Too many barriers.

[NGC1300]

I'm not conceited, but I know I'm a good-looking guy. My experience tells me this. I catch girls looking sometimes, and I do have girls initiate contact on OLD sites.

 

I'm also serious about the gym, and honestly know I have a "better" body than most guys. Better meaning lean and muscular, but of course not all women will be attracted to that.

 

Anyway, you would think I have it made, but I haven't had a GF in 10 years!!!! The most I had during all of my 20's was a one-nighter, a fling with a married woman, and I dated a girl last year for about 3 weeks. I'm now 29 and have only been with 4 women, and the dry spells have been YEARS in length.

 

I feel I can't get girls because I have no social life, and act awkward socially. I feel my job isn't good enough, and that I don't have enough status. I live on my own, pay my own way etc, but I don't have a prestigious career and never went to college.

 

It just seems like to get QUALITY women you have to literally have it all. The barriers seems too numerous to overcome.

 

Anyone else suffer from feeling like they just can't measure up no matter what?

[Kansas87]

You could be seriously psyching yourself out. Do you approach women? How do you do so? What are you standards for a "quality" woman? Are they realistic?

 

Sometimes just putting out a self-defeating "vibe" can do a lot of damage.

 

I would look first at your approach to dating. What do you say to talk to a woman? Do you meet women you're interested in at all? Are you too shy/awkward to talk to them? Or are you just not meeting anyone that interests you period?

[GeorgesIsntAtHome]

I'm not conceited, but I know I'm a good-looking guy. My experience tells me this. I catch girls looking sometimes, and I do have girls initiate contact on OLD sites.

 

I'm also serious about the gym, and honestly know I have a "better" body than most guys. Better meaning lean and muscular, but of course not all women will be attracted to that.

 

Anyway, you would think I have it made, but I haven't had a GF in 10 years!!!! The most I had during all of my 20's was a one-nighter, a fling with a married woman, and I dated a girl last year for about 3 weeks. I'm now 29 and have only been with 4 women, and the dry spells have been YEARS in length.

 

I feel I can't get girls because I have no social life, and act awkward socially. I feel my job isn't good enough, and that I don't have enough status. I live on my own, pay my own way etc, but I don't have a prestigious career and never went to college.

 

It just seems like to get QUALITY women you have to literally have it all. The barriers seems too numerous to overcome.

 

Anyone else suffer from feeling like they just can't measure up no matter what?

 

funny you should post this, I just recently posted something about validation, and I think that this is what you're after also.. In fact, I recopgnize myself in your description a lot, I assume that you must have low self-esteem and are looking for other to validate what you THINK you are worth, because you doubt...

 

you need to stop that and fill the void that is inside you with self-reinforcement, believe in what you'Re worth, you think you're good-looking but you need someone to confirm, probably over and over, just believe that you are, all the physical aspects you escribed, and also remember that looks isnt everything, if you're not happy with yourself, it shows, women can feel it, this may be what held you down. Get the attitude, the rest will flow, this is also why ugly people with a big mouth still get laid, lol... it's all about confidence