Yayo Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 I have some of his stuff I need to return. His bathroom rugs, a phone case, and even his credit card. So I'm gonna box it up and leave it at his door when I know he won't be home. Should I leave a letter in the box? I never really ever got to say to him everything I truly felt. The good and the bad. I suppress my emotions. So, this could be the perfect opportunity to get it all out without any consequences. His cell and work numbers are blocked along with his FB. What do you guys think? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 I have some of his stuff I need to return. His bathroom rugs, a phone case, and even his credit card. So I'm gonna box it up and leave it at his door when I know he won't be home. Should I leave a letter in the box? I never really ever got to say to him everything I truly felt. The good and the bad. I suppress my emotions. So, this could be the perfect opportunity to get it all out without any consequences. His cell and work numbers are blocked along with his FB. What do you guys think? How do you know there won't be consquences? What if he shows others your letter? What if he contacts you? You write out what you want to say but not to him. Therapist reasons only. Do not say a word. Your silence* no note * in his returned belongings says much more than words ever would. If you leave a note, his wife could retrieve it and that might open a can of worms, she'll contact you.... He's blocked on all levels, right? So, let it go..Drop the box off (in fact you should get a friend to do it) and never look back. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ByMyself01 Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) I have some of his stuff I need to return. His bathroom rugs, a phone case, and even his credit card. So I'm gonna box it up and leave it at his door when I know he won't be home. Should I leave a letter in the box? I never really ever got to say to him everything I truly felt. The good and the bad. I suppress my emotions. So, this could be the perfect opportunity to get it all out without any consequences. His cell and work numbers are blocked along with his FB. What do you guys think? That's the same thing I was thinking of doing when I return his things, but I'm scared he might show his family and GF and laugh at me. I say don't do it. What's done is done. I had to convince myself too. Edited November 24, 2013 by ByMyself01 Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 Everything sounds replaceable. No family heirlooms or unique items. Box them up, wait three months and discard if he doesn't ask for them. No need to get out of your way for him anymore. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yayo Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 No wife, just a GF of 3 years. She doesnt live with him, but I guess she could easily find it or get to it first idk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yayo Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 That's the same thing I was thinking of doing when I return his things, but I'm scared he might show his family and GF and laugh at me. I say don't do it. What's done is done. I had to convince myself too. So you ultimately decided not to leave the note when you returned his stuff? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yayo Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 Everything sounds replaceable. No family heirlooms or unique items. Box them up, wait three months and discard if he doesn't ask for them. No need to get out of your way for him anymore. His credit card though? Link to post Share on other sites
ByMyself01 Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 So you ultimately decided not to leave the note when you returned his stuff? I didn't return his things yet but when I do, I'm not leaving a note. I'm still waiting on his email to wire the funds for the shipping and he said next week. If he doesn't contact me by Friday, I will contact him first about his things but in hopes of starting a conversation (on his end). Link to post Share on other sites
will-ow Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 I have some of his stuff I need to return. His bathroom rugs, a phone case, and even his credit card. So I'm gonna box it up and leave it at his door when I know he won't be home. Do you need to return this stuff because he's asked you to, because you think its the right thing to do, or because you want rid of it....? If he wants it, then why are you putting yourself out? Just dump the stuff in a box on his doorstep (or better still get a mate to do it for you). If you think you should or you just want it out of your place, I honestly wouldn't bother. Chop the credit card up (if he's got half a brain he will have cancelled it by now anyway) and throw everything away. Whatever you decide to do, my advice would be don't leave a note - NC is NC is NC. ((hugs)) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yayo Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 Do you need to return this stuff because he's asked you to, because you think its the right thing to do, or because you want rid of it....? If he wants it, then why are you putting yourself out? Just dump the stuff in a box on his doorstep (or better still get a mate to do it for you). If you think you should or you just want it out of your place, I honestly wouldn't bother. Chop the credit card up (if he's got half a brain he will have cancelled it by now anyway) and throw everything away. Whatever you decide to do, my advice would be don't leave a note - NC is NC is NC. ((hugs)) Yeah its mostly because i feel like i should return it. Thanks for your advice. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 Return the stuff. Don't leave a note. he'll know who it's from. Write the letter fi you like but don't send it to him. It won't change anything. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 whoops double post Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 1-800- hey I lost my credit card I need you issue a new one. Think about it he might get a new one anyway out of fear that you'll go crazy shopping online with his cc info. Link to post Share on other sites
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