mean things like ur a horrible cheater how could you do this you just said you loved me a week ago etc. She swears she never cheated which is a load of crap. She didn't even seem to feel guilty and just changed her number and blocked me from everything. It was the most heart breaking confusing thing ever. And the quick change in nature from her was weird. Did I just give her justification for what she did in her mind? And how does she seriously think she did nothing wrong and be so cold after 15 months?

 

I bet if you start taking a class or something at night school that will get her interest. if you want to be with someone, you have to keep up with them rather than trying to hold them back. She will only resent you if you try to keep her the same. People grow, change, go to school, etc and if you want to be with someone, you have to be able to grow in the same direction as them. Chances are she isn't in love with the new guy. Focus on you, and maybe you'll get her back, maybe not, but I'm sure some other really great woman will snap you up:) Sorry you've been through this heart-break.

[Oldspiceywolf]

I'm sorry to say but you fell in love with a girl who just liked you and doesn't feel weird about saying she loves you when she doesn't. It's all good and you will be a wreck for a while, maybe a long while. It's hard to become infatuated with someone and not have them return those same feelings to you but like everybody says NC is the only way to go. Delete the pictures, never go to her Facebook and check her out, and when you have those fond memories just remember you had a good time but she didn't love you the same way you loved her and sometimes that happens.

 

From what you described of her she is a professional flirt and likes to date and be free, she's out of your league the way you are now. Clingy dudes come across as gross to girls. If you look at the way little girls act with each other, they usually don't want to be friends with girls who want them as friends. I know how it is wanting to be I a relationship and not play games but you are human bro, you are stuck playing the game.

 

Get your own life going with your own interests and your own friends and when you meet a girl you like make a place for her in your life, don't change your life to fit into a girls, it's the quickest way for them to lose interest and you to get dumped. Good luck buddy we've all been there it's where you go from here that matters most.

[Chi townD]

I would have to say "NO", she doesn't feel guilty. I mean, even when you caught her doing something wrong while you were dating her, she still came back and said that she wasn't doing anything wrong. And that's WHILE you were dating her!

 

So, nah...she doesn't feel guilty because she doesn't feel she did anything wrong. Guarantee you that if you ever talked to her in the future, she would tell you that she never did anything with anyone WHILE YOU TWO WERE TOGETHER. Word for word, dude.

 

So, do yourself a favor and don't be around to hear it.